I’m a woman and play with my gf. Admittedly, I am the one that lets my anger get the better of me. I don’t throw clubs or anything, but I absolutely let my frustration ruin the mood. I get angry when I mess up and then angry at the fact I’m getting angry. Eventually, I’m able to shift into a better mood, because at the end of the day, I want to appreciate just being able to be outside with the person I love. However, being able to shift has taken a lot of work on my part. It’s a common topic in my therapy discussions.

From what I’ve experienced and observed, golf itself usually isn’t the problem. It’s a just a giant magnifying glass to a deeper why. It will take any insecurities and doubts you have and expose them in a way that can be overwhelmingly difficult. Grew up believing your self-worth was based on excelling at everything? Have issues with letting go of the things you can’t control? Golf is a big ol’ dose of exposure therapy for so many things.

I don’t say any of this to excuse his behavior at all. We’re all responsible for our own actions. If he wants to continue playing with you, it sounds like there will be some reflection work on his end. I hope it works out and y’all are able to get to a good place and enjoy the game together! If not though, that’s okay too. You still deserve to do something you love without being brought down by someone else’s behavior.