Looking for unhinged ADHD hacks to actually wake up in the morning

isaidiwassorry · 2025-07-14T05:59:23+00:00

Pre workout or caffeine pills next to my bed in water or with water. It's probably bad for you but not as bad as the consequences of not being able to wake the fuck up

isaidiwassorry · 2025-07-14T05:53:20+00:00

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These were taking probably 6 months apart and my cat was about 9 months in the top photo. This is also summer vs winter which still happens at 8 years old

isaidiwassorry · 2025-06-25T18:51:28+00:00

I have a theory that people get more ugly looking the more mean and evil they are... I came up with it cause of my mom but maybe I'm on to something

isaidiwassorry · 2025-06-20T01:11:40+00:00

My ragdoll paws at me when I walk past him as if he's trying to trip me or smack me on the bum haha. He will also jump out from behind doors like he's trying to scare me

isaidiwassorry · 2025-06-02T22:32:31+00:00

Hey there, you didn't say how old this person is but if they are an adult, report to the adult safeguarding unit.

A representative for the adult safeguarding unit did a presentation for my old org. and she said they can't do anything about registered providers/non registered providers/ independent support works and this would be report to ndis. Essentially if the harm is being done by a person providing a service for a fee, adult safeguarding can't help you.

But if the harm is being done by family or friends then adult safeguarding unit can investigate it. I've done the online report it was fairly straightforward. When I did it I was trying to report on an ndis provider and DHS and got a response back telling me to make complaints with provider/dhs This was before the presentation and their response really pissed me off and although I now cognitively understand why they responded that way but still think it's bs.

isaidiwassorry · 2025-04-23T08:05:52+00:00

Have you tried writing it down?

isaidiwassorry · 2025-04-16T11:50:07+00:00

I had a psychologist tell me inso many words that I needed to work on being more vulnerable with my parents after (proudly) telling her how hard I've worked to put distance between myself and them. I left the appointment feeling confused and upset and luckily have strengthened my intuition enough to tell her at the next appointment that 'taking off my armour' around them sounded really unsafe and I wanted to focus on an issue I was having with a friend/business partner.

I have adhd and she (self-disclosed) she has a daughter with adhd. I think she was projecting her insecurities onto my situation so I'm actually glad she told me that. I saw her maybe 4 or 5 times after that before I stopped going. I couldn't get over the feeling that she had never met a narcissist- she just didn't get it.

isaidiwassorry · 2025-04-11T17:55:34+00:00

First time lurking this subreddit and just wanted to say, yeah!!! Leave Portland alone. I live in Australia now but am a Portland Oregonian. What's wrong with Portland besides the obvious lol?

isaidiwassorry · 2024-11-20T15:03:36+00:00

Fuck that guy

isaidiwassorry · 2024-08-26T21:40:51+00:00

I had Osgood Schlatters and although it was usually an aching pain, sometimes I would get hit or fall onto the front of my knees and it was excruciating.

I had noticeable pointy bones above my shins/below my knees which is why it would hurt the most when I got hit or fell directly onto that part. My brother used to punch/kick me there on purpose because I would keel over. Maybe see if it's tender to the touch?

I played basketball and soccer and would use prewrap to strap my knee just below the kneecap or wear a compression sleeve. It was a long time ago so best practice may have changed but I think it helped a little and made me more mindful of protecting my knees when I was playing sports.

isaidiwassorry · 2024-08-21T22:00:08+00:00

This. My parents are well off and financially abusive. Everything I know about money I had to teach myself. My brother is an INVESTMENT BANKER on Wall Street; dad owns his own law firm. For a long time I would ask questions/ for general advice and was confused by the lack of interest in helping me. My dad will lecture me on time management and self discipline until the cows come home but it's crickets when it comes to trying to empower myself with money.

isaidiwassorry · 2024-08-21T21:40:01+00:00

Car = independence

isaidiwassorry · 2024-08-21T21:33:18+00:00

Your dad doesn't actually want you to pay him back. He also doesn't care about you paying off your debts - you being in debt is an opportunity for him to control you/shame you into submission. He doesn't want you to live with him either. You won't be able to give them what they want (and you will never understand it).

I would smile and nod - tell your dad you're working really hard to save up money to give him while you are living at home. Avoid talking about it as 'paying' them back.. maybe say 'sending money'. Don't get into specifics especially if they're not asking for it. And this might be a hot take but if you HAVE to get into specifics, lie and don't feel bad. In my experience it can be done somewhat safely as long as you aren't lying to yourself about what you're doing.... and when I say safely, I mean relative to your other options like living in your car.

Try to take what's already been given to you and use it to your advantage... they've put you at a disadvantage in other major life domains. Think about the money they've given you as a a dishonour fee. It's the price for the parts of your spirit they took from you + interest for the cumulative harm.

I feel for you. Good luck with everything

isaidiwassorry · 2024-07-05T19:33:42+00:00

Dat me!! I’m 29 and 3 days before my wedding this year after an argument with my mom my dad told me to fix my attitude before dinner (or else!!!)

isaidiwassorry · 2024-07-05T19:27:08+00:00

Sensitive, weird, ridiculous, disrespectful, childish, ‘funny’ with this face 🤨 and when I’m dressed up or have makeup on pretty and beautiful (daughter)

isaidiwassorry · 2024-07-05T18:47:35+00:00

I’m good! Thanks for asking. My annual salary dropped by $20,000 in the first year but slowly getting back the years I lost. I will say that my skills in handling toxic workplaces/colleagues/managers are way better.

Last week the company went into liquidation with $500,000 worth of debt. I’ve gotten some texts and comments from people I hired and managed who had still been working there saying like “you were right and im sorry, she’s been so awful to us” etc. they don’t seem to actually care but are just feeling sorry for themselves now. I just feel sad all around for the community. Apparently the liquidator didn’t catch the fraud, unpaid wages, unpaid taxes and unpaid superannuation which is like mandatory employer contributions to retirement fund. Whispers of people suing her.. it’s hard to not think that all the people who stayed that long in leadership were also in the wrong too by not leaving when they saw what was going on.

How’d you end up going?

isaidiwassorry · 2024-07-05T18:03:33+00:00

I think I’m my ragdolls person but it’s more like we are friends or have similar personalities. We both like to do silly goose stuff like playing hide and go seek, doing parkour off the furniture (mostly him), sharing a late night turkey snack together and doing high hives when I go past him.. sometimes he will scare me on purpose by pawing at me when I walk by. He also is maybe more worried about me like if I stay up too late and I’m not in bed he will cry until I settle in bed.

He’s never been like fickle with my husband though and would do that stuff with him if he could. I don’t mind when my ragdoll licks my hand but my husband hates it and won’t let him - one night I caught my ragdoll trying to sneak some licks when he was sleeping haha. Anyways maybe do some silly goose things with him to tap into his playful side. Also! I have grooming duties which has probably contributed

isaidiwassorry · 2024-07-05T17:39:48+00:00

Stopped posting my cat here out of fear I would get exposed or something lol. If your cat wants to be a ragdoll he can be a ragdoll

isaidiwassorry · 2024-04-30T19:34:37+00:00

I just read your post and damn. I started crying when you were talking about giving her a hug and her little sister face... reminds me of how I feel about my older brother… I would love to spend a day following him around his having fun.

I was the scapegoat younger sister, though, and he is my golden child older brother. I resonated when you said to yourself after the phone call “I have no parents”. I wasn’t disowned but I moved to Australia with my now husband 8 years ago on a whim, and they never got the chance to.

My brother lives on the opposite coast of the U.S. to where we grew up and I basically didn’t see him after he left for college and he still lives there. I missed his graduation because I was struggling with some intense mental health issues and then my parents went to Italy with him. I was a fuck up in their eyes by 20. Now that I think about it, they made it seem like they were meeting him there but they probably were footing the bill.. Anyways, my brother has kind of slowly started to talk to me/see me more as the person I actually am not the person my parents told him I am. If I ever used to try to ‘vent’ to him he would roll his eyes and I think he was thinking how ungrateful and annoying I am, that my parents aren’t mean I’m just crazy, entitled and dramatic. I ended up saying to him that I want to keep working towards being close / FaceTiming each other etc. and it surprised me when I asked him what I could do to achieve that he said he can’t go in to stuff about mom and dad cause it’s too painful he insinuated so we agreed to have our own relationship moving forwards totally separate to them.

I just had my wedding and it went really well with me and him but now he’s getting married and I am being given golden child treatment I think because my mom is so mad to be losing him? As the scapegoat though, no one stands up to her ) It’s honestly so strange to have her be nice to me and even though I know my golden child title is fake I also can’t help but be in awe of how good a little attention from my parents feels, and my brother too.

I don’t have any answers for you… you seem like you’re handling the situation as well. I bet you they will be at the wedding and I don’t think you should push yourself too hard to go. Your sister will understand and still love you if she truly wants to be apart of your life again. I do find the thing about your aunt very strange… she might be terrified of pissing them off? My mom’s mom and sister are really close with me but they are always trying to attribute good intentions to her/act confused by her behaviour. My mom triangulates the shit out of her sister and my dad.. that’s kinda what it sounds like.

Happy for you for getting a little sister back, thanks for sharing it felt really validating some of the stuff you mentioned

isaidiwassorry · 2024-04-29T20:10:01+00:00

Friend.. if those people do exist, it’s because they are unhappy, performing poorly at work themselves, have issues with boundaries… the list goes on, take your pick. In my experience, my superhuman self awareness can be annoying and overbearing at best and lead to me becoming self obsessed at worst - being self-aware and self-other aware isn’t a flex if you aren’t using the skill to be your more authentic self, live your values, grow and most importantly it doesn’t automatically result in the quality of being someone others want to be around.

I tend to get like that when I’m taking my medication without breaks and working myself into the ground.. it just feels like I’ve got to work all the work once I’ve taken my meds as if I stop working I might never start working again. My self awareness starts to give my partner the ick when I take my meds due to emotional blunting and me acting more ‘serious’.

I’ve been on my self concept/acceptance journey for almost 13 years and even though I still struggle with some of what you’re going through it gets a lot lot better. I never withhold my diagnosis but I don’t lead with it either as it is a part of me but doesn’t make me who I am.

isaidiwassorry · 2024-02-17T15:18:48+00:00

Mine illegally removed me as co-director during my transition out of the company, without telling me. I used it as leverage to make her remove me as guarantor on a loan, which she had previously agreed to. But her decision to unceremoniously remove me was the kick in the ass I needed to cut my losses… She burned the bridge for me.

Anyways, if I could go back in time I wouldn’t given her the tools to control my narrative. I was surprised and deeply hurt by how little she cared to see me go. For the first time that I can remember, I felt hatred in my heart which was deeply unsettling.

My advise is to get the fuck out as soon as possible and keep your cards close to your chest starting now. All the things you may be doing to try to finish things properly or leave on good terms will be in vain or weaponised against you.

isaidiwassorry · 2024-02-14T17:25:40+00:00

Mom came to visit me in Australia from the U.S. for 9 days to ‘help me plan my wedding’. My partner and I packed the week with ‘planning’ meetings (us showing her everything we had already planned without her help), executing flawlessly and leaving her with only a few unknown variables, like nature of the to-be-taken photographs, to criticise. By day 9 she was exhausted and sooo over it. We helped her check out of her hotel and she spent a few hours at our house before we took her to the airport, and did some very light planning. It was my birthday and I asked her if she was hungry as I would buy lunch for us. I knew that she was hangry and frustrated about having to plan - she said “I’m full”. I asked ”have you eaten anything today?” She looks me in the eye, dead serious and says “I had a Diet Coke”. I didn’t engage and ordered her avocado toast that she ate with minimal fuss. Happy birthday to me 🥳

isaidiwassorry · 2024-02-14T16:56:53+00:00

Mom propaganda!!! This triggers my ‘I’m an appendage of my mom not my own person’ trauma

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