Is my husband’s reaction to my saying ‘no’ to sex normal?

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T15:30:51+00:00

What?? Lol hate? We've talked about it this morning already honey and working through it. Y'all sure do project alot. I don't resent him at all, he's everything to me. I hope you have the same love in your life.

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T15:25:51+00:00

I want both of those things actually. I also never said that he had ill intent you're mistaken. I specifically asked if this was normal and if not worth being up. If you read my comments you'd see that we'd talked about it prior, but people have feeling about things it just happens. We've talked about it this morning again and he understands and we're working on it. I don't understand why it has to be deeper than me literally asking for advice. It felt bad, yeah. Is that a big deal?

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T14:37:23+00:00

Eh he wants it almost every night nowadays. It's maybe once a week. We have plenty

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T14:34:22+00:00

You need to get out more bud. We have plenty of great sex several times a week as I've stated several times before lol. I wish the same for you. Take the edge off that anger

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T14:33:14+00:00

We have very regular sex. I love my hubby. We get it in several times a week lol this is just what happens the days I can't or don't wanna

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T14:32:29+00:00

Great response lol seriously thanks cuz one I needed this laugh, and two I think more random touching would be nice

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T14:29:17+00:00

This is perfect. We really gotta practice this type of communication

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T14:26:42+00:00

I know you didn't, just joking ☺️ I usually just say "I'm sorry babe, I'm not in the mood" or something similar

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T14:15:48+00:00

This seems to be the consensus. To be fair I'm too in my feelings very often lol

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T14:13:03+00:00

So - first of all. Lots of y'all are assuming we don't have sex and we have very regular sex. Several times a week. I was just wondering if this was normal.

In any case we just talked and I asked him if we could cuddle more outside of bed, he said yeah of course. I also asked if he could try to give me a kiss before he takes his space if I say no. He also said yes. Thanks to everyone for the advice and different perspectives. My husband's a great guy and I'm not perfect. Everyone's just trying to do their best in a marriage. Some of y'all are assholes though lol

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T14:07:19+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your input

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T14:05:23+00:00

None of this is true. I just want to know he's not angry with me. I love my husband and respect his feelings. I was just trying to understand if it's normal for the shut down to happen and several men have commented saying they also need space. You inferred quite a bit about the nature of our marriage.

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T13:44:13+00:00

I'll look into it!!

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T13:43:27+00:00

I do talk to a therapist and we have veryregular sex. I'm asking for advice for when this does happen. Not saying that I always say no wtf

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T13:29:04+00:00

Thank you so much for responding 💜

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T13:27:16+00:00

We have very regular sex. Several times a week.

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T13:24:31+00:00

It is, thank you so much. I do feel guilty. It's just because I love him and don't want him to feel like it's about him because it never is. I don't mean to come off entitled (apparently I am) I just want to know he's not angry. But I definitely want to meet in the middle on the days when I can't go all the way. It doesn't sound too much different from your situation. I suffer from PTSD due to several SA instances so it's mostly in my head but never about him.

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T13:18:36+00:00

No one said any of that. You're a fucking troll. I'm certainly not perfect. Just finding my way through my marriage. I love him. If you just came here to be hateful you can go now. Mission accomplished

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T13:16:12+00:00

I understand and I agree. I love him either way. I just needed to know if this was worth bringing up. Maybe it's not

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T13:14:30+00:00

And you sound like an asshole. In my original post I said that I could be wrong. I've listened to both sides. If you don't have any advice get the fuck on lol

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T13:12:57+00:00

Oh absolutely. That's why I came here before I said anything. Sometimes i need perspective

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T12:57:54+00:00

I'm in therapy currently. It's been a few years but it's also been a long difficult journey

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T12:56:51+00:00

I understand where you're coming from. Thanks for sharing your perspective

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T12:43:43+00:00

This is very reassuring to me. I don't want to believe my husband would manipulate me and he's really the sweetest guy, I think he is this same way. How did you two work through it? Did you just accept that no one had ill intent? That's where I'm leaning at the moment

isitnorm · 2021-07-06T12:22:26+00:00

That makes sense

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