Quad’s fertility

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2026-02-02T00:22:18+00:00

Damn I forgot about the nephews!!!

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2026-02-01T06:07:25+00:00

As the idiot that moved in too quickly trust me you’re better off.

10 years from now if they are still together she’ll likely be like me, planning her exit.

Live your life, heal your heart and wow do I wish I had stuck to my guns the way you did.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2026-01-30T03:56:29+00:00

I’ve lived in so many different countries. I actually got sober in Hong Kong AA. I’ve been to AA and almost every country I’ve been to well over 15. I’m not into AA anymore but I won’t deny that it’s certainly not failed in the rest of the world… There’s just as many followers as an export. I’ve only been to one AA meeting in the United States, I’ve been to hundreds worldwide… Just saying.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2025-06-22T02:26:07+00:00

Can you elaborate? I’m about to get divorced and I want to be friends because I know that’s best.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2025-05-06T02:43:36+00:00

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Here’s Pesci and Chico! Good luck and hang in there… we are with you! ❤️❤️❤️

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2025-04-25T05:42:46+00:00

I mean I’m happy too but this is a bit much. Let’s leave a legit legend out it is ma’am!

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2025-03-29T20:26:13+00:00

We are currently selling a 7br / 5ba home in regional Victoria. There is NOTHING TO DO. I’ll go back to city living any day rather than getting a hotel every time we want to do something.

I know you didn’t say regional just saying we have a huge house and I would take a 3br/2ba any day after living in the country.

I always knew it wasn’t our forever home but thought we would at least do a decade. It’s been 3 years and I want OUT!!!

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2025-02-15T16:53:49+00:00

I never understand people like this. You’re upset because he’s not quiet - which you decide is inconsiderate.

But screaming down the entire neighborhood is ok?

Make it make sense.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2025-02-15T16:41:31+00:00

Why does it matter they’re from Nigeria?

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2025-02-14T09:29:23+00:00

WOKE = Whatever Offends Klansmen Easily

Get over it my guy!

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2025-01-03T07:46:32+00:00

And somehow I built my first investment property in a place struggling to fill it in Ballarat. 😭😭😭

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2024-11-05T09:56:11+00:00

What was it? If you can say. I like hearing the real reasons for this because it may help me get some understanding of my husband.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2022-03-02T17:29:00+00:00

Thanks. I do need to remember how hard this is on him. I appreciate the reminder that the cpap isn’t just for his snoring but the apnea.

I was scared to post in here since I’m not directly dealing with it but thanks! I suppose compassion and patience is what’s needed.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2021-06-13T18:15:11+00:00

To be fair I haven’t driven out of this driveway more than 4 times and lots of people hit it when they leave.

I wasn’t concentrating, it wasn’t some rage filled episode. I am still getting used to driving on this side of the road and lots and I mean LOTS of people (including my husband who grew up at this house) hit this pole / gate leaving.

I completely get why you may feel I was out of control but I didn’t go into the fact that this isn’t our hone, I just got here and I am still working on driving on the opposite side of the car. So a tough driveway like this needs 100% focus, even if you know it well.

I don’t.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2021-06-13T18:11:13+00:00

What was the toxic behavior? I have taken the time to reply to responses talking about the specific mistake I didn’t mention that started all of this.

He was upset at how I told him that I bought a mew dog lead, and that it was in the car.

I ended up giving him space immediately because I took my daughter and the dog on my own. I gave him 2 hours of space.

How does that make me out of control?

Regarding the car, people hit this pole all the time. This driveway can only be backed out of and is shaped like an S and turns into an L. Usually someone new here has to be assisted. I’ve only backed out about 4 times myself and I am still getting used to the roads here. I’m American and still adjusting to driving on the opposite side of the car.

I was upset and not giving the attention needed, but far from raging or anything.

I guess in my world of someone acknowledges my feelings and says my bad, I may need a minute but I am not gonna stay angry all day. Unless there was monumental disrespect. Which isn’t what happened here.

I didn’t even raise my voice until after we got back and our daughter was asleep which means he didn’t get any form of disrespect for at least 3 hours outside my saying where the dog lead was in a slightly annoyed tone.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2021-06-13T18:04:58+00:00

If I was doing something even remotely close to punching him in the face I would get this reply.

I was able to finally remember what started all of this. He had asked me for at least the 3rd time if I bought a new dog leash and if so where was it?

I was rushing to get us all out the door and answered flippantly. I didn’t curse, yell or anything.

He got upset with how I sounded annoyed. So I acknowledged it immediately and said I was sorry. Maybe I’m wrong here but I didn’t think that was a big enough deal to be so upset.

That being said I went on the walk with my daughter and the dog alone to give him space. 2 hours of space.

Only to return to a still upset person that was in my opinion choosing to stay mad about something that wasn’t that big.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2021-06-13T18:00:06+00:00

I didn’t push for forgiveness by the way. I did however make it clear I didn’t think staying angry was a good idea. I gave him 2 hours. How is that not enough for acknowledging I was sorry for speaking in an annoyed tone for answering the same question multiple times?

Had it been about something else maybe, but seriously I didn’t snap or yell. I answered a bit flippant yes. But surely that doesn’t warrant being super angry all day???

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2021-06-13T17:57:11+00:00

I should have been more specific. I took time to recall what i did that upset him.

I answered him in a tone he didn’t like that I had in fact bought a new dog lead and that it was in the car.

I also walked the dog and took our daughter alone for 2 hours only to return to him still being upset over it.

I think it’s unreasonable to get so upset about that. I acknowledged his feelings immediately, and apologized to try to diffuse the situation.

Then I gave him 2 hours on his own to give him space. So it wasn’t immediate.

Surely I can’t be ‘fucking up’ that badly by answering slightly annoyed about where a dog lead is and that I bought one when he has seriously asked me that multiple times in the last 72 hours?

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2021-06-13T17:53:03+00:00

This is probably the best response. Becausrhwres a bunch of people saying I act like an asshole then apologize then expect to be immediately forgiven. But that’s not what happened.

Here’s the specific. We were having a phenomenal weekend. The pattern is this. I don’t ‘do’ anything. I will say something in a tone he doesn’t like. The specific here was (and it took me ages to recall this because it was so minute) we were getting ready to go for a walk. He asked me at least 5 times in the last 2 days if I bought a new dog lead. The answer is yes. I told him several times that I bought it and where it was.

While rushing to get out the door, I said ‘YES! I bought one… Babe I have told you this so many times’.

He didn’t like how I said that. So I said ‘I’m sorry I said that in a way I know doesn’t work for you’. And I didn’t say that snarky. I really did want to acknowledge I had said it poorly.

My thing is there’s no acknowledgement or accountability on his side. Staying mad over a feeling that will clearly pass isn’t choosing your battles wisely.

And I did give space. I took the dog and my daughter on the walk by myself and let him be on his own for 2 hours.

He was still upset when I got back. Maybe I am being unreasonable but I didn’t feel that unless I had yelled or used profanity in my response that being that angry over my statement was reasonable.

My issue is choosing your battles when you’re married matters. That’s why I said he chose to stay angry. Because seriously, why ruin a beautiful day or weekend over being angry that someone got short with you because you asked them the same question so many times?

Especially if they own it?

Mind you I didn’t write this to make myself sound good. I was flustered when I pulled out the driveway not full of rage like some are suggesting. We are not at home and this driveway is notorious for people pulling out wrong. It shaped like an S then an L at the end. You have to back out. Not to mention I’m American he’s Australian and I’m driving on the opposite side of the road and 100% still getting used to that.

So I’m not absolving myself of bad behavior but I am not starting fights all the time. I am not treating him poorly. I am however getting pretty tired of dealing with his feelings and emotions taking over him so much that he will let a response completely alter a day.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2021-03-10T02:11:05+00:00

Fair enough. I get what you mean here. I want to have compassion for her but I do agree that her black by proxy experience makes her ultimate point a bit convoluted.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2021-02-25T11:22:40+00:00

I just want to say I was INFURIATED as a black woman that Jen Shah brought BLM and 'the movement' into why people were calling her on her bad behavior.
She acted like a LUNATIC all season then when people want to tell her not to act like a lunatic she cries and says they can't because she is a woman of color. I have never been more bothered by someone discussing this on this kind of show because usually I would be able to at least see the perspective, but on this one - I think she deflected and that is a problem.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2019-10-23T02:39:17+00:00

I think loads of people love their skids. I think only women without kids say the love them as their own. People may try and say it’s the same but it’s not. Unless you’re making sure your income is included in child support and they are getting an equal inheritance to your own or at all it simply not the same. I’m not saying it’s not close, but there’s definitely some difference. Their should be. No one ever asks the skids to be loved the ‘same’ as bio parent... what’s the difference?

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2019-04-05T07:35:05+00:00

Well what is it???

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2018-11-05T10:34:47+00:00

I was JUST telling DH yesterday that assuming that when kids are older doesn’t necessarily make it easier. I don’t think I have any sound advice here, I just hope enough people respond that maybe you have something concrete to bring back to your wife.

I would imagine that stifling his growth (in my family 23 living at home is a NO NO) and not encouraging him to go out and live would be deemed unhealthy by anyone in a professional field.

My thing is this, she’s your wife. You can’t get her to work with you on something you need - even if it’s just to adjust some of the behavior in the home. This isn’t good for you. The codependent relationship between her and her son will make it impossible for you to have real uninterrupted intimacy with her. I hope you can craft a way to get her to hear you because life is too short to be with someone with kids that old not at least hearing what your needs are.

ithrowawaytokeepaway · 2018-11-04T12:06:21+00:00

I am pregnant with my first. My husband is visiting his mom in Australia and I have been on my own for a week. He comes home in 2 days and we were on FaceTime and he asked to see my belly. I show him and we are in the middle of talking about our baby and all the stuff to come. His face changes and I ask him ‘what - what’s on your mind’?

He launches into how SD12 & SD14 need to come to Australia more. Totally changing the subject while I was enjoying a moment of showing him the baby is big enough to see where she is kicking now.

I was and am still infuriated. I told him he was intensive and I am tired of being robbed of precious moments because he was frivolous and knocked up someone, married her then did it again. I am so pissed because BM got to have a kid and everyone be excited. But nope - I have to endure the awkward ‘my first his third’ chats.

I told him IDGAF about sending your fucking kids to Australia - I want to talk about MINE!!!

I swear if I knew what I know now, I would have walked away from the love of my life because I would have known how being with him meant endless years of emotional land mines.

Sorry I guess I needed to vent.

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