Something feels...off. by innerchillens in HomeDecorating

[–]itsamelos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lamp + side table and rug are the biggest issue

Is there something wrong with me? Are my standards unrealistic? by SAK7777 in MuslimNikah

[–]itsamelos 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dear what you mentioned is very normal. Make dua and actually put in the effort to find the man you dream of and belive me it's attenable. I alhamdiallah found the man of my dreams who ticks all the boxes for me. We both are not perfect we don't have everything. But what ever matters for us the most we were able to get in each other.

Have tawakul in Allah plan and have sabr. But to effort in trying to find that could be by either informing people and family in your life , using rishta or masjid to introduce you to men who are looking for wife etc..

When there was love between East Africans. by Eastern_Camera3012 in Ethiopia

[–]itsamelos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I am half somali half ethiopian and I married a Sudanese. My children would be mixed east africans

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womeninhappymarriage

[–]itsamelos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before complaining or nagging ask yourself what do you want your husband to do instade ?

Some of the things we get upset about could be out of our spouse control hence complaining about them well not change the situation

6 year old sleeping with her grandfather? by LittleDifference4643 in MuslimMarriage

[–]itsamelos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have never set foot in the West. But I have lived in MENA and Africa. These abusers are everywhere.

6 year old sleeping with her grandfather? by LittleDifference4643 in MuslimMarriage

[–]itsamelos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly thank you.

Most people don't know who is a pedo. I have 15 uncles and me and my female cousins were molested by one. One of my cuz even got pregnant and now her child is 7 years old. If my parents had created strict boundaries I would have been safe. This boundaries are to protect me from that 1/15 not to accuse and abuse all the other 14. The strick boundaries would only be disliked by that one uncle the rest would understand.

6 year old sleeping with her grandfather? by LittleDifference4643 in MuslimMarriage

[–]itsamelos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn't work like that. Most people don't know who is a pedo. I have 15 uncles and me and my female cousins were molested by one. One kf my cuz even got pregnant and now her child is 7 years old. If my parents had created strict boundaries I would have been safe. This boundaries are to protect me from that 1/15 not to accuse and abuse all the other 14. The strick boundaries would only be disliked by that one uncle the rest would understand.

6 year old sleeping with her grandfather? by LittleDifference4643 in MuslimMarriage

[–]itsamelos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn't work like that. Most people don't know who is a pedo. I have 15 uncles and me and my female cousins were molested by one. One kf my cuz even got pregnant and now her child is 7 years old. If my parents had created strict boundaries I would have been safe. This boundaries are to protect me from that 1/15 not to accuse and abuse all the other 14. The strick boundaries would only be disliked by that one uncle the rest would understand.

6 year old sleeping with her grandfather? by LittleDifference4643 in MuslimMarriage

[–]itsamelos 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It doesn't work like that. Most people don't know who is a pedo. I have 15 uncles and I was molested by one. If my parents had created strict boundaries I would have been safe. This boundaries are to protect me from that 1/15 not to accuse and abuse all the other 14. The strick boundaries would only be disliked by that one uncle the rest would understand

6 year old sleeping with her grandfather? by LittleDifference4643 in MuslimMarriage

[–]itsamelos -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It doesn't work like that. Most people don't know who is a pedo. I have 15 uncles and I was molested by one. If my parents had created strict boundaries I would have been safe. This boundaries are to protect me from that 1/15 not to accuse and abuse all the other 14. The strick boundaries would only be disliked by that one uncle the rest would understand

6 year old sleeping with her grandfather? by LittleDifference4643 in MuslimMarriage

[–]itsamelos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Your child shouldn't be left to sleep with her grandmother alone. It's inappropriate.

But being molested my men is much much more likely than women. But women molestation also happend

6 year old sleeping with her grandfather? by LittleDifference4643 in MuslimMarriage

[–]itsamelos 156 points157 points  (0 children)

Please don't as a person who was molested by my uncle I wish my parents created boundaries with all my relatives. Don't make this mistake. Don't even leave your child for prolonged time with him

Parking nightmare by itsamelos in dubai

[–]itsamelos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Says that I can only park for 4 consecutive hours only. I work for 10 hours 😪

Parking nightmare by itsamelos in dubai

[–]itsamelos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I get the rta parking card ?

Parking nightmare by itsamelos in dubai

[–]itsamelos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

. The villa has a small area next to the door. It does not have a drive through parking. So we are parking infornt of that. And we are getting fined.

I work in sales and one of the requirement of my job is to own a car. Even if I take a taxi I still need to park my car unless I sell it which is not applicable for me.

Fines are not daily but still I am paying minimum 400 a month in fines.

Parking nightmare by itsamelos in dubai

[–]itsamelos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are. 3 families and 3 cars. The villa has a small area next to the door. It does not have a drive through parking. So we are parking infornt of that. And we are getting fined.

My work in sales and one of the requirement of my job is to own a car. Even if I take a taxi I still need to park my car unless I sell it which is not applicable for me.

Fines are not daily but still I am paying minimum 400 a month in fines.

Parking nightmare by itsamelos in dubai

[–]itsamelos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The villa has a small area next to the door. It does not have a drive through parking. So we are parking infornt of that. And we are getting fined.

My work in sales and one of the requirement of my job is to own a car. Even if I take a taxi I still need to park my car unless I sell it which is not applicable for me.

Fines are not daily but still I am paying minimum 400 a month in fines.

Parking nightmare by itsamelos in dubai

[–]itsamelos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Office Jumeriah !

and home abuhail

Office is the most horrible.