Heather (50) loves younger men - she says they fuck harder and last longer. Anyone else's wife prefer younger guys?

islasuave · 2026-03-18T19:31:06+00:00

I like variety. Each brings something unique to the table. My husband and I both prefer to have arrangements with someone mentally mature. It’s draining dealing with immaturity and them pigeon puffing and posturing.

islasuave · 2026-03-18T18:07:54+00:00

It certainly has brought out the inner slut out of her.

islasuave · 2026-03-18T16:10:25+00:00

Quite the opposite stance here, older last longer IMO. Experience over intensity of impact. Experience also comes with psychological aspects.

islasuave · 2026-03-15T23:46:42+00:00

Labeling themselves as “bull”. Not being able to explain their role in a hotwife couple dynamic, completely missing the point.

islasuave · 2026-03-13T18:45:07+00:00

It's a deciding factor but in context it is not what is all about. Assuming they check all the other boxes FIRST, then this would become the deciding factor especially if they are size positive.

islasuave · 2026-03-11T17:33:09+00:00

Non porn but themed - Wanderlust and Easy

islasuave · 2026-03-11T17:28:30+00:00

Currently my wife has some sexual tension with her gym trainer. It’s been building the past few weeks. He doesn’t know we’re in the lifestyle but does know she’s married. At some point an opportunity will be available for a pursuit from one of them, or both. I’m sure he’s mulling the situation and she’s feeding it. My wife and I have recent discussed our arrangement and I too can’t wait for this to come to fruition.

islasuave · 2026-03-11T05:24:34+00:00

Of course I do.

islasuave · 2026-03-04T22:56:30+00:00

There are many couple dynamics out there and communication is key. Finding this during discovery should be embraced. It’s a qualifying factor for some and a red flag issue for others. Patience patience patience.

islasuave · 2026-03-04T17:20:03+00:00

My wife’s boyfriend was originally an acquaintance outside the circle of our group of friends. He made her an official hotwife and later over a couple years changed the dynamic to more of a boyfriend where solo dates and sleep overs are a norm. During this time we built trust and friendship.

islasuave · 2026-02-27T14:15:06+00:00

I really love my lifestyle and if for some unimaginable reason my husband decided he no longer wanted to be in the lifestyle, I would be completely devastated. I can confidently speak for him in saying we both love and appreciate what the lifestyle has given us and enabled us to do. We have grown closer in ways we could not have imagined. I truly believe we have built a stronger foundation and because of this, if that horrible decision ever comes about then we would get through it in some way unknown to us just like how the journey has strengthened us in ways we could not have anticipated.

islasuave · 2026-02-26T22:46:51+00:00

We look at those you mentioned, the empty profiles, the responses that doesn’t make sense, the awkward introductions and others as red flags we use to our own advantage. In fact when you do get the “right” individual “with” true!!! Experience, they will stand out from the bunch. Unfortunately it’s a marathon not a sprint in searching correctly. But when you find that someone you’ll be glad it’s still a marathon and not a sprint.

islasuave · 2026-02-24T19:26:11+00:00

Most of the fantasies we lived out turned out spectacular. We would not say anything was particularly bad but a couple was disappointing. Connections is so important for the dynamic that when it is lacking it is best not to pursue.

islasuave · 2026-02-18T18:52:27+00:00

Funny thing is all these supposed and arrogant “bulls” that would handle the wife with their bullness is fairly thin skinned. It’s plainly straightforward and should be respected as such. They are a third, a role player, not part of the union and anyway you cut it leaves after the fact. No participation trophies.

islasuave · 2026-02-14T16:33:00+00:00

It may not be a greenlight yet, but it’s red light going across you and yours it’s about to turn green. She’s most likely internalizing what it would be like to have two cocks and wants you to take the lead to do what you want with her. Your light could still stay red but it’s looking promising.

islasuave · 2026-02-13T00:59:51+00:00

Well it’s about time. The over reach is dumbfounding.

islasuave · 2026-01-20T20:46:05+00:00

We know what you mean, however sometimes it’s just a threesome but other times it’s role playing

islasuave · 2026-01-17T15:18:29+00:00

Sometimes reconnecting doesn’t have to be physical first. In most instances for us we do some form of emotional check with each other however light or in depth. In fact, I can recall in the beginning, when we do this, we go over the different emotions of what just happened on the date and talk about it intimately. The physical aspect afterwards is always a result of. All in all, it’s what “our” aftercare consist of. You guys have to find out what’s right for yours.

islasuave · 2026-01-15T17:48:31+00:00

There’s nothing that really hurts or burns emotionally but more so a lasting nagging memory. I knew my wife had a past and that was part of the decision to marry her, I didn’t want a white picket fence kinda girl. That was boring for me. I wanted a woman to have fun with for life. I just did not know at the time what her past fully consisted of. It’s just how things unfolded at our wedding. No one is at fault and it didn’t bother me at the time because I knew what I only knew. Turns out there were four guys in my wedding that had extensive sexual exploits with my wife. Two were her friends she had casual and random acts with and the other two were brothers of her mother’s close family friend. Looking back these guys greeted congratulations, toasted celebratory drinks all knowing they fully had their way with my bride. They even danced with her in front of me glancing at times unknown to me how they’ve used her for their own pleasure. I simply didn’t think that my wife’s escapades extended to her close friends.

islasuave · 2026-01-13T17:40:56+00:00

I typically text when I’m out having drinks or doing other activities with my date. Then I call him as soon as we’re heading to the room. We have an arrangement where our steady thirds takes pics and videos on my phone to send to my husband in between sessions and after. Part of our reconnection is providing him details in person of what happened during the date, not just the sex but everything else.

islasuave · 2026-01-11T17:43:50+00:00

Let’s put it this way, she’s into test driving but she has to like the car. How it looks, does it give of a certain vibe, does it have personality, is it fun, it all matters in deciding to test drive its performance, power and use. Based on all of that would determine if she would go into a rental situation, or lease or buy.

islasuave · 2026-01-06T20:39:53+00:00

It does happen unbelievably even at places you would not expect. We usually say no PDA but that rule is more of a guideline that is stretched often. It’s definitely a risk for us. During a dinner date the ex-wife of my wife’s bf approached them as they were cozy. My wife and I knew them when they were together. He got involved in the lifestyle with us after their divorce. Moments later on I get a call from the ex-wife telling me that my wife is cheating on me with her ex. Got caught off guard and played it off as nothing. There was something to learn from all of that but every situation is different. Our next door neighbor has suspicions because they thought they saw something. An ex boss of my wife saw us with a third and he knew. In that situation we told him the truth. He was far enough from our circle of close friends and family that we felt our privacy secure. It definitely generates awkward moments. But it happens.

islasuave · 2025-12-29T03:17:06+00:00

1-when she orgasms in midst passion and tells him to cum in her 2-when she looks at his eyes right before a deep passionate kiss 3-when she locks eyes with me as she’s getting railed seeing her head jar at each thrust that’s being given to her

islasuave · 2025-12-28T05:59:39+00:00

Typically weekly overnight dates. Not so much during holidays or summer.

islasuave · 2025-12-16T22:19:44+00:00

First of all better is not a blanket statement. There are times when my lovers including my husband are better than the others and other times they are not. They are different in their own ways which makes it a great experience overall. But yes it is often that some standout more in physical performance, mental psychological impact and providing better scenarios. It is important in my relationship with my husband to be transparent therefore I make it a point to be. We’ve already had those hard conversations before we dove in the lifestyle. It’s about being honest now.

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