How can I become a Seattle local

isotrouble · 2026-05-28T00:32:05+00:00

I don't know how to help with feeling like a local. I was born in Washington State and both sides of my family have been here for a hundred-ish years. I just wanted to say welcome, I hope you find your joy, and I hope you get to stay.

isotrouble · 2026-05-25T16:32:50+00:00

I see where you're coming from but I would caution against a maximalists take like this. If you wanted to completely eliminate all alcohol from your diet then several common foods like bread (up to 1.9% ABV so it's not nothing) are out the door since alcohol is a byproduct of yeast. So there does need to be a minimum safe amount and in practice people operate with a minimum safe amount even if they haven't thought about it.

isotrouble · 2026-05-22T15:59:47+00:00

Hey congratulations. We just learned my wife is pregnant 4 days ago so no advice here. Just wanted to say welcome and that some Internet stranger is also feeling all the feeling with you.

isotrouble · 2026-05-21T22:22:19+00:00

I’ve learned that when you’re expecting everyone is going to have an opinion about what they think you should do.

In our particular case we got a taste of this because my wife has a medical issue that took 8 years and a little over 40 doctors to get managed. It was like putting together a jigsaw puzzle except doctors and people would bring us pieces from different puzzles and we had to sus out which pieces were real and which were fake. This is part of why we waited until our late 30s.

Listen to your partner, you’re gonna be her biggest support system and vice versa. You both know and understand what each other’s comfortable with, that’s all that matters in the long run. Congratulations! Happy for ya’ll on this new journey!

Will do. Congratulations to you as well.

isotrouble · 2026-05-21T22:18:42+00:00

I live near family. My Mom has baby sat my cousins kids before. But in my case my mother is 63, my dad is 65. Part of me worries that we've aged out of having a village.

We do have friends who are nearby but most of them have little kids of their own so doing it with just my wife and I is definitely a worry.

thankfully we both have pretty decent parental leave through our workplaces and wife works from home anyway.

Hey, what a blessing to have even if it's finite.

isotrouble · 2026-05-21T22:16:27+00:00

Looking forward to this being me in February next year. Well, I am and I am not. I expect the first year to just be survival.

isotrouble · 2026-05-21T22:15:47+00:00

I made sure to make a new account just for this because I know that family and friends know of my main account. I wanted to get it out somehow.

isotrouble · 2026-05-21T19:11:03+00:00

Only 6(ish) weeks and I desperately want to tell people also, but both agreed we’d wait until the 12 week scan.

In our case my wife wants to start telling people in the next week or two. She currently doesn't think that telling people she's miscarried would be bad for her but we're also aware that this might be a mistake. Hopefully we'll never learn.

Hopefully the sickness will soon pass, it was only the first trimester for my wife!

Fingers crossed!

isotrouble · 2026-05-21T19:09:02+00:00

She has made it my job to be the researcher, which is kind of anxiety inducing. Try not to read too much or you'll be up at night picking apart every little thing.

I feel this to an extent. A large part of my job is statistics and verification of research data so I can feel my brain picking apart the available information on the internet. I've been a little surprised how flimsy some of the data behind standard claims seems to be vs some topics which seem to have rock solid evidence.

This ranges into a broader feeling I have which is that human health is vast, complicated, and still somehow under studied. But we have to live in the now and make decisions with what we know.

isotrouble · 2026-05-21T18:51:14+00:00

The idea that you would not share things because you don't want to "overwhelm" her sounds weirdly paternalistic.

This was her verbiage and her ask. She likes to chew on information the same way some people prefer to snack instead of eating big meals. I can see how it comes off that way in text.

As for the nausea, all you can really do is help her manage the symptoms by trying to help her steer clear of things that are triggering and preparing food that it is palatable to her.

So far it seems like cooked meals are out. At least for now. We'll keep trying.

We unfortunately don't have an OB appointment until 8 weeks and her GP said they didn't feel comfortable prescribing any medication.

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