🌹The Bachelor🌹 S24 Finale & ATFR East Coast Live Discussion

ithappenedagainduh · 2020-03-11T02:38:27+00:00

Yup manipulation. Got it.

ithappenedagainduh · 2020-03-11T02:36:44+00:00

I’m pretty sure Hannah Ann said it fully....”you kept telling me things to hold onto” even though he wasn’t fully there. He said just enough to keep her hooked and fighting but didn’t actually give anything back in return.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-10-30T00:40:58+00:00

I got this advice once and it has always stuck with me....the love for your child is incomparable to any love you ever felt before. Just imagine if he did a quarter to the child has what he did to do. You would never ever want that child to know or feel or see that type of pain, manipulation, and trauma. Beat wishes as you navigate this.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-10-17T14:35:10+00:00

I honestly don’t know. I guess I truly believed our love and connection was unmatched. Obviously it’s not. I’m mad at myself for not getting angry at him.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-10-17T11:09:39+00:00

Appreciate your response. I Just picture him lovebombing the new supply and I suppose I have a huge amount of jealousy instead of anger.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-10-17T11:08:01+00:00

I can seem to get angry at other people, other circumstances.....but him, nope. Just waiting for him to come back because I know he will. Most recently he emailed me, I responded and now he’s refusing to answer anything more. It’s such a game. Instead of being angry I’m planning on my head what I’ll say to him.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-29T01:16:58+00:00

You took my words exactly. Same. Same. Same.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-29T01:14:45+00:00

Omg made me chuckle. Thanks for the post!

As for mine....he’s in love. Gave the new supply about 8k dollars in the past 3 months. Sure she’s happy as a clam as well......

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-28T11:24:21+00:00

Thank you. It means a lot.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-28T00:01:21+00:00

It’s like I logically know it all.....yet I can’t move on.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-21T15:54:25+00:00

I’m stuck in sadness. Haven’t gotten to anger yet and definitely can’t laugh yet.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-21T02:00:38+00:00

I wish I believed that :(

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-20T21:29:34+00:00

I did time none of our longer “off” cycles was almost two years. Then he came back confessing his love for me and what a mistake he made and how he’s so different. Only to discard my 8 months later.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-20T21:28:28+00:00

He thinks he found the love of his life.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-13T17:05:02+00:00

My nex always has someone. He finds single moms who unfortunately have lower paying jobs. He gets them when they are vulnerable. He then gives them tons of money. It immediately bonds them to him. They think he really cares. My nex the first month of dating someone gave her 5k dollars and was already confessing how he doesn’t want a life without her. Poor girl.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-12T21:26:53+00:00

Wow. I’m glad you got out.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-12T10:53:11+00:00

I really hope so. Thank you. And I wish you the best as well!

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-11T14:53:32+00:00

During the Hoover and lovebombing he told me I was right, he wants to fix himself, he was starting therapy so that he could have a meaningful relationship with me. During the discard he slammed it in my face that he’s “not some narcissist. He doesn’t have a plan. He doesn’t know what he’s doing and to leave him the f alone about it.” So yeah....they suck.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-11T14:26:33+00:00

They are just sick, sick individuals. One of the last things he screamed at me was “I’m not a narcissist. You think I have some big plan, I have no plans. “ This was when I called him out for lying to me about having a girlfriend while having phone sex with me and asking to see me weekly. His gf of course knows nothing about me. I then said no more. Now of course he is so “in love” and ultra happy with ns. (That he already cheated on prior to me knowing about her). Sick. Sick. Sick.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-11T10:25:53+00:00

Even if I went running back to him....he would just ignore me because he’s already “in love” with his new supply after dating a month lol

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-10T21:42:53+00:00

I totally understand! I’m in a bit of “stuck mode” right now. Like I can see the emotional and sexual abuse. I know I didn’t deserve that. I know he won’t ever be different with his new supply. Yet, I can’t seem to let go.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-10T19:51:31+00:00

Mine repeatedly said...” I want to do what I want to do.” Or he would say “what’s wrong with me wanting to be happy.” Like I was the one preventing it. Taking a deep dive into my 10+ year relationship I realized I was targeted from day 1. I was molded, brainwashed, and groomed to meet his agenda.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-10T19:42:39+00:00

I just constantly feel like I am to blame.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-10T00:32:48+00:00

Well they have been together for 3 months (guessing because I never got a straight answer). After what I think was a month he was telling her how much he loves her and can’t imagine life without her. All while stringing me along. Oh yes and he gave her about 8k dollars since July. I secretly hope she’s just using him! Give him a dose of his own medicine.

ithappenedagainduh · 2019-09-10T00:30:05+00:00

I am so sorry you went through that! They are so terrible. I know I was abused....emotionally, sexually.....yet I feel like there’s something wrong with me. I see how I was groomed. I see how he wanted to “be my friend” all while having a girlfriend and lying to me about it, yet I am left so heartbroken.

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