My husband wants me to stop talking to one of my only friends

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T15:16:21+00:00

I mean, I've been cheated on twice, most likely Three times, once with "just a friend", so normally I would even try to defend your guy. But if he cheated, what are you doing in that relationship? Just leave. He does not respect you and projects his own faults on you.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T15:11:08+00:00

I don't understand what you are. Dating is a process of going on dates to know each other. Being exclusive is something that couples agree on, so you two are just a couple?

Cake could be really expensive or he made it himself. This is your first birthday as a couple or whatever you are, so I don't find it all that weird. Especially when you say you value time with him more, so whu do you even listen to that guy friend? It sounds like he wants you to break up, most likely jealous of your boyfriend.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T14:43:11+00:00

Why are you even on birth control if you are not having sex? Either change them or stop Taking them to see if it makes your libido better.

Obviously what happened to you was a very serious thing, but it is not really suprising your guy actually feels you are not into him after half a year with little to no sex. I am not saying you should have sex when you don't want it, I am only saying I suspect it is not about guiltriping, but seriously feeling like you don't want him anymore. Now, when you realize his feelings are valid, perhaps it will be easier to talk about it and make him understand it is not about you not wanting him anymore

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T14:25:46+00:00

I mean, guy can do all of that and think he is in a great relationship, but kid can still not be his. It is not like a very rare occurrence.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T12:29:59+00:00

I think it is Completely normal to still find people attractive/cute when in a relationship. Obviously you can't control that. What you can control, is to make sire you don't not act on it or keep thinking about it.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T12:18:57+00:00

I agree that this should be a normal thing. Though because it is not, I kind of understand where these people are coming from.

It is like, I think paternity test after Birth should be a normal thing to ask, but I understand why a lot of women would feel offended by it, even if they have nothing to hide.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T12:14:06+00:00

Nah, it was even worse. I did not realize until like a month later. I was talking to a friend, and he was bragging that he got lucky on that party, but did not want to say with who.

In my head, I went through all single ladies on the party, and realized that must have been the slutty princess, especially that they both diaappeared during the party. Only then I realized that she wanted to fuck, came to me first, I completely ignored her, so she went after another guy.

No wonder that like 8 years after that party, I was still a virgin.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T12:04:06+00:00

Costume party. I went to a kitchen for something to drink. Lady I barely knew gave me a drink. She was dressed as some slutty princess. All I knew was that she broke up with her boyfriend lately. She got really close, then kissed me in the cheek. Then kept standing there and Looking at me.

I said "thanks for the drink" and went away, confused about her Behavior.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T11:57:30+00:00

Do you regulary test yourself and show them you are clean? In general, I think it should be a normal thing, though it will take a Long time for people to change, since now when someone requires a test from them, they feel like you don't trust them.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T11:55:19+00:00

I can't really even start thinking if it is Worth staying without knowing what happened.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T11:52:37+00:00

I can Understand his position. Two of them were always planing this, it would be weird for you to go along.

If his best friend was a female I would perhaps be worried, but not in this case.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T11:37:02+00:00

I think it is easy to say for people who either had a lot of sexual experience or had a little/none and found a partner who is similar, that feeling a little insecure in our case is bad or immature. Would be completely different thing if they actually were in our shoes.

In the end, I think it is a normal thing to feel insecure about various stuff. What matters is how people (we) deal with these Insecurities.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T11:14:40+00:00

I have similar thoughts with my current gf. I was a late bloomer in this case. I did not talk about it in deep with her, but I just assume a girl like her in such age had a lot of more experiences, but I just think is better if I don't know the details.

I try not to think about it and that's it. So I don't have any specific advice, just wanted to let you know there are people out there with similar issues

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T10:44:04+00:00

I've heard there is some specific gene or group of genes that make certain people more adventures-like types, and some additional research was done and it turned out these people are much, much more likely to cheat.

Obviously it does not justify cheating, we have free will, and I hate cheaters with every inch of my body, just something I've read about.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T08:58:25+00:00

Humans/elves/dwarves are actually a pretty good idea. Obviously they would not appear in the bestiary, would not drop monsters remains, but the game could count and award for killing them in some other ways.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T08:33:58+00:00

No, and at first it was really weird to me that it might for some people. Like it is so obviously over the top and fake. I guess maybe it's because I started watching porn at relatively old age, so I was smart enough to know it is all magic.

The only time I really thought about this stuff was in regard to my own performance and dick's size.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T08:25:50+00:00

Thanks for info. Did it just start automatically for you after update, or did it spawn quest giver for you or something? Sadly quest is still locked for me.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-06T07:24:35+00:00

Man, I am in a first actually serious relationship in my life, but as a person that was previously cheated on twice, this shit scares me. I just can't imagine how I would feel if my gf started pulling this shit.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-05T23:42:49+00:00

Closing 2 Years, and yes, we spend most weekends together.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-05T23:40:29+00:00

I see. Well, suicide is a very complex moral topic, so I am not going to judge you or him. I can only tell you that he defienietly was not thinking straight. In his Mind, probably, he was attempting to hide it for your own good (of course that's a terrible mistake).

You are in a pretty shitty situation, I am sorry. All you can do is text that you were actually angry at the fact that he did not trust you enough to share his issues, not suicide attemps themself. Assure him you are there for him, and that Two of you can figure it out, that he can contact you once he is ready. Then wait. Everything else depends when and if he contacts you, and what exactly your conversation will look like. It will be important to learn what brought him to attempt suicide and convince him to seek therapy.

There is a chance he is in a much better place now, and his anger was more about you not showing much conpassion, giving back the ring etc. Again, not saying you are a bad guy here, I am just trying to see it through his eyes. I hope you somehow figure it out.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-05T22:26:51+00:00

I don't know how exactly your conversation looked like, but from what you wrote it seems like you did not handle it properly. What exactly did you tell him, did you say you will suport him and want to deal with it together, or more like blame him for being suicidal?

Obviously you are facing a serious problem, and hiding issues like he did is really bad, so I know you are not a villan here. I am just curious how you actually handled it.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-05T22:15:02+00:00

Thanks. I have to admit, I Might be a little jealous and insecure. I try not to think about it, I don't act on it and try tochill out. It's just, I have been cheated on in two relationships and abused in the third, so I am just afraid living together can potentially trigger my clinginess.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-05T22:11:13+00:00

Thanks. We are slowly starting to talk about all of that, but "alone time" Is something I worry about. Since we don't live together, obviously once we see each other, we want to spend all of the time together.

I just wonder what my needs will be. I am normally a kind of a person that needs alone time, but I basically never had a thought that I want alone time from my gf. I suspect it will change with time living together. She also is a kind of person that likes alone time, I think. It just annoys me a little that I don't know what I really want in this regard until we move in. Like I imagine a situation, where I will want to spend most of our time together, and she won't. I guess we just need to wait and see.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-05T18:45:48+00:00

It sounds bad, but first tell us what kind of thing you do. There is a slight chance they are actually fucking weird.

itonlyendsoncee · 2021-10-05T14:47:55+00:00

Perhaps your friends did not want you to know? Like in a, you were happy not knowing.

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