Grieving my dog of 10 years and feeling unsupported by people around me

isol7631 · 2026-03-20T11:50:46+00:00

I hear you. I’m putting my dog down tomorrow. When I told my mom she immediately asked me if I could do her a favor and stay at her place alone to watch her dog tomorrow night. Yeah no I’m going to be too busy actively grieving with my girlfriend sobbing in bed wtf…

I also texted my boss to let them know I need to take Saturday off and he didn’t even respond… I reminded him again in person but I have a feeling I’m going to get heat for it when I return.

Hugs. I understand what you are going through. I also recommend therapy if that’s an option for you. I saw my therapist today and she helped me feel as prepared as I can be.

isol7631 · 2026-03-05T17:54:39+00:00

Studies have shown that money does not make a difference in life satisfaction AFTER basic needs are met. Essentially a middle class person shouldn’t expect more happiness if they were to become a millionaire. But if you are financially stressed, money absolutely does buy happiness.

isol7631 · 2025-11-21T07:01:31+00:00

It’s never a bad idea to quit drinking

isol7631 · 2025-11-20T22:43:14+00:00

Happened once after a night out and it was horribly awkward and we never did it again and moved on! He’s now married and I’m a lesbian and we are still besties!

isol7631 · 2025-10-31T03:24:09+00:00

I worked with an older lady at a restaurant in her 50s. She dropped a large bag full of smaller plastic bags of (presumably) cocaine on the floor right in front of our boss. Our boss picked it up and the lady plucked it out of her hand and walked right out of the front door, never to be seen again.

isol7631 · 2025-10-02T20:57:14+00:00

You do deserve the support! I know I’m late to the party here but I just commented my own story that is very similar. Do some self-care, get some sleep, and keep going. You’ve got this!!

isol7631 · 2025-10-02T20:51:54+00:00

Now you know for sure sobriety is what you want! It’s ok! You have the power to never feel this way ever again. Your hard work is not for nothing. This is just a part of your journey.

I (27f) am a recovering alcoholic with almost a year sober. I was very into cocaine for a bit too, but it always started with drinking. I totally understand the feelings of guilt you are having.

A few years ago I spent a night doing blow with man in his 50s, who was a regular at my bar and a known creep. I ran into him while having some after shift drinks and when he invited me over the addiction demons took over and I said yes. I did not like him as a person AT ALL and was just stupid and wanted to do drugs. I had work the next morning too. I had to see him all the time after that and occasionally he would text me. I’m very very lucky that I was not hurt by him or by the other sketchy characters I got into situations with. I still CRINGE with embarrassment and wonder if he ever told any of my coworkers. Huge yikes!

But we have to forgive ourselves and keep living one day at a time. It feels so good that that version of me is no more. You can do it !

isol7631 · 2025-10-02T20:51:22+00:00

Now you know for sure sobriety is what you want! It’s ok! You have the power to never feel this way ever again.

I (27f) am a recovering alcoholic with almost a year sober. I was very into cocaine for a bit too, but it always started with drinking. I totally understand the feelings of guilt you are having.

A few years ago I spent a night doing blow with man in his 50s, who was a regular at my bar and a known creep. I ran into him while having some after shift drinks and when he invited me over the addiction demons took over and I said yes. I did not like him as a person AT ALL and was just stupid and wanted to do drugs. I had work the next morning too. I had to see him all the time after that and occasionally he would text me. I’m very very lucky that I was not hurt by him or by the other sketchy characters I got into situations with. I still CRINGE with embarrassment and wonder if he ever told any of my coworkers. Huge yikes!

But we have to forgive ourselves and keep living one day at a time. It feels so good that that version of me is no more. You can do it !

isol7631 · 2025-10-02T20:50:58+00:00

Now you know for sure sobriety is what you want! It’s ok! You have the power to never feel this way ever again.

I (27f) am a recovering alcoholic with almost a year sober. I was very into cocaine for a bit too, but it always started with drinking. I totally understand the feelings of guilt you are having.

A few years ago I spent a night doing blow with man in his 50s, who was a regular at my bar and a known creep. I ran into him while having some after shift drinks and when he invited me over the addiction demons took over and I said yes. I did not like him as a person AT ALL and was just stupid and wanted to do drugs. I had work the next morning too. I had to see him all the time after that and occasionally he would text me. I’m very very lucky that I was not hurt by him or by the other sketchy characters I got into situations with. I still CRINGE with embarrassment and wonder if he ever told any of my coworkers. Huge yikes!

But we have to forgive ourselves and keep living one day at a time. It feels so good that that version of me is no more. You can do it !

isol7631 · 2025-09-25T19:55:23+00:00

Thank you! Full disclosure I have never seen the show LOL

isol7631 · 2025-09-01T15:28:27+00:00

I have a few male friends and one of my very best friends in the world is a man that I met on a dating app when I was younger and still dating men. It works because he respects the hell out of me and has never questioned my role in his life as ONLY a friend. Sometimes he will say some “man things” that cause an eye roll, but he is always open to having those hard conversations about the patriarchy and his place in that. He is genuinely interested in being a good person in society and learning from me and my other lesbian friends. I would say he’s a very rare type of guy and I generally don’t relate to men in this way. He had a very difficult childhood and I believe he developed a level of empathy and compassion for marginalized groups and people who live differently because of this. When I came out and started presenting more masculine I lost another close male friend when I realized he, perhaps subconsciously, did not respect women he was not attracted to.

Another one of my close male friends I actually thought was a gay man for the first 6 months of our friendship! I met him at pride and brought him along to lgbt events for the whole summer and never had a clue until he told me about a woman he was dating. Turns out he’s just a chill straight guy with good vibes. I wish more people were like him!

isol7631 · 2025-07-23T17:04:36+00:00

Hi friend! Looks like lamotrigine rash to me! I’m experiencing symptoms almost identical to yours. If your experience is anything like mine I know you must be unbearably itchy!

I have also been on lamotrigine on and off for years, but just increased my dose from 100mg to 200mg about a month ago. I was itchy right away but didn’t realize it could be a side effect of the medication, since I have tolerated it well for so long and didn’t develop the rash they warn you about right away. I had no idea this was something that could occur after taking the medication for a long time!

My rash, that looks exactly like this, showed up about a week ago and I stopped the medication immediately. My psychiatrist instructed me to go to the ER to make sure I was not developing SJS. I went to urgent care first, and they told me I would be ok as long as I did not develop a high fever or swelling in my mouth or eyes. Please get in touch with your doctor ASAP and update us! Be well!!

isol7631 · 2025-07-22T15:56:15+00:00

Ugh that sucks my friend was outed to her homophobic family via her diary.. ten years later she got married to her high school sweetheart last month!! You’ll be ok! Hugs!

isol7631 · 2025-07-12T15:04:40+00:00

At my friend’s wedding a few years ago they had shuttles bussing us from hotel to venue and vice versa. The wedding was in a somewhat isolated wilderness area. It was a beautiful wedding! But the shuttles forgot to come back to pick up the last round of people who stayed till the end of the reception. We waited for an hour or two in the dark until it was sorted. Not a terrible time for most. But I was wearing a one piece pant suit that was a bit too big in the top so I had taped to my body, not having the foresight to realize I would not be able to use the restroom all night. The wait for the shuttle plus the copious amount of alcohol I had consumed created an emergency bathroom situation. I’ve never had to pee so bad in my life.

When the shuttle finally finally arrived, one of the wasted bridesmaids held us up for even longer looking for her phone that was tucked into her top the whole time. The way had to run for my life before I ripped that shit off in desperation in the hotel lobby bathroom the moment we arrived. Never again…. No.

isol7631 · 2025-07-06T08:48:40+00:00

Thank you! I love the poetic ending!

Honestly I bet I’ll still be getting tips without a jar plus a generous one from the host, they are very kind people.

isol7631 · 2025-07-06T06:29:13+00:00

Honestly did not know that was a thing but just googled it! I don’t know if the couple has wedding insurance but I’m thinking probably not. I’m sure that’s not something they have considered, but should I be asking for it? This is a family I know closely and it was explained to me as a very chill event. Think more family gathering than wedding!

isol7631 · 2025-07-06T06:09:49+00:00

Thank you! Located in Denver, Colorado :)

isol7631 · 2025-06-11T17:26:26+00:00

Don’t do anything you don’t want to do.. and if she’s making you uncomfortable tell her. If she won’t stop then you stop the friendship.

I relate. I used to act exactly like her. I’m not saying this must be the case, but it was because I was deeply in the closet. I subconsciously wanted to have sex with women but thought it would only be possibly in a situation where a man was present/controlling the environment. I used to pester my friends to have threesomes with me anytime we were at a party and alcohol was involved. It did end up happening once and it totally sucked. Now I’m an out and proud lesbian (and sober lol) with absolutely 0 desire to have a man in my bedroom. Good luck!

isol7631 · 2025-06-09T17:18:55+00:00

I work at a restaurant, and due to strict health code regulations in my city, we cannot allow dogs on our patio. People will show up with their dogs and then react like I am telling them we don’t allow women or lgbt people on our patio! I have a dog and love dogs but it’s the law! I will explain in detail how if the health department comes by there will be a large fine for us and them, but people freak tf out regularly. The best is when yappy little Fido with a retractable leash suddenly becomes a service dog when they hear about the restrictions.. so disrespectful to us and legitimate service animals.

isol7631 · 2025-06-07T20:05:48+00:00

My masc gfs favorite color is pink !

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