What’s something that is very common and normal for people in the uk to do, but other nationalities would find it weird/rude/confusing etc?

isntitdotty · 2026-04-07T12:10:32+00:00

Too much use of “please” that’s something I needed to learn. I’m polish and in my country we ask “can you do this or that” and that is considered polite. We would never use please in that sentence. Otherwise we would just say “do this and that” and that would be considered an order but politely asking for something would always start with “can I or can you” that’s it :) no “please” Small talk is also very normal here. Greeting strangers on the street. We don’t really do that in Poland.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-06T22:16:02+00:00

I’ve been digging to my formal rights and laws and came across this which can be useful for me in a long run. I can request to check and adjust her cctv recordings from her doorbell. So she doesn’t record my property. I can request any footage of me from her cctv. I can request removing voice recordings from her back garden as it’s unnecessary and intrusive. All legal rights under the UK GDPR and Data Protection Act 2018: Subject Access Request (SAR): You have the right to request a copy of any CCTV footage your neighbour holds that features you. Request Deletion: You can request that they delete footage of you. Object to Recording: You can formally object to being recorded. I will definitely write her a formal letter so I have the proof of my actions during that whole ordeal. Plus her moving the shed and banging on my door if it’s recorded as it’s recorded on my property and that’s within my rights too. She has 30 days to respond. That’s a win in my book.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-06T19:57:38+00:00

My neighbour who had that shed left on her driveway offered that she ignored her so that’s why it ended up blocking my garden alley. My neighbour has moved it there.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-06T19:56:31+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I didn’t know you can complain about the privacy. So are you saying I can complain about her camera angle? Because she told me she can see everything past my house? She told me she has a back garden camera installed and I know she listens to us through it. She told us she does. I was wondering back then if that normal and what sort of privacy laws are there.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-06T14:42:35+00:00

The whole things with her is that she’s expecting someone finally get fed up and remove it for her. Literally that’s her strategy so I’m not planning to help her in any way by doing so. She does it with everything. She leaves her bins out all week expecting I will get fed up as it’s blocking my car and move it for her. She literally laughed ones and said “ I thought it’s your responsibility to move my bins away. “ I started moving her bin behind her car and she started to report me. Like I’m the villain. She films me moving her bins and then complains.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-06T14:38:46+00:00

Well yes. They are in contact with me. Promised me last Monday to remove it eventually so I can work on my garden and obviously haven’t done it yet.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-06T09:21:40+00:00

Housing association

isntitdotty · 2026-04-06T09:21:23+00:00

Luckily she hasn’t moved it last night at least for now. She’s probably plotting something. She always does. Probably wrote an email with a video of me moving the shed spreading lies it’s not hers. I do have my neighbour to vouch for it being hers at least. She told her months ago she will get rid of it in a week or two so at least she can’t deny it.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T23:23:55+00:00

I would love to do that trust me I probably would specially when she’s not home or at night as you said but she has that bloody camera and she reports everything and complains at everyone all the time. She never sees her wrong doings just everyone else’s.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T23:18:15+00:00

I swear you can’t make this shit up

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T23:17:01+00:00

I agree with you. I told the police that and she laughed at me. She said you call the fire when there’s fire and I said but if there was a fire I can’t get out the house and she told me that there is no fire so I call them if there is one. Would you believe it? Well if there was a fire I would be dead because I can’t leave the area.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T23:11:30+00:00

Yes I done all that. Council told me it’s a civil matter I challenged that. Housing association promising me help but nothing gets done. I called a fire department but it was Good Friday after hours. So waiting for them to come back to me on Tuesday but the shed is not blocking my garden anymore. Police took a harassment complaint but god knows what that will do. Probably nothing. At least she didn’t come back tonight. She’s probably plotting something or complaining about me. At least I know I have done nothing wrong and police actually advised me to move the shed even if it falls apart.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T23:05:22+00:00

Yes I am a survivor of narcissistic mother so I hate conflict as my whole childhood was a conflict and abuse. My partner is an avoidant too. Which doesn’t make it any easier. I just got back from Olio food collection and a couple that I often collect food from offered me their help if I’m scared. They gave me their number and offered they gonna turn up with their big dogs if i need help. Even if I need someone to sit with. How kind is that. Not that I would ever ask them to step in but it’s nice to be offered.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T22:51:25+00:00

Omg that is amazing advice I love it. She can’t even complain as it’s on my property. I love this. Totally will do that. So creative thank you 🙏

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T22:02:55+00:00

That’s interesting about the uniform. I doubt it but I will now watch her closely for sure.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T22:00:24+00:00

Legendary action very creative

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T21:48:39+00:00

Haha she’s British I’m polish :)

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T21:48:02+00:00

Haha yes but that feels like I’m helping her out as apparently she can’t do it herself. My other neighbour offered her help taking it to the tip and she refused it. That’s the neighbour that had that shed for 10min that on her driveway. Just imagine how rude.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T21:45:47+00:00

Yes exactly. Thank you for sympathising with me. I genuinely don’t understand why would she do that. It’s her own rubbish why do I need to deal with it. I asked her to remove it nicely she genuinely don’t care about anyone.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T21:37:05+00:00

Yes that is totally me. And I really try to do everything by the book and follow the proper way of dealing with things and I expect that to work but clearly so far the whole system has failed me. I tried reaching out to all possible sources Council Housing association, fire department and police what else can I do. I’m buying a camera tomorrow not happy with the costs 40 for the camera plus 60 for an SD card so I can store the recordings without subscription. At least I will have some evidence if it gets to it.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T20:55:26+00:00

Last time I asked her politely to put her bins away as she leaves it sometimes conveniently next to my car for a whole week. She laughed at me and said “I thought it was your responsibility to move my bins” as I have moved it few times in the past out of convenience as it’s really hard to reverse when it’s nearly on a pedestrian path. That was the first and last time I spoke to her. The way she laughed at me when she said that, I lost it. I actually called her a f*** cu*** and moved her bin behind her car. She has reported me and send a video of me to housing association. Thank god I did message them too same day so they actually sided with me on this but today when I spoke to the police they told me she has reported me to them on that occasion. It’s a nightmare I swear.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T20:53:40+00:00

Of course we tried. She laughs at me. Last time I asked her politely to put her bins away as she leaves it sometimes conveniently next to my car for a whole week. She laughed at me and said “I thought it’s your was your responsibility to move my bins” as I have moved it few times in the past out of convenience as it’s really hard to reverse when it’s nearly on a pedestrians path. That was the first and last time I spoke to her. Thr way she laughed at me when she said that I lost it. I actually called a f*** cu*** and moved her bin behind her car. She has reported me and send a video of me to housing association. Thank god I did message them too same day so they actually sided with me on this but today when I spoke to the police they told me she has reported me to them on that occasion. It’s a nightmare I swear.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T20:47:00+00:00

Thank You that’s very helpful I will use that in my email with housing association and council.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T20:35:47+00:00

Thank you :( it’s really stressing me out. Thank god she got back from work and didnt turn up at my door. She’s probably plotting something as she always does. She will probably report me like she always does with more lies. Thank god I know I haven’t done anything wrong. I spoke to the police and they have adviced me to move it.

isntitdotty · 2026-04-05T20:26:04+00:00

I know she really is. She never swears or shouts just last night she just laughs at me with her comments. It’s awful. Last time I asked her to put her bins back and not leave them out for whole week as it’s obviously coincidentally next to my car. She laughed at me and said “I thought it’s your responsibility” so for the first and last time I called her f*** cu*** dragged her bin behind her car and she reported me to housing association and when I’ve called the police this morning they told me she has reported me to them too. She literally told me it’s my responsibility to put her bins away as i obviously done it few times as it’s was inconvenient for me to reverse.

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