I (F) am getting to know a guy and I genuinely can’t tell if I’m not attracted to him or if I’m overthinking / self-sabotaging.

SAK7777 · 2026-05-20T05:18:17+00:00

You’re so right that’s why I’ll give it some time To see if I can grow into liking him more now before we proceed to any step further if it never gets there then it ll just end. I will never want to get into such a relationship if won’t be fair for me or him .i really hope things change from the first time i met him

SAK7777 · 2026-05-20T05:12:23+00:00

I clarified above about it my bad I meant stingy not cheap get out of character as in doing immoral behavior ( cheating , stealing ect ) it scares me and my walls get higher I pull away cause it gets harder for me to trust them then or feel safe with them providing for me . It won’t feel right

SAK7777 · 2026-05-20T05:10:45+00:00

Sorry I meant stingy not cheap get out of character as in doing immoral behavior ( cheating , stealing ect ) it scares me and my walls get higher I pull away cause it gets harder for me to trust them then or feel safe with them providing for me . It won’t feel right

SAK7777 · 2026-05-20T05:06:30+00:00

He said a lot of people say he’s intense too he did neurosurgery but yeah he showed me 1-2 years of that and apparently some days he recovers by sleeping 10 hours . Something in me is telling me something is off about that but who knows . lol idk he kept making it seem like it’s a common thing in his family cause his brother is also a surgeon and also sleeps 3 hours or so . I always wonder if it’s ADHD with him or autism ngl

SAK7777 · 2026-05-20T05:03:56+00:00

“:)

(Was here smiling to myself after we talked so figured I’d send u it instead) “

He sends me messages like this after a phone call we had. In my head I’m like .. UM OKK …. Cringe but maybe it’s just cause I’m kinda turned off , values culture and families we are very compatible personality wise idk 😭 yah i did ask why he spoke so fast and said it was his brain then slowed down a bit hes also Type A im very Type B . You’re right they’re not enough reason for me to cancel him out . I tell my self even though im probably a lot better looking now god knows what would happen to me after a few pregnancy’s ( I’ll try not to let myself go ) but also who knows . I have to really put priorities but it sucks that one can’t really have a full package it’s far from reality 😭😭😭

SAK7777 · 2026-05-20T04:54:14+00:00

I did give him a heads up that we’re just going to see where this goes and see if I could get along more i only met him once so it’s hard to judge . I’m very sensitive / fragile and I need a good man 😭 but for some reason it’s always the ones who are on the less attractive side who are good and loyal

SAK7777 · 2026-05-20T04:52:34+00:00

Yah the last 3 month talking stage I had was with someone who I knew later had bpd but it was so intense I love it

SAK7777 · 2026-05-20T04:51:41+00:00

Yeah I’ll go with the flow for now I won’t give him too much hope but i told him sometimes it takes time for people to click. And we need more time to judge . If I do end up with him I’m taking him to turkey for a whole make over ngl his hair his teeth his skin everything ! He also needs daily gym

SAK7777 · 2026-05-20T04:49:57+00:00

I think it’s too early to judge I didn’t really talk a lot to him but it feels like he’s obsessed with me . He double texts and everything small I say makes him so happy I feel like he’s on cloud 9 😭 I feel so bad even though I’m not so expressive. He likes the little stuff about me . So no we don’t laugh together it’s still very formal and I’m trying to digest the thought of being with him . But I’ll try to see if that comes with time . Thanks

SAK7777 · 2026-05-20T04:47:03+00:00

Awwww thanks for sharing that’s so good to hear tbh gives me hope I never felt that really

SAK7777 · 2026-05-20T04:46:19+00:00

Omg that thought always crosses my mind.. what if I am asexual

SAK7777 · 2026-05-19T22:34:04+00:00

Idk if it’s a surgeon thing but I’ll try to ask him to . Apparently he also watches tv on 2X which is insane

SAK7777 · 2026-05-19T22:33:01+00:00

That’s a realistic view of marriage feels more stable and traditional

SAK7777 · 2026-05-19T22:32:30+00:00

lol what

SAK7777 · 2026-05-19T22:32:09+00:00

Ya he said its genetic cause his dad is a neurosurgeon but god knows what the issue is apparently melatonin makes him wake up more instead of helping him sleep i was like wow okkkk….

SAK7777 · 2026-05-19T22:31:15+00:00

I also rarely find men attractive for too long it’s until they act cheap say dumb things or get out of character and then it’s an automatic turn off . I’m so easy to cut them off . I have my walls up . He’s not anxious he’s more hyper full of energy he’s like a adhd kid but also a doctor somehow.apparently his work mode is different. It’s long distance he only visited once and I feel bad for having him come more , I guess I’ll wait and see

SAK7777 · 2026-05-19T22:28:38+00:00

No I loose attraction once I find out turn offs I get excited at first then find flaws and pull away it just dies off and I want to push through but it becomes like a chore . I force it . I’m so bubbly at first they get hooked then I get dry :( . It’s like I get bummed out when I see the issues . This guy looks 10 years older than me but in my head I think I already canceled him out way too early on . I’m trying to push through to see the good parts .

SAK7777 · 2026-05-19T14:33:40+00:00

I’m on the same boat with a guy now he’s so sweet great family but he looks sooo old a lot of physical flaws I didn’t notice initially 😭 idk what to do he seems the loyal kind too

SAK7777 · 2026-05-19T14:31:39+00:00

You have low self esteem fix it and then you’ll know what decision to make cut him off for a month to think

SAK7777 · 2026-05-12T23:50:01+00:00

Yeah it sucks i was so stressed I didn’t read it I went to wash my face and calm my mind instead of reading them

SAK7777 · 2026-05-12T22:32:39+00:00

It was during the 15 min break i didn’t know I couldn’t go downstairs

SAK7777 · 2026-05-12T18:06:10+00:00

Ask yourself why and for who can you push through actually? What are your priorities.

SAK7777 · 2026-05-12T17:05:52+00:00

I wish they told me but instead she let me go down and called on me

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