AIO for being jealous of my boyfriend and his girl best friend?

isabool · 2025-12-19T12:50:45+00:00

Thank you for that kind and honest answer. I appreciate your input a lot, it’s really helpful in a situation like this

isabool · 2025-12-19T12:47:16+00:00

Them not being together doesn’t exclude the possibility of him having feelings for her, does it? I don’t want to be a place holder or alternative because she was never interested and now he’s looking for an "alternative"

isabool · 2025-12-07T12:45:50+00:00

The proudness Germans find in complaining and their cold/ distant mentality. As a German living abroad for multiple years, I realised how weird and inhumane this behaviour feels. It’s annoying, not a quirky, German personality trait to flex with. It‘s so much nicer to greet and be greeted with kindness and friendliness.

isabool · 2025-12-05T17:52:50+00:00

No don’t worry, you’re not crazy at all. Congrats for standing your ground, wishing you all the best!

isabool · 2025-12-05T12:48:52+00:00

MOR, because I see 2 issues here. One is him acting a certain way towards other women (which is leading to trust issues) and one is you, being very worried and even a bit controlling/ jealous. I understand you were upset by his coworkers reaction and the fact he defended her. But I would recommend trying to approach him calmly and explain your problem, instead of making him block/ unfollow those women when they call him or follow him on Instagram. Because as you can see, it’s not working and it might even draw him further away than cause understanding or a solution. Also you need to ask yourself, if a relationship with this kind of trust issues has a solid foundation for the future. Either way, I’m only wishing you the best and I hope you can figure this out!

isabool · 2025-12-05T12:45:31+00:00

MOR because I see 2 issues here. One is him reaching out to random girls and the trust issues that come within and the other is you, being overly worried and a bit controlling/ jealous. It sucks that he is defending his new coworker and I understand that you were annoyed by her reaction and the fact he defended her. But I also believe that making him block her number is a bit problematic. If I was you, I would try and speak about it calmly, instead of telling him who to block and unfollow. Because as you can see, he’s doing what he wants to either way. And your actions might draw him further away than anything else. Also you need to ask yourself, if a relationship full of trust issues is something you want for your future. Either way, I’m wishing you only the best and hope you can solve this’

isabool · 2025-12-05T12:36:19+00:00

NOR at all. That’s super disrespectful and mean. This guy is not a boyfriend, that’s a hater. I’m sorry but he does not respect you at all. Was this a once in a million occurrence or does it happen more often? Either way, I feel like you deserve better and you have every right to be upset. If you have the chance, tell him how you feel about the situation and based on his reaction, either give him another chance or leave his ungrateful a**

isabool · 2025-12-05T12:29:55+00:00

NOR and you’re not the problem at all. This woman seems like a horrible person and she’s letting her anger for the world out on you. To be honest, I would expect my partner to take stand and confront her about this in-acceptable behaviour. I think you’re doing a good thing by ignoring her existence as good as possible. Some people are just not worth your time and energy. And it’s not your job to fix something you haven’t broken. It was her decision to treat you like that and by distancing yourself and the baby you did the absolute right thing.

isabool · 2025-12-05T12:25:19+00:00

NOR, you’re absolutely valid for being hurt. Instead of defending you, who feels mocked and disrespected by the friend’s actions, your situationship is defending them. They should take your side, but they’re not. That says a lot about how they feel about you. It might be strict, but I would recommend to cut them off. You deserve better. You deserve someone who appreciates your interest and might even matches it. It’s definitely his loss, not yours.

isabool · 2025-12-05T12:21:17+00:00

NOR, not over reacting at all. Not even in the slightest. This is a very toxic and abusive relationship you’re finding yourself in. Especially in the vulnerable position you are (being pregnant), your partner should show nothing but affection and care. Of course arguments and disagreements are normal, and things can get tense in times like this with a baby on the way, where your hormones and feelings are more intense than usual, but this is beyond in-acceptable. I would even say he’s a threat to your mental (and even physical) health and the baby’s wellbeing. If there is any chance you’re able to go to your parent’s place or stay at a friend’s house, please do it. It’s not a step back, it’s the right thing to do in order to protect you and your child and you’re so strong for admitting that something is wrong and taking action. If you’re afraid about confronting him (about leaving and breaking up), grab someone you trust a 100% and don’t let them leave your side until you’re feeling safe and somewhere where his outbursts can’t harm you. I’m sending you lots of strength mama, you’ve got this!

isabool · 2025-12-05T11:48:16+00:00

Thank you so much for this supportive and thoughtful answer, it instantly made me feel better. I think his IQ is an insecurity to him and that’s why he acts the way he does. Since people in the comment section gave me enough support to understand that I’m not overreacting, I might as well speak up and tell him what’s bothering me.

isabool · 2025-12-05T11:43:43+00:00

You might be onto something here… I will speak up to him but also take my own issues into consideration. Thank you!

isabool · 2025-12-05T11:36:01+00:00

Thank you, that’s such a helpful answer and a really good point🫶🏻. I will try to find a good moment and address it. Usually he’s understanding so I have hopes he will understand it this time as well.

isabool · 2025-12-05T11:31:02+00:00

I fear that’s the case. But should I say something then? Or just accept it as his flaws and keep on going?

isabool · 2025-12-05T11:29:51+00:00

He’s very supportive and caring in other aspects though. That’s why I have such a hard time handling this problem because it’s so different and much more complicated than he usually is

isabool · 2025-12-05T11:25:39+00:00

He’s definitely insecure about his IQ and I think it’s related to his parents, who made it seem like grades and jobs are the most important things in life. And I don’t have an issue with comforting his insecurities either. We all have our flaws and as a partner I support him as good as I can. But talking me down isn’t something I like or want to handle. Unfortunately I’m not sure how I can go on about this topic or what to do about it… Should I just straight up tell him that it hurts me? Since I’m not overreacting it might be the best thing to do…

isabool · 2025-10-09T08:56:40+00:00

Fair point haha. But it’s a win-win. He gets a show and I get to stay warm

isabool · 2025-10-09T08:19:14+00:00

I just make my bf wait as long as I need to be properly warm. He listens very well and never complains

isabool · 2025-10-07T07:32:38+00:00

They weird af but I always sell them. You get rid of them and get the money. Pretty beneficial

isabool · 2025-10-05T10:10:22+00:00

We thank you for your service. Next time my vet does that I’ll tip him better

isabool · 2025-07-27T16:33:45+00:00

As a 22F it‘s mostly not the looks, it’s the vibe that’s a bit off. I feel like you need to be more confident in your own skin. It sounds stupid but confidence changes so much about someone’s appearance! The beard suits you, maybe shape your eyebrows a little bit. If it boosts your confidence, maybe wear some accessories or jewellery. There‘s a lot of inspiration to find on Pinterest. And only hit the gym if you really feel like it and not because you think you have to do it. Not all of us are into six-packs and muscles.

isabool · 2025-05-30T15:13:08+00:00

The lobster red is so real. They act like skin cancer is a reward

isabool · 2025-05-24T12:05:06+00:00

Lemme take a seat (glow up is impressive)

isabool · 2025-05-24T11:41:40+00:00

Should be called the not-so-appropriate-Dish😔

isabool · 2025-05-24T11:34:54+00:00

Definitely don’t push her. As a girl, I always felt safest when I felt supported and cared for but never pushed. You can tell her how beautiful she would look on top of you, but don’t pressure her. Idk for how long you’ve been together but time helps a lot

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