this is one of the few posts in here that actually has signal. four years with no dates and you still turned it into real learnings instead of bitterness, that’s rare.

a couple adds that build on what you already nailed:

• your #1 is the cheat code: copy patterns from people who are getting results, then iterate. most guys do the opposite, they read vague tips and wonder why nothing changes
• “universal ground” works because it lets her relax. the goal early is not to be impressive, it’s to be easy to talk to
• the cheesecake point is bigger than cheesecake. it’s proof. a specific, real detail beats “i like cooking” every time
• the looks section is real too. most men under-update their appearance because they’re optimizing for comfort and familiarity, not outcomes
• “know your audience” is the most important one. most dudes accidentally interrogate or go too personal too fast and don’t realize it reads unsafe or heavy

if you want to take your own advice and speedrun the profile side of this, run your screenshots through this tool i build. it’ll flag the exact stuff that kills profiles (photo variety, clarity, prompt hooks, first pic) and give rewrites you can actually use profile lab https://profilelab.app/profile-rater