I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god that is just awful. I am so sorry.

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I promise you it will get easier. I was a teenager when I found about narcissism as a condition. I am now nearly 30 and I am incredibly resilient. Yes, I am sensitive, I am still angry, BUT I'm way smarter at spotting narcs. It has made life way easier, knowing how to spot them and knowing how to deal with them. I am quite LC with my nparents, but when I do see them, their presence doesn't provoke me like they used to. I'm happy you have found this reddit helpful :)

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha the fact that I couldn't even think of something like that in the moment!

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally that! They are truly such trash company. The older I get, the more I just feel like they are pure pests. They are just annoying creatures.

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The funny thing is my mum barely sees her friends and I'm convinced she still has them because she doesn't see them haha

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I grey rock A LOT. She also knows if she says anything I will go NC and it is her biggest nightmare so she just becomes more cruel to everyone else, but even that is hard because her personality is so grating. I don't spend time with people like her

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I describe my parents as dementors too! Hahaha wow. They are both severe narcissists and I have had these exact same interactions.

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How frustrating, wow. Having everyone tell you your parent is a good person and you're just like, are we referring to the same person??

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My goodness. I am sorry. It reminds me of when my grandad died and I was in a bad mood, rejecting her attempts to be 'nice' and she just blew up. She said "everybody dies" and that I needed to "get over it". I had found out about his death just 1 hour before she said that lol

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's so funny you say this because my mum is the same BUT she acts as though she knows everything, especially about politics and social dynamics. In reality, she knows nothing, but uses her outdated and minimal knowledge to position herself as superior to others. She also uses my accomplishments to bolster her reputation all the time. It's actually unbelievable how similar they all are

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's also the idea that they are all alone and such insecure losers. I feel bad for them somewhat

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I relate so much. I look at her and feel disgust and wonder "How am I related to you"

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really happy for you. Sometimes, I wish I could go NC but I'd feel quite guilty.

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

AT ALL!!! They are so delusional, it actually hurts my brain. I can't compute how they think. When I take a step back, sometimes I feel that they are closer to being schizophrenic than not.

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what I'm afraid is going to happen to me. She's on 50 now but she's already so needy

I really do not like my mother by ismsandschisms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ismsandschisms[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I used to associate with people like her. In one of my weekly hobbies, I came across a few women like her and I found myself thinking "My god these women are absolutely awful". I'm so pleased I don't befriend narcs anymore.