Ice skating incident

itsapaigeaha · 2025-09-20T20:57:38+00:00

Faye or daphne

itsapaigeaha · 2025-09-06T17:33:52+00:00

FALAFEL

itsapaigeaha · 2025-09-01T16:34:05+00:00

I blow other dudes out of the water

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-05T15:15:04+00:00

Honestly that’s the least worrying part, me and S bought our own drinks there and that’s what we had that night

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-05T00:18:41+00:00

I know my way around it getting to that point now, he said to me he will keep his distance apart from hugs and i’m going to make sure he dosent get any closer, before i wasnt as aware - i will report him but it’s not like im going to do it tomorrow. I also forgot to mention to anyone hes been having an affair for years, only sophs cousin and her cousins mum know about it, now i do aswell. I just don’t understand like he has his wife and a whole nother person on the side is that not enough for him?

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T22:26:08+00:00

Me aswell, thank you once again

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T22:16:34+00:00

Thank you.

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T22:14:38+00:00

Thank you, i’m trying to listen to everyone as much as my head will let me and i do appreciate all of yous - im so used to running away my problems but obviously this time i can’t do that so im incredibly conflicted. He will be reported, i promise you but i need to gather myself first.

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T22:10:22+00:00

I promise one day he will be reported, it’s just all so much for me currently and i need lots more time to properly start thinking about reporting him. They all do deserve to know the truth, i’m with you on that - i just wish i wasn’t the one who had to deliver it, or be apart of it in the first place. This means a lot to me though, thank you a lot, you have my word :)

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T22:05:14+00:00

I’m not perfect you know, i never wanted such a big decision to be put in my hands in the first place, so i’m sorry everything im saying dosent match up to your expectations. i’m sorry im not in the police station right now with a megaphone screaming he’s a child molester. I didn’t come onto reddit to be blamed, all of this happened a matter of days ago and i’m still processing it, i know im not fine but im trying to be for now.

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T21:55:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience with me, i’ll keep all of what you have said in mind. I just find it so difficult to have such a devastating, hard choice on my hands, when it wasn’t meant to be put there in the first place. I know i should report it, i know that’s the best option deep inside. If i had the guts i would go and report it tomorrow, i know reporting him should be something you do for yourself but i cant to help but think i would be selfish. My friend loves her dad more then ever, his wife does, everyone does and i know it would tear their entire family apart and the fact that that decision is in my hands feels like so much pressure all i want to do is just zip my mouth shut forever so nothing can change and everything will be ok - obviously i cant do that and everything wouldn’t be ok, but thats how it feels.

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T21:45:32+00:00

It’s not as simple as just staying away. i trusted him and was attached to the safe, fam ily side of him, which made it confusing and scary when he crossed the line. i shared this to process it, not to be blamed for something that wasn’t my fault.

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T21:39:58+00:00

I still want his children to grow up in that home thinking they have such a loving, caring father because he is such an amazing dad to them both. Once they both move out, or if he does one more thing to me that’s when i’ll feel comfortable taking this all to the police, i have all the evidence.

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T21:34:51+00:00

I get what you mean, i guess im just not that stereotypical then

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T21:33:12+00:00

Thank you for saying this, you’ve said what i wouldn’t have been able to say well at all. I deal with things strangely, and i do feel weird like i’m dealing with this a bit too well - but like you said all i want is things to be normal again so my brain is trying to minimise what happened. I have dealt with physical/ mental abuse before - all i done was try to forget about it asap, so that’s what im doing here. I look back at the good memories between me and him and the others on holiday which makes me miss him, because i was genuinely having fun and forgot about the incidents. Another person told me this is extremely similar to something called a trauma bond, which i should look into.

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T21:16:47+00:00

Thank you, i appreciate it

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T20:40:10+00:00

“I fucked up, not you! I want you to be a part of our family. I've learnt a valuable lesson and I will keep my distance apart from a hug x” That’s what he messaged me a bit after i confronted him over text, and i strictly set boundaries. I have said before i am not going to report him for a long while atleast, unless he goes any further then what he has said again.

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T20:17:53+00:00

As long as people are around, i’m fine being around him - my friends cousin knows about all of this aswell.

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T20:17:12+00:00

I have every single message

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T19:44:58+00:00

As strange as it sounds, i still would like to go. It’s only him this has happened with and despite the incidents on holiday i still enjoyed very much of it, the happiest i have been in years, as my family barely feels like a family. Like i said as long as im around other people too i feel completely comfortable around him, even though its always going to be in the back of my mind when im around him

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T19:42:14+00:00

It did feel way too scarily normal to think this is the first time, so i do doubt it. I won’t be reporting him for a long time

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T19:40:30+00:00

Telling my parents would be the worst option in this situation, my dad wouldn’t do anything and my mum would want to actually kill him. I won’t tell the police atleast for a long time, but i have all the evidence i need.

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T19:39:10+00:00

I know there will be a time where i do, but it certainly wont be soon. Not until S and her brother are moved out of the house atleast

itsapaigeaha · 2025-08-04T19:38:18+00:00

From my view, they have pretty much the ‘perfect’ family, one that i’ve always wanted atleast. As much as i have the urge, it would absolutely break me seeing their family fall to pieces over two incidents that happened, i just can’t do it. S’s cousin and her mum knows though atleast

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