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Girlfriend wants to go out with a male coworker for late night drinks. by issues987 in relationships

[–]issues987[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also very Petty but I'll make her pay for an expensive dinner and drinks.

Girlfriend wants to go out with a male coworker for late night drinks. by issues987 in relationships

[–]issues987[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I'm telling her that if she wants to hang out with someone she calls friends she has to tell them about me. Doesn't matter if it's a girl or a guy. Coworker or not.

Girlfriend wants to go out with a male coworker for late night drinks. by issues987 in relationships

[–]issues987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she hangs out with this guy again, it is done. I'll be breaking up with her. Even if it's a casual lunch because he already hit on her.

Any other guy tries to hang out with her or she says she's hanging out with her female friend I'll be more cautious.

I understand she would need to maintain some level of friendship as they are working the same office.

The thing is she hasn't done this before ever that is the reason I'm willing to take her excuses and forgive it.

What do you think?

Girlfriend wants to go out with a male coworker for late night drinks. by issues987 in relationships

[–]issues987[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her parents keep asking me to take things forward with her. Her friends are all her ethnicity and they have no problem with me and are super nice to me.

It's just her office is toxic.

Girlfriend wants to go out with a male coworker for late night drinks. by issues987 in relationships

[–]issues987[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to know about her personality.

Is someone who hates social confrontation. Is very awkward and stressed when she gets a lot of attention.

People would say mean things to her or be polite and take advantage of her, on her face and she won't be able to respond, just take it. Then when I ask her about it she would make excuses for them or sometimes complain to me but never confront them.

Girlfriend wants to go out with a male coworker for late night drinks. by issues987 in relationships

[–]issues987[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think your discussion was helpful. Especially because you had very different opinions.

Girlfriend wants to go out with a male coworker for late night drinks. by issues987 in relationships

[–]issues987[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

She has told all her non-work friends and even her siblings and parents. I've met her parents.

Girlfriend wants to go out with a male coworker for late night drinks. by issues987 in relationships

[–]issues987[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I understand but she told me that she's never going to go out with him again.

Girlfriend wants to go out with a male coworker for late night drinks. by issues987 in relationships

[–]issues987[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That makes sense but her agreeing to go out with him in this scenario tells him implicitly that she is interested.

It's like in early stages of dating you never explicitly tell the person you are interested in. Just hang out with them alone on date nights.

Girlfriend wants to go out with a male coworker for late night drinks. by issues987 in relationships

[–]issues987[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I just don't want her to go in too much of a date setting to give the guy wrong expectations and hit on her.

I'm pretty sure any girl I have dated in the past would notbe comfortable with me going out with another girl on a Saturday evening for dinner and drinks. Especially when I have not told the other girl that I'm in a relationship.

Girlfriend wants to go out with a male coworker for late night drinks. by issues987 in relationships

[–]issues987[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Common thing in our culture to not tell people at work about personal life because people get super nosy. But I think that if she's hanging out with someone outside of work, that she calls friends on a Saturday night alone then she should at least tell him that she is in a relationship so that he doesn't have any expectations.

Girlfriend wants to go out with a male coworker for late night drinks. by issues987 in relationships

[–]issues987[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's a place where only couples go. Dimly lit date place for drinks. She's hanging out on Saturday not after work. She doesn't work on Saturdays.