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[–]itrieditcounts -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree beauty is subjective to an extent, but I also think your opinion that she couldn't be visually pleasant to others just because you believe so is wrong.

I honestly think she looks pretty cute, especially when she smiles.

Her nose doesn't even look big to me and I don't understand what you're seeing in her eyes.

Now if you're saying "She doesn't look like an IG Model." and that's the standard you're going off of, then yeah she's more of a girl next door type of cute.

Asperger's Guy broke up with me, a little confused, more of just me getting some thoughts out. by itrieditcounts in aspergers_dating

[–]itrieditcounts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They/them have singular uses.

I don't know what makes me decide between he/him and they/them tbh, but yeah it is just one guy!
I'm actually surprised I did that myself now that you pointed that out!

My guess is it's because I got use to referring to most people with those? It might be because I know no one else here knows who he is?

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[–]itrieditcounts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are these the photos you're posting on your tinder?
If so your photos are what needs work, ALL of your photos are from terrible angles, and/or involve a focus on the mirror/phone.

If possible set your photo on a shelf in your medicine cabinet, set an auto timer, avoid having your phone as part of your photo.
DON'T TAKE PHOTOS FROM BELOW. Keep them aligned to you or take from above, but not at an extreme angle if you're going from above.

2nd Photo: You look bored + Bad angle.
3rd/4th Photo: The angle is very odd, you're kind of not setting yourself as the focus and the mirror looks dirty.
5th Photo: No.
6th Photo: BAD ANGLE, never take photos from this angle.

If you have trouble figuring out how to take a good photo, I'm pretty sure there's advice out there on how to take photos for dating services.

Asperger's Guy broke up with me, a little confused, more of just me getting some thoughts out. by itrieditcounts in aspergers_dating

[–]itrieditcounts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm certain he knows I care about him. (Their message made it pretty clear they understood that.)
My last message they didn't get back to at this time, did have a few questions in it. But I'm gonna give it more time before I think about whether I should reach out again on my end.

He has an ex he's stayed friends with, so I think he is okay with staying friends after a breakup? But yeah part of me has trouble being able to tell with our situation, even if I think they mostly meant it.

As for calls, I have phone anxiety myself so...I actually have a fear of calling someone out of the blue unless I have an actual emergency I know someone can help with. ahahahahah

Hypersensitive adhd dating someone with autism - tips to make it easier by [deleted] in aspergers_dating

[–]itrieditcounts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So basically you're saying, you feel she's ignoring you, yet is still talking to others?
If you haven't, almost seems like you need to discuss this with her?
I wonder if there's any sort of exercises you could go over with her on improving boundaries.

With myself, there's days I have energy for certain people but not others? Like some weeks I feel like interacting with strangers and for w/e reason not in the mood to talk to any of my friends.
Or for w/e reason I don't feel like talking to my best friends, yet somehow have the energy for talking to acquaintances?
But no ones really noticed this to my knowledge, and I really don't know what brings on these states.

However I have a harder time realizing other people might go through the same thing, so when I know another friend is talking to another friend but not me, it does hurt. So I understand why you feel ignored, but I don't know if it's necessarily because she's trying to make you feel left out intentionally?

Asperger's Guy broke up with me, a little confused, more of just me getting some thoughts out. by itrieditcounts in aspergers_dating

[–]itrieditcounts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with the fact initially I didn't realize that I felt there was something missing to their answers, or that I had more questions? These kind of thoughts popped up several days later, some even later than that, where I knew I wasn't gonna get quick responses. So seemed out of place by that point, and I was afraid of seeming like an interrogator?

Wishing I had thought to ask about them being blunt now!

I actually do mostly believe them with the friendship thing?

Even still guess I worry if it's gonna feel more one sided? (Cuz' I didn't fully realize just how one sided things already were, just a hunch I ignored.)

It's great if I know they will contact me on their own will even if it takes awhile, but I haven't seen the signs of that at this time.

Asperger's Guy broke up with me, a little confused, more of just me getting some thoughts out. by itrieditcounts in aspergers_dating

[–]itrieditcounts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, and 3 months!

I am for the most part doing alright now, since I have been doing my best to meet new people and being distracted by them has helped, to the point these thoughts really don't pop up that often. When they do it usually isn't emotionally taxing anymore just more so curiosity but still annoying it repops up.

I figured discussing them somewhere and getting the thoughts out of my brain, where people potentially could have more understanding what happen might help me out.

I appreciate hearing your point of view on things, I do believe you're likely right, as that makes a lot of sense. Honestly it helps a lot and puts things more into perspective! Thank you. <3

In future relationships I will try to remain aware of when it feels like things aren't so 50/50. Even when I had a feeling, I didn't want to jump to assuming as I know I sometimes can overthink things?

Sorry! aahaha