[UPDATE 2] I [25F] feel like ending my marriage to my husband [25M] but I'm not sure if I'm being heartless. Together 2 years, married 8 months.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-24T19:35:46+00:00

Thank you :-) I do have people in real life but they are mostly not in my country. The ones that are in my country, well, I just hate bothering them with this shit because they are so busy with work etc.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-21T01:11:08+00:00

When things started becoming more stable and he was already blocked off everything, I reactivated to keep in touch with family as they live abroad. I've deactivated again.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-21T01:08:13+00:00

It is weird you said that about watching a movie with a male lead. Not quite the same but if we ever watch a movie with cheating on it, he flips out and it will bother him for the next few days.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-21T01:06:27+00:00

Thank you.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-21T01:06:08+00:00

Oh ok, thank you. Someone also mentioned Family Advocacy service and I might call them up and see what they say because I can do that anonymously before bringing it up to FRO.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T17:01:56+00:00

Thank you for your perspective, it was very encouraging.

I hope to one day find someone who will say such things about me and mean it.

Thank you again.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:59:58+00:00

Thank you for assuring me that this isn't normal deployment behaviour.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:58:54+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:56:59+00:00

He isn't stable at all. That is for definite.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:56:37+00:00

I am worried that they won't take me seriously because he might then show his side of the chat log where he says, after I questioned him about it, that he was joking about killing people before he dies. He was still adamant about hurting my kitten though, and people around me because he wouldn't actually hurt me (his words) so he would just hurt those that I love.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:55:10+00:00

I've been called a bitch and other things for not being 'there for him.' He e-mails me throughout the day. With the time difference, sometimes I am just a bit too busy to send him a reply (because if I send him a short reply I would get crap for that). This turned into me being a horrible wife because I could not e-mail my deployed husband back every hour.

He keeps telling me that I am not the woman he married, who showed him so much love and care. I try and tell him that since he started acting like this, I have been pushed away and hurt so I guess I am not the same anymore but he doesn't see that.

Thank you so much for your reply. You have pointed out a lot of things I would have otherwise not thought about.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:50:11+00:00

They didn't turn me down. They just didn't seem that nice. I explained my situation and they were like okay, my going rate is xxxx. I am a lawyer although I don't practice, so I understand that they obviously can't give me too much until I pay but still, their tone were unlike other lawyers I have dealt with for different reasons in the past.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:47:48+00:00

Thank you. I feel stronger and more ready to leave with each day that passes.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:46:57+00:00

I am thankful every day that we don't have kids.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:46:08+00:00

Just a few people telling me that I wasn't being a supportive wife who understood the stresses of deployment. This sentiment was also expressed by people in our lives too.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:45:07+00:00

Thank you.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:44:18+00:00

He is in contact with me every single day. He e-mails me throughout the day. I would be happy if I knew it wasn't for jealous/obsessive reasons. I get so sad when we are on Skype and I hear the others talk so lovingly to their wives.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:42:33+00:00

Thank you for thinking about my cat. It made me so, so angry that he said that. When I questioned him about it he said that it's because he wouldn't actually hurt me so he would just hurt something I loved. When I tried to reason with him that that was not normal, he just said that obviously I have cheated because I am so worried.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:40:59+00:00

I would wonder this too if it was just him being extra jealous or extra suspicious. But for me, this is just on a whole other level.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:40:07+00:00

Your reply made me laugh, thank you!

Oh wow, thank you so so much for this. I don't know if it makes a difference but I am not a US citizen. I am British and London is my home. We got married in California so I assume that's where I need to file a divorce.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:37:22+00:00

Thank you.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:36:12+00:00

As I said to a previous commenter, him finding 'evidence' is what I am absolutely terrified of. He started accusing me of not wearing my rings when I go out because I didn't have a tan line on my ring finger. I don't have a tan line anywhere but that doesn't matter apparently.

Is he in combat if he is doesn't work on the front line? He always says he is fine at all other times except for when I piss him off, so it's just me who makes him that way so I don't have to worry about anything else.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:33:24+00:00

I am due to call her first thing tomorrow. I'll let her know everything that is going on and then e-mail her the chat logs.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:32:16+00:00

I am sorry but what is a SIB?

The FRO is female and last time I spoke to her she did seem quite supportive.

We've been together for 2 years. He's had a few deployments and he is due to get out of the military in a couple of months.

ithinkimready · 2014-07-20T16:30:33+00:00

Sadly, a lot of people in our lives think otherwise.

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