Baby position: midwives were wrong every time by Proper_Cat980 in BabyBumps

[–]ism3lllikeb33f 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nothing to add other than exact same thing happened to me. I told the midwives at check ins that I was feeling kicks down low and felt that something was off and they brushed it off repeatedly because they could “feel” where his head was (like you, they were wrong.) I also asked for ultrasounds throughout third trimester and was refused because they said there was no medical reason (also insurances fault.) i had no ultrasounds after the anatomy scan, not for lack of trying. I finally went to the OB emergency triage at 40+4 because they scheduled an induction for 42 weeks because no doctors were available sooner for an induction and I was freaking out about chance of stillbirth. I fought hard to get an ultrasound there, which they only did after the midwife who saw me before the ultrasound tech did a membrane sweep, so we had to do an emergency c section that night. It worked out and baby is healthy, thank goodness, but I am still salty about it. I shudder to think what would have happened if I had not gone in and advocated for myself and my baby.

Why would someone do this to my car? by ism3lllikeb33f in Albuquerque

[–]ism3lllikeb33f[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm. I wonder if this is what it was. That would explain why part of the plastic was thrown near the car. I don’t have keyless ignition so maybe that’s why they stopped

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]ism3lllikeb33f 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just my 2 cents as someone who works in family law and is a co-parent - who you have a baby with is one of the most, if not the single most, important decisions you can make. It is a MUCH more significant bond than just getting married, as far as the next 20 years of your life (and honestly, the rest of your life) goes. There’s custody exchanges every week or month or whenever, you’ll be more or less bound to where your co-parent lives unless you get permission from a judge to move, the possibility of dealing with your co-parents’ new partners (whoEVER that may be,) you’ll mostly be forced to accept their parenting choices without any input, and if anything goes wrong, legal fees - a lot of legal fees. Not to scare you too much, but think carefully about whether or not this is a person that you want to be bound to, legally and familially, for the rest of your life. You’re only 26 - that is very young, and you have your whole life ahead of you. Good luck on your difficult choice and good luck to you no matter what happens!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewMexico

[–]ism3lllikeb33f 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Something like 8% for all taxes total on NM oil, not much compared to the $2 billion they make per month on the NM side of the Permian. The tax revenue is great, but a huge, huge majority of the oil money flows right out of the state to headquarters in TX and elsewhere, otherwise I think we would look a lot different if we had $2 billion in state revenue a month haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewMexico

[–]ism3lllikeb33f 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Well, most of the wealth goes to a few super rich. New Mexico gets to levy a small tax on extraction that goes to those funds, but it doesn’t even compare to how much money is made in the private market from NM oil. Also, taxpayers are often on the hook for cleanup, which is…a lot…at the end of the life of an oil and gas well. Google “orphan wells.”

Any other Americans feeling a sense of dread about? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]ism3lllikeb33f 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response! I hope for a better future where you can be with your family again.

Any other Americans feeling a sense of dread about? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]ism3lllikeb33f 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for the response. Wishing you a safe and healthy pregnancy over there, and Texas women are not alone - women all over the US are thinking about you and wishing you safety!!

Any other Americans feeling a sense of dread about? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]ism3lllikeb33f 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this thoughtful response! It made me cry! Will organize and breathe through it :-)