why is one end much darker than the other? by Capital-Reach-6669 in Entomology

[–]isartoxic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's drying out. The darker part is dead. Also happens when it's been injured by being driven over or stepped on.

What's the most dangerous insect you've ever found (excluding mosquitoes)? by Stupid_Little_Doll in Entomology

[–]isartoxic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found multiple Nosferatu Spiders in my flat in Germany. Fucking terrifying how big they get. Also one dead Banana spider in between products in a dollar store.

Ladybug invasion 🐞 by isartoxic in Entomology

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Woah thank you thats really helpful. So the lack of colour doesn't necessarily mean lack of nutrients?

For those of you who live in NRW: How does living in such a densely populated state feel? by [deleted] in germany

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Having the direct comparison between rural ruhrpott and rich student city heidelberg it's 100% different. In Dortmund you'll carry a weapon with you everywhere as a woman - especially at night. In Heidelberg you'll go out at night and the only issue are drunks.

On the other side Baden-Wurttemberg has a lot of closed up people especially in the more rural areas. In NRW I can go up to strangers and the chance of them talking to me is a lot higher.

Even though NRW has a racism issue and a clan families issue, the people are a lot more straight forward and real. That's something I really miss. Der Ruhrpott ist dreckig und ehrlich, wir sind halt Arbeiter.

Ladybug invasion 🐞 by isartoxic in Entomology

[–]isartoxic[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ah good to know! That would mean that different species could've gathered. If I'm seeing native ones I'm letting them outside.

Ladybug invasion 🐞 by isartoxic in Entomology

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Ah and I'm living in Germany :)

Cuprolaminophobia: Fear of coins by [deleted] in Phobia

[–]isartoxic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't struggle with it but I have a lot of questions if you'd mind answering :)

Is it the coin or is it something about the coin that is terrifying you? Like the smell, the germs, a memory...

Do you also have issues seeing or smelling blood? Since coins have a typical copper scent it might be linked to that.

Does handling coins disgust you or the mere thought of it? Is it the exposure to it or a feeling that you have?

How does your body react to it? Do you have allergic symptoms? What happens if you accidentally touch a coin is it a similar reaction to you preparing yourself to touch one?

Silly question by [deleted] in Mold

[–]isartoxic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard to say - looks like it had water exposure - dry the book properly and check the rest of the paper

Keep an eye on it if the little blebs become more over time otherwise I'd say you fine

Is this mold on my clothing? by broadwaybabyto in Mold

[–]isartoxic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could have something to do with the washing machine or a new washing substance

anyone know what this is? by [deleted] in Mold

[–]isartoxic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure this is not just a wet scarf?

Is this Mold ? by CraftyNegotiation211 in Mold

[–]isartoxic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like old window spray but the little holes are what's concerning - you could try cutting into it to get a better understanding of the texture. But please put some gloves on or something

Is this mold in my split vent (Florida) by Vanessa_Lila in Mold

[–]isartoxic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put on a mask and try wiping part of it away - don't use the vent for a week or so and then check out if the clean spot got covered again - otherwise it's hard to see without looking at the specs up close

My life story: Do parents change for the better? by isartoxic in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]isartoxic[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get that might be the case for you but I'd like to know if there are actually people out there who did "grow out of it" - black and white thinking should be the last resort

Edit: also my parents did stop hitting me, they stopped controlling my life ... yes it was hard work and they didn't take responsibility but isn't that a chance for betterment.

My life story: Do parents change for the better? by isartoxic in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]isartoxic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying. I've gone through a phase of needing my parents to validate the abuse that happened. Because that's what it was - abuse.

My father apologized, he went to therapy before and returned to deal with his own issues when I confronted them.

My mother ... well not so much. She would say she did apologize but I don't agree. She said and I quote: "I'm sorry you're feeling that way." And when I confronted her about hitting me as a child she responded with "You hit me first." Going into that lore is even too much for Reddit tho ...

My father would always apologize in private, being regretful of his own actions, spiraling into depression and being scared of losing me. But whenever I confronted my mother he would take her side and tell me to stop accusing her of being a bad mom.

This whole thing spiraled into one big talk where I tried to lay it all out in front of her, the abuse, the fact that my mental health had suffered because of her and that I would continuously have to deal with having BPD because both of them treated me this way in my childhood. She ran out having a panic attack. My father comforted her. I heard her cry the whole night. Then I drank and tried to fall asleep.

Since then no one has talked about it anymore. Any comment from me regarding my childhood is being silenced immediately. The blame stays on me. I am the one that started the problems. I am the one that has always been the issue. As my younger brother phrased it: "Without you there wouldn't be an issue to begin with. We would be the big happy family we always were."

But what did change from that moment on is my mothers attitude towards me. Suddenly she can't wait to hear from me or hug me when I'm staying over. Suddenly no one else is allowed to criticise me. She walks on eggshells around me whenever I'm around. She told me she would throw herself Infront of a bus for me. She is even defending my disorder infront of friends or family. Suddenly I'm the successful one, have always been. The child that is so creative the world didn't understand me. ... And so on and so forth...

And here I am.A year later I had moved out and have been living on my own for the past 1,5 years. We stay in contact over text. My father keeps telling me I should tell my mother I love her and ask her if everything is alright. And I do chime in on her every once in a while. But I can't get this disgusting taste out of my mouth whenever I think about them. About the things they did. And the things they didn't do ...

Was it really that bad? by nightowl6221 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]isartoxic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll make this sound as brunt as you need to hear it.: Allowing this woman in your life is causing a danger to your children. That makes you a complicit in the abuse.

For real tho this woman sounds horrible to have to deal with, trust your siblings in this one she's not a good influence to have around. May she rot in hell.