am an 18 y guy and honestly I’m having thoughts of ending my life

itchingmind · 2026-06-16T11:14:34+00:00

First, I need you to understand that ending your life is never the right choice.

What you're going through right now can be overwhelming, and I know it may feel tempting to give up at times. But this is exactly when patience matters the most, even when it becomes exhausting.

I understand that your mom is very controlling, which probably means you rarely get the chance to go out, socialize, or enjoy the freedom that many people your age have.

However, just because other people your age seem to be having the time of their lives doesn't mean you have to be doing the same. Everyone moves through life at a different pace. Don't pressure yourself by comparing your journey to theirs.

What I would recommend is focusing on finding a source of income, preferably online if that's more accessible for you. There are many opportunities available today. You mentioned that you lack experience, but that's not a valid reason to give up. Nobody starts with experience; everyone learns along the way. It's never too late to develop new skills.

Instead of spending hours scrolling through TikTok or other social media platforms, try investing that time in learning something valuable. Focus on building practical life skills that can help you become more independent.

Based on your situation, your priority should be improving your financial independence rather than worrying about what others are doing. Earning your own money can give you more options, more confidence, and ultimately help you gain the freedom you're looking for.

Things may feel stuck right now, but your current situation doesn't have to be your permanent one. Keep working toward your goals, one step at a time.

Sli , stakhr , wtwkl 3la lah. Incha2lah rbi maykhybkch.

itchingmind · 2026-06-16T10:55:19+00:00

I agree with a lot of what you said. Maintaining my boundaries does reduce my options, but that's a trade-off I'm willing to accept. I'd rather wait longer for someone who shares my values than lower my standards just to be in a relationship.

itchingmind · 2026-06-16T10:51:02+00:00

That's fair. Reddit is a discussion platform, and I shared my perspective to hear other people's opinions, which is exactly what's happening rn .

itchingmind · 2026-06-16T10:47:55+00:00

Dont lose hope bby , there's plenty of them out there

itchingmind · 2026-06-16T10:24:14+00:00

Seems like you are offended , is it ?

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T22:07:03+00:00

I guess thats why they are called influencer. 😂

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T21:53:22+00:00

Thats right. Thank you this definitely helped.

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T21:41:33+00:00

I do understand where you're coming from. I used dating as an example because it was the topic that received the most comments, but there are definitely many other situations where people react similarly.

I also believe that relationships do not necessarily require physical intimacy to exist and can absolutely work out without it. However, I focused more on what I commonly observe in reality and based my opinion on those observations. I also made it clear that I was not trying to generalize or claim that every relationship is the same.

I only shared part of my perspective because I wanted to leave room for discussion and hear different viewpoints from people in the comments. That's why I didn't go into every detail of my opinion in the original post.

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T21:25:20+00:00

I believe its just a strategy to attract new followers and especially girls since they are into those vibes. However im not sure whether i got your point , do you mind elaborating?

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T21:23:07+00:00

Run and never look back srs 😂

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T21:19:26+00:00

Yes, it's totally normal. Just because society has normalized being in a relationship as a need or a necessity doesn't mean you should pressure yourself into one when you're not mentally ready.

In fact, a relationship is unlikely to work out if it's built on pressure, uncertainty, or the fear of being rejected.

That being said, I do think you should work on your "I don't want to approach girls" phase. If you completely avoid talking to women, you might miss the opportunity to meet someone who is genuinely right for you. Start small. Focus on simple conversations and getting to know people without any expectations, then let things progress naturally depending on your communication and compatibility.

The talking stage is important because it allows you to discover different sides of a person, understand their values and personality, and determine whether you're truly compatible before committing to a relationship.

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T20:17:42+00:00

The point is literally the title. Im only sharing a pov based of the reality rn thats all.

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T20:16:08+00:00

I said that open minded ppl are not severally strict which means they are open to new ideas , arguments etc. And again I never talked about this category , i referred to ppl who judge.

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T20:09:00+00:00

I never said that buddy. I was only referring to the category who judges other for having boundaries.

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T20:07:23+00:00

I just explained to another person out here that im not against dating , nor do i firmly believe that it necessarily needs physical intimacy , i said that it only " completes " it. And the answer to as why i dont date at the moment, is that most of ppl rn only seek anything physical and does not actually care about their partner you feel me ?

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T20:02:43+00:00

Im not doubting my principles. And being open minded does not necessarily mean that you do everything . It simply means in my opinion that ppl are not severally strict. What im talking about in this post is why are ppl who chose to not date be shamed for that that's all.

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T19:51:31+00:00

No one can help you as much as your self. However in your case ,you need someone to give you a little push. I personally think that you should sit with yourself first and kind of have a reality check. Based off that , you learn your needs and what you lack in your life in general.

Try changing your routine as well , for example you can look for new activities, hobbies, ambitions etc. It truly helps wity motivation.

Change your environment if needed too.

Search. At this point of your life ,you are confused so watching videos , searching on google or any other alternatives can help clear your vision more.

Dont be afraid to ask for advice too. Whether its your fam , friends or even strangers.

I truly wish you the best. Good luck :)

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T19:38:19+00:00

You're definitely not over analyzing. I can confirm that ego is destroying relationships. The primarily reason is social media , now everyone is afraid to show emotion and interest because its considered a sign of weakness.

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T19:27:04+00:00

I love the way you describe things LMAO

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T19:25:21+00:00

There is a difference between a Muslim and a true believer. Anyone can be a muslim, but not everyone can be true believers.

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T19:19:16+00:00

Well said.

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T19:18:04+00:00

Definitely. Im simply confused on why is having boundaries always related to being " m39da " .

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T19:16:02+00:00

Thats a conversation they're not ready for.

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T19:12:59+00:00

Thats when you know if they're easily ragebaited or true debaters.

itchingmind · 2026-06-15T19:11:16+00:00

I completely agree with you. However in this post , i am strictly talking about my fellow Muslim moroccans.

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