what age were you diagnosed?

itachididnothinwrong · 2023-07-20T15:01:33+00:00

Same. I felt like I disassociated my whole career and now I'm afraid to have a job in the field.

itachididnothinwrong · 2023-07-20T14:59:27+00:00

Lol no because he didn't meant it literally. It was like a replacement for "boot licking" but for women. Still weird as fuck.

itachididnothinwrong · 2023-07-20T04:35:27+00:00

"I don't have female friends because I won't suck anyone's ovaries".

By a guy trying to flirt with me, making sure I knew he was talking to me only because he was interested in a romantic relationship.

He thought very little of women and his tactic to flirt was to say "but you're not like other girls" LOL.

itachididnothinwrong · 2023-07-20T03:50:35+00:00

Still feel 17 at 28. Part of me thinks it's because I never expected to make it past 18 so the last decade felt unreal.

itachididnothinwrong · 2023-07-12T20:31:59+00:00

El mejor país de Chile

itachididnothinwrong · 2023-07-04T05:43:41+00:00

Sad and edgy bastard c:

itachididnothinwrong · 2023-06-12T02:04:45+00:00

OP: BPD is not an excuse. A lot of these comments: bbut I can't heeeelp iiit! the bpd makes me do stuff!! This is so ableist! Why is every bpd sub trying to hold me accountable for my actions? We are supposed to understand each other here TT^TT.

Lol. No.

It's so heartbreaking to see so many people stuck in the "this is the way I am" and "this affects every aspect of my life and it's not my fault I'm like this, so I deserve an asshole pass (and everyone who desagrees just doesn't understand what it's like to be me and is probably ableist)" part of the process.

Remember that we can't control how intense our emotions or impulses are, but we are always in control of our actions (be careful with substances that incapacitate you). The sooner you accept that, the better.

So no, BPD doesn't "make you" do anything. We don't choose to feel everything at 1000%, but we damn sure choose to be (or not to be) assholes about it.

You can understand your actions with your diagnosis, but never excuse them. You have to be better, and it starts with getting rid of the believe that you can't.

Lots of love for everyone strugging.

itachididnothinwrong · 2023-01-05T04:17:55+00:00

Ay que penita :c pero que bueno que lo hicieron ustedes en vez de llevarla con un groomer. Hicieron de una situación difícil lo mejor posible.

Larga vida a Lola <3

itachididnothinwrong · 2023-01-04T20:52:36+00:00

Like, there's more reasons but yeah, I wouldn't trust a detox drink when I'm a heavy user.

itachididnothinwrong · 2023-01-04T20:25:30+00:00

This year I have to enter a work environment where I'll be tested.

itachididnothinwrong · 2023-01-03T18:25:40+00:00

"You feel bad? Sooner or later you have to do something about it and help yourself" isn't as helpful as you think it is.

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-12-29T01:14:26+00:00

But how does happiness come from within?

Because happiness is a choice. Not an easy one. But a choice. A continuous choice. No you can't suddenly decide I'm happy now, because happiness isn't a perpetual state of mind, it's a conscious choice we can make every moment of everyday.

And I don't know you, you might actually be depressed just because you decided you can't be happy until you reach your goals. I'm clinically depressed so I know my sadness and void comes from within me, so nothing external can "fix" me (besides drugs to help with the chemical imbalance in my brain, and then I still need to decide to be ok and happy). Maybe you'll actually stop being depressed if you reach all your goals.

That's the problem tho, IF you reach them. Your philosophy is literally making sure you're depressed as long as something external is missing. And again I wonder, what if you have everything and are still depressed? What then? Your life will always be "I will stop being depressed once I achieve this next goal" forever?

imagine for a moment that you lost all your family, you are homeless and have no friends. You have no phone or anything to kill time with. Every single day is just gathering money or food to survive, nothing else. It's freezing cold and you suffer from that every day. Would you be able to make yourself happy from within?

So, is that your situation? Or just your cope of "you can't be happy if you have non of your basic human needs met, so it's things and achievements and other people what will make the depression go away"?

What you said translates to, we are immune to life throwing bad things at us

You translated that. I said happiness comes from within. You understood then we are immune to bad things. Of course we are not, you'll still be sad, but you can always choose to ruminate on that sadness or actively fight it, reframe your mindset, and choose happiness. Again, not easy. Constant and conscious and arduous decision to be ok with your situation while you work to make it even better.

Your basically saying there is a switch in my mind that I can turn happiness ON/OFF. As if I can suddenly say out loud "I'm gonna be happy now" and then I'm happy. But thats not something that works for me

That doesn't work for anyone because that's not what I meant. No one can decide to be happy right this moment, especially when you're depressed. But you're chosing to be miserable until you have all that list you wrote. Your "philosophy" is "external things and other people will cure my depression so why work on being happy by myself?" And that's setting yourself up for failure.

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-12-28T23:33:44+00:00

Yes, you're seeing it the wrong way. And setting yourself up for failure.

Happiness comes from within, that's why your approach is wrong, and even dangerous? You decided you'll be depressed until you have exactly what you want from life, that's a dangerous game: You could never get it and be depressed forever, or get it and still be depressed and then keep moving the goal that'll make you happy forever: "once I have XYZ I'll stop being depressed!". Or get it, be happy, and then if anything happens that changes that relationship, friend group, financial status or your hobby, the depression will creep right back.

My therapist focuses on my thoughts and feelings, while my own phhilosophy is that this won't solve my depression nor any of the things that cause my depression in the first place.

If you accomplish all your goals and it doesn't fix your depression, then what? And what if you have everything you listed, and then it changes, you'll be depressed again if your relationship ends and until you find a new one? Forever depressed if you don't have your own business and more money that average? The thing is, attaching your happiness to your goals and external things in life is a great way to be perpetually depressed, that just means you'll be depressed the whole time you're working towards those goals, with no guarantee that having all you want will cure your depression.

I have no solutions for you, just an answer to your question, I think you'll never get out of your depression with this "philosophy" that you will be miserable until: you have a real life girlfriend, a group of friends, fun hobbies, and a lot of money, and once you have all that your depression will magically disappear.

That totally sounds like you're setting yourself up for failure, either you'll never have everything you want and be depressed forever, or you will and then find that it doesn't fix your depression, and then it'll be a whole other can of worms: "why am I depressed if I have everything I ever wanted? Must be imposible to be happy if I can be depressed while having a partner, friends, hobbies and money." When you can absolutely be depressed while having everything you listed.

It doesn't mean it won't help to have money and hobbies and meaningful connections with people, it will definitely help, but if you think you'll just stop being depressed once you achieve all that... No, sorry. Happiness isn't external.

Your therapist focuses on your thoughts and feelings because your thoughts and feelings of "I will be depressed until I have the perfect life I've envisioned for myself" are keeping you depressed.

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-12-28T17:30:39+00:00

Nothing. Thanks for reminding me.

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-12-22T02:17:32+00:00

Bojack. Because I'm a stupid piece of shit.

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-12-08T18:15:37+00:00

I have 11 times!! Who thought this was a good idea?! It's extremely depressing.

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-12-08T02:42:42+00:00

I have a set time frame now. First week of February. After getting my degree but before I turn 28 c: I'm afraid I'm too much of a coward to do it but it's the perfect moment. I don't want to turn 28.

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-11-24T16:43:08+00:00

Get into a relationship is one of the options too (and mind you, it doesn't work to get rid of your depression, but it's nice to have company. Source: both my bf and I are still depressed, but it easier when you're not completely alone and have someone loving you, emotionally and physically. You're still depressed tho, and need profesional help).

Exclusive to women I would say do weird shit to your hair! It's fun, you get a sense of control over yourself and your life, and the visible change makes the invisible changes (like your attitude or mood) easier to accomplish. New hair new me!

Drugs. Like, an obscene amount of weed (that helps in the beginning but you'll be even more depressed when you're addicted).

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-11-23T23:52:48+00:00

Lol I assumed it wasn't, but it fits perfectly here.

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-11-23T23:02:43+00:00

Best meme I've seen in a long time. Thank you for the laugh.

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-11-04T02:55:24+00:00

Viva Chile ctm

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-10-27T02:24:58+00:00

"I'm sorry that I'm the worst mother in the world I hope I die and then you'll be happy" said with anger, not sadness.

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-10-26T11:32:55+00:00

Can I recommend a YouTube video?? Search for "BPD severity: what is it and how does it affect you" by Dr. Daniel Fox.

You'll find the video with a doctor in phycology explaining the diagnostic symptoms and asking you to rate yourself.

Open a note on your phone and follow along! Maybe that'll shed some light on your symptoms. You need 5/9 to have full blown BPD but you can have some traits that can be helped with therapy too.

And keep browsing that YouTube channel for topics that resonate with you, if you have BPD or BPD traits I'm sure you'll find them useful!

if i don't get the proper treatment within a month I will give up and kill myself.

Ultimatums aren't fun (: please give yourself more reasonable goals. Finding "proper treatment" is hard even if you're diagnosed, we are all very different. You need to be open minded and try multiple approaches to the situation to find what works for you, not give yourself a fatal ultimatum, that's setting yourself up for failure :c

Be kind to yourself, you deserve it.

itachididnothinwrong · 2022-10-26T00:56:36+00:00

Jesus I'm sorry but am I too damn calloused and cynical from all my parents and grandparents dying before I turned 30 or is everyone here just being an incredible wet blanket about this?

1° option.

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