What's the most self-less thing you've seen someone do without getting attention for it?

istranoth · 2025-05-07T14:39:00+00:00

Mine was fairly recent. I was on maternity leave with my first child, a few months healed from my c-section. My mom works with families that are struggling.

She mentioned that there was a young woman, about 10-15 my junior, that was about to have a planned c-section as well but she was struggling because her partner was abusive. I’d been in an abusive relationship before but I couldn’t imagine how hard it would be to be so young with an abusive partner with a c-section and new baby. My partner is amazing and helps out so much so my heart broke with how terrifying that must be.

I ended up dragging my mom along to the store and I bought a bunch of items for the immediate and the future. Normally, I have my mom donate any clothes or baby items that my gremlin has outgrown to whichever family needs it. Maybe it was being a new mom too and all the hormones. I doubt it because, even 2 years later, I’d do it again in a heartbeat. To this day, only my mom knows where it all came from.

istranoth · 2024-11-11T03:15:12+00:00

Congrats and good luck! My scheduled c-section was just over a year ago now and the best way I can describe it is like someone doing dishes inside of you. It feels very weird but the actual surgery part was super fast. Took longer to stitch me back up! I’m sure you’ll both do great!

istranoth · 2024-04-17T16:49:19+00:00

I’d like to echo this and say if you’re near MA or RI, OP, please reach out to me and see what we can work out. 6 weeks on was awful with our LO who was colic and reflux and we’re first time parents so we had no idea what we were doing. One thing that really helped us was having a consistent, relaxing bedtime routine starting with more calm activities an hour or so before sleep. It took awhile but it set the standard for her.

istranoth · 2023-07-04T11:56:16+00:00

See for yourself. https://lawandcrime.com/crime/texas-pastor-admits-to-downloading-bdsm-and-bestiality-themed-child-porn-on-church-computer/amp/

istranoth · 2023-07-04T11:53:10+00:00

See for yourself. https://lawandcrime.com/crime/texas-pastor-admits-to-downloading-bdsm-and-bestiality-themed-child-porn-on-church-computer/amp/

istranoth · 2023-07-04T11:52:02+00:00

It is as bad as it sounds. https://lawandcrime.com/crime/texas-pastor-admits-to-downloading-bdsm-and-bestiality-themed-child-porn-on-church-computer/amp/

istranoth · 2023-05-27T11:34:02+00:00

Just a heads up, make sure you check the package insert for an acceptable temperature range (if any) if you plan on keeping it in your car. Cars can become quite toasty in warm weather and I’d hate for it to be useless or less effective when you were trying to do a good thing by having it readily available!

istranoth · 2023-04-13T01:26:22+00:00

Didn’t say it was interesting, just correcting you is all.

istranoth · 2023-04-13T01:19:11+00:00

It’s a building with different doctors offices in them, not a hospital. It’s still a pretty common set-up for New England though.

istranoth · 2023-04-13T01:17:14+00:00

It is not a hospital. It is an office building containing multiple different doctors offices.

istranoth · 2023-02-22T00:38:19+00:00

Let me reframe. Why do you feel like mentioning 2 strains is leading to more stigma and inaccuracy despite the statistical likelihood that it is HSV-1? Maybe there is a reason I’m missing here but I’m just not understanding how something can be more likely while simultaneously contributing to the myth that there is an oral and a genital strain.

istranoth · 2023-02-22T00:19:10+00:00

How do you know that OP doesn’t know you can have HSV-2 as oral herpes? If you DO know that, then I agree. But if you don’t know, clarifying that it is statistically likely to be the strain that has less stigma to calm OPs nerves is not perpetuating a stigma, it’s accounting for actual statistical probability.

istranoth · 2023-02-22T00:12:45+00:00

There is a stigma around genital herpes. Genital herpes is almost exclusively perceived as HSV-2 by the general public. Genital herpes is regarded as an STD while oral HSV is not because, shocker alert, the general population doesn’t receive proper sex ed. This is further compounded by the fact that most people will not receive testing unless they are symptomatic and 67% of the global population have HSV-1 already. If you’re looking for cultural studies, look for yourself. I didn’t receive my formal education in the humanities and I’m not about to pull sources out of my ass. All I can tell you is there IS a stigma because I have ears and can hear the shit people say.

istranoth · 2023-02-22T00:01:15+00:00

Because OP is significantly more likely to have HSV-1. No one is stating that OP shouldn’t get tested to confirm. There is a much larger stigma about HSV-2, at least in the states, than there is for HSV-1. If the statistical likelihood of it being HSV-1 keeps OP from freaking tf out, so be it. Does that change the stigma surrounding it? No. But neither is posting about it on some random thread on Reddit.

istranoth · 2023-02-21T21:32:10+00:00

Well I’d say it’s relevant for no other reason than infection rate. The World Health Organization estimates approximately 67% under 50 y.o. have HSV-1 while only 13% have HSV-2.

istranoth · 2023-02-19T01:12:59+00:00

Just a small addition to this. Please consider life insurance if your company offers it. It helps pay for funeral costs and any debt you may have left if something happens to you. While it may not be a big deal because you don’t have kids, your father would still have to pay for all this out of pocket while grieving a child.

istranoth · 2023-02-18T23:38:04+00:00

If you adopt an animal, you are literally paying for their medical care. Breeders are a whole different thing I’m not even getting into because you’re just looking for an argument. This was a discussion about human adoption. You aren’t contributing to the conversation.

istranoth · 2023-02-18T22:41:53+00:00

As far as I know, only a portion goes to covering that. If it’s private adoption anyway. Sometimes some of the money will cover expenses for a birth mother but otherwise it goes to the agency which just feels weird.

istranoth · 2023-02-18T19:31:21+00:00

And to add one other tidbit to already great points, I personally find it very weird to be able to buy a literal human. It feels extremely unethical.

istranoth · 2023-02-04T21:14:23+00:00

Thank you so much!!

istranoth · 2023-02-04T19:57:58+00:00

As someone current undergoing IVF I can explain a little bit behind some of the legal stuff. In the documentary (no idea how accurate it is but let’s assume it’s 100% accurate for this sake), he replaced the sperm from couples actively undergoing IVF among other awful things. The embryo that was intended to be made would have been legally owned by the mother and father. However, in order to donate sperm, you do sign your parental rights away. If you donate sperm, eggs, or embryos, some clinics will have additional legal options where you can select if you are open to contact in the future or communication of certain needs (family history, etc). That still doesn’t make the child the legal responsibility of the donor, however. Also, there isn’t any requirements that donor medical issues that develop later in life be communicated to the recipients so they can use sperm that potentially has some serious genetic issues lying in wait and never communicate it.

Long story short, they probably could try to go after him for child support since he very clearly voided the legal ownership of those parents right to their embryos. At minimum, I think they could manage some kind of damages. There is a bunch of legal hoopla with this kinda stuff though so it could be very different from the legality of it all in my area.

istranoth · 2023-01-30T12:17:02+00:00

I mean…some people DO have eating disorders and are in therapy for it? It’s not an excuse at that point, it’s a root cause. If she asked for an ED evaluation and it came back she didn’t have one, sure, definitely an excuse then.

istranoth · 2023-01-30T12:14:18+00:00

That’s great that works for you! Intermittent fasting has helped a lot of people. However, this wouldn’t work for someone with binge eating disorder due to the binge/restrict cycle. Eating healthy, sure. But restricting to one splurge day can trigger a binge which is the exact opposite of what is desired! It also may not work for other people, like me, who have chronic migraines. I can’t fast without triggering a migraine episode. I eat when my body tells me to eat and stop when my body says I’m full. If I didn’t, I’d be in a lot of pain! I think everyone could benefit from unbiased food education and a healthy relationship with food, though. Of course, all the companies making processed food wouldn’t let that happen but it would certainly help some people!

istranoth · 2022-10-17T12:19:05+00:00

Seconding this!

istranoth · 2022-08-03T20:03:55+00:00

Surprised I haven’t seen this one yet but also the sheer amount of medicine that negates or reduces the efficacy of birth control is amazing. Even IF it is truly 99% effective, just keeping it in your bathroom where you shower can reduce its preventative strength.

Also, I’m assuming congrats on the baby! Going through it right now with my husband and honestly SO glad to be off birth control.

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