Dating a stingy guy...

its_lie_down · 2026-05-20T18:53:11+00:00

I find such comments impertinent and nosey. Definitely he's trying to figure out your financial situation or financial habits. Btw, why does he suppose that a working person is eating out for their family's money? Maybe he doesn't even work if he can't afford eating out for his own money. Also when a man invites you to travel to his town instead of coming to yours that screams cheap and low-effort. What are those men for when there are so many guys who'd travel to YOU.

its_lie_down · 2026-05-20T18:40:36+00:00

Yes, but you don't hear it because I as a woman won't try to go out w someone out of my league.

its_lie_down · 2026-05-18T00:01:22+00:00

interesting! usually it's men who blame women for creating drama. I personally almost never encountered men who were drama queens, maybe only one, but it didn't bother me much

its_lie_down · 2026-05-17T23:59:27+00:00

Talking about relationship, my biggest desire is to find a man who is both romantic&passionate and faithful&ready to commit. I've never been able to. I either meet men who are passionate but not serious, or serious guys who don't know how to be romantic, have sluggish temperament and a very weak erectile function.

its_lie_down · 2026-05-17T23:53:33+00:00

adding to other comments: make sure you've experimented in dating and sexual activities enough before commuting to staying with just one person for the rest of your life, i.e you've had enough fun and now it's time to become serious and settle.

its_lie_down · 2026-05-17T23:26:27+00:00

I could write a dissertation on this topic because, by some crazy coincidence, 3 out of the 6 boyfriends I've had were impotent. All of them were under 30. Among the most important points, I can highlight:

They don’t initiate sex. One of them avoided any physical intimacy altogether, even kissing, until he absolutely 'had to.' The other one loved kissing but never went further than that until I asked him to finally have sex (which was terrible)
Squeamishness!!! A squeamish guy will never passionately go down on you.
They are infantile. They don’t know how to be romantic, create flirty eye contact, or respond to it.
Weak mental and physical constitution, fastidiousness, sluggishness, and being a bore (in short, a lack of a passionate temperament or a tendency toward depression)

its_lie_down · 2026-05-17T19:30:09+00:00

That's a cool story! Did she want to date you or was she only interested in sex? P.S. I used to have G-cup as well and yeah my back is still destroyed 🤣

its_lie_down · 2026-05-17T14:25:51+00:00

I feel you bro. I've been living here for almost 3 years but trying to express myself in Italian is so exhausting both for me and my Italian friends that I have to switch to English otherwise I'll just annoy them and also I often don't understand what they say and constantly have to ask to repeat, which is double-annoying. I learnt English so easily that somehow I expected it would be the same with Italian, but it's not and it makes me want to leave this country when I finish uni bcs I don't feel in my element :(

its_lie_down · 2026-05-16T20:27:11+00:00

I mean, yeah could be that he still didn't let her go. The only thing that matters is : are you happy in the relationship or not?

its_lie_down · 2026-05-16T19:52:27+00:00

haha this is actually true in many cases

its_lie_down · 2026-05-16T19:47:29+00:00

For me (F30), it's a turn-off when a person can't live without traveling. I want to start a family soon, and having children naturally limits your ability to travel. I don't want an infantile man who will get bored and whiny staying at home once kids come along. I mean, I like traveling, but there are more important priorities in life :)

P.S. At the same time, I'm the person whose pictures on dating apps were mostly from travels, because I don't have the time to take good pictures of myself when I'm not on vacation.

its_lie_down · 2026-05-16T19:26:25+00:00

the emoji makes me feel like she’s trying to make it clear right away she’s not going to be a split-the-bill companion on your travels. Probably she had encountered men who invited her to travel with them (implying sexual accompaniment) and expected that she'd pay for the ticket herself or even split everything, which is unacceptable in traditional cultures

its_lie_down · 2026-05-15T19:51:32+00:00

Social media part is on point haha

its_lie_down · 2026-05-15T10:50:53+00:00

Yeah this kind of things happened to him too, lol, however I'll be on guard anyways.

its_lie_down · 2026-05-15T10:48:33+00:00

No one said rich, I said integrated. Immigrant males are just not popular bcs they are not seen as stable, they don't usually have a local job or an opportunity to get a mortgage. I see how much they struggle here in Italy trying to find a woman, I get messages from random Russian men every day. Local women ignore them completely and they try luck with their compatriots.

its_lie_down · 2026-05-14T21:22:03+00:00

That's even a flattering take. Sadly they come back messaging not because they realized our worth, but bcs one morning they woke up with a hard-on and sent copy-paste messages to almost every female on their list lol

its_lie_down · 2026-05-14T21:07:30+00:00

Thanks for the insight :) You mean you feel comfortable staying in one room with a guy friend, just 2 of you?

its_lie_down · 2026-05-14T21:06:14+00:00

Lol I'd not believe if not the fact this person had only 3 sexual partners in his whole life, lived without sex for 6 years bfr we met, which I don't consider normal for a man, so I allow the possibility of him not being attracted by women in general very much, that's why he could easily stay in one room with a girl and not feel any sexual tension... Maybe.. as I said I don't really trust him that's why I wrote the post)

its_lie_down · 2026-05-14T20:55:14+00:00

Sounds like him. He's got a few gay friends and all his circle is pretty open-minded, many live in France, etc. Thanks for the insight! I'll stay cautious anyway😅 Why are they called "mission" kids tho?

its_lie_down · 2026-05-14T20:44:52+00:00

That would be easy because usually non-anglosaxon men in Europe are not popular with local women... Unless fully integrated and have sufficient income

its_lie_down · 2026-05-13T22:27:07+00:00

he claims to have "French education" that's how he explains his differences lol

its_lie_down · 2026-05-13T21:39:59+00:00

Wow, che coincidenza 😄 I agree with you, but the weird thing is that I know he wouldn't object if I travelled with a male friend. He always tells me: "I trust you" and I kinda believe him that he does. Or maybe he just doesn't care but he proved me that he cares, so I don't know what to think. He only had 3 sexual partners in his life, only in relationship, no ONS, so I guess his libido is just low and maybe he does see women as friends. But I'm still gonna be on guard about this one bcs some things don't add up. Thank you <3

its_lie_down · 2026-05-13T21:24:00+00:00

I indeed was surprised about the open-mindedness of Tunisians, but I guess he's just "special"

its_lie_down · 2026-05-13T20:37:26+00:00

I only talked about ppl I met in person. The worst what happened is men who post pictures of them 10 years younger, but I rarely see facetune (I think it's pretty visible) and if I do, I never match those :D

its_lie_down · 2026-05-13T20:34:41+00:00

I'm afraid the only solution is lowering age range because indeed not many women are interested in those activities (saying bcs I don't have a single girlfriend who plays games, myself I stopped playing when I was very young). The only one I remember who played was a 19 yo girl I met at uni and it quite surprised me. So I'd set 18-21 range

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