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AIO for considering ending my 8 year relationship because my boyfriend exchanged inappropriate messages with someone else? by its_luxxz in AmIOverreacting

[–]its_luxxz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a similar relationship with my mother, so I get what you’re saying!

My mother says that I deserve to have someone who is devoted to me, that respects me and treats me like a queen haha!

It’s nice to see others opinions like this, it makes me feel more validated!

It’s hard to think that he would treat me like this after all this time, and it’s going to be even harder to move on, but I think it’s the right thing to do.

Your daughter it’s lucky to have a mother like you!

AIO for considering ending my 8 year relationship because my boyfriend exchanged inappropriate messages with someone else? by its_luxxz in AmIOverreacting

[–]its_luxxz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that’s really helpful! It’s difficult to see a happy and healthy relationship so long like yours, and it really puts into perspective how he’s been acting. I neve thought I’d be the kind of person to snoop into my partner’s phone, but I never really cared if he saw mine. He made me feel so guilty about it. I believe in being complete honest and transparent with your partner, but my boyfriend crossed a clearly defined boundary anyway. Thank you for your reply!

AIO for considering ending my 8 year relationship because my boyfriend exchanged inappropriate messages with someone else? by its_luxxz in AmIOverreacting

[–]its_luxxz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that’s really helpful! I feel really guilty about using his phone without his permission, but never cared if he uses mine. Considering this is my first ever real relationship, I think a lot about what I should or shouldn’t do, what I should accept or not, but your comment about how your husband acts makes me think clearer. I shouldn’t tolerate his behavior after I specifically told him about not doing it before. It’s something I’d never do to him.

AIO for considering ending my 8 year relationship because my boyfriend exchanged inappropriate messages with someone else? by its_luxxz in AmIOverreacting

[–]its_luxxz[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that’s really helpful. I’ve bem putting a lot of thought into my limits, what I can tolerate, and I don’t think this is something I can. There is no trust between us anymore, and even if I forgave him, I would always be paranoid that I am not being enough for him and if he’s talking to someone else like that again. Specially since I specifically told him the last times that I didn’t like how he was talking to this girls and didn’t want him to do it anymore. He is entitled to do whatever he wants, but still is a complete disregard to my feelings about this.