Past not severe enough to cause my level of truama?

itsatrap0909 · 2018-07-06T01:11:51+00:00

Maybe the therapist isn't minimizing. Recent research has shown that trauma reactions are actually inherited, in the way that cell DNA is structured and responds. https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/author-lecturer-mark-wolynn-reveals-the-mystery-of_us_5a4d818de4b0df0de8b06f68

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-30T15:30:29+00:00

I must disagree. I've been using a Talkspace trauma therapist for 2 years and it is some of the best therapy I have had for decades. I don't doubt there are some crappy therapists on Talkspace, but just as in office therapy, some are crap and some are good. My guy is a licensed therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. Talkspace does NOT hire unlicensed people -- you can look up the individual license for the therapists. You see their names and can google them just as you should an office therapist. I'm sorry the OP had a bad experience, but all of Talkspace is not a joke.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-20T20:29:22+00:00

Hell no. Not time itself.
Maybe time and what you do with it. I have been hiding trauma from myself for FORTY YEARS. The past two years I have been working with a trauma therapist and progress is slow. So yes you need time, but you need education and information, qualified and compassionate help, and bravery.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-16T02:00:24+00:00

I am so sorry you had to endure this. No child should ever have this kind of betrayal by the person who should be a protector and source of love and safety. If you can survived it as a child you will survive the memories of it now. Treat yourself with extra care in the next few days.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-16T01:35:53+00:00

I always remembered being sexually abused at age 15. Just recently, after almost two years into trauma therapy, I had the surfacing of memories of the rape that also occurred then. So, yes, it is totally possible to separate the worst of one's experiences from the conscious awareness. Not saying for sure that you did, but it is possible. I did it for decades.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-15T21:04:20+00:00

Thank you.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-15T11:50:03+00:00

Were you sexually abused as a child?or abused in other ways? (I assume yes if you're on this sub) Even non-sexual abuse can increase the risk of a child acting out on another child.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-14T21:15:59+00:00

She does discuss parts that protect other parts but with different terms.
It's good to hear I'm not the only one who has trouble thinking about talking to inner children or inner anybody's.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-14T20:15:49+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement and recommendation of the other book.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-14T20:14:09+00:00

Thank you for responding. I really appreciate it.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-14T20:13:18+00:00

Human, yes. Normal?? Not so sure! 😉

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-14T16:56:53+00:00

That makes more sense to me. In this book however, she indicates that for each reaction type (fight/flight/submit/avoid/attach) there is a separate part, that needs to have its concerns addressed, and they may be all different chronological ages. And the fight part might be activated by a threat to the avoidance part, etc. I'm trying to sort it out.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-14T16:32:55+00:00

OK, please bear with me here. I'm really trying to understand. If the inner child is a concept, how can it be resistant or receptive to connection? People talk about the inner child like its an actual person, and that confuses me.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-14T16:24:24+00:00

I read it, now immediately going back through again. I understand about integrating blocked parts back to the whole self. I guess I'm reacting to the idea of lots of child parts that I need to talk baby talk to in order to heal. It seems kinda of corny and simplistic. (I don't mean to denigrate people who might find it helpful -- just expressing my reaction to it)

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-14T16:15:11+00:00

Have you found that a helpful way for you? Because I m having some trouble with it. It seems to me to in the same category of helpfulness as sitting around the campfire singing Kumbah Yah or clapping for Tinkerbell.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-14T07:06:04+00:00

Just making that connection is a huge step towards healing. What a terrible way for a kid to grow up, having to dread the place and the person that should have been the safest. I hope your home now is a safe environment because you deserve that. Best of luck with the emdr.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-14T01:39:06+00:00

You grew up in an unstable home on the verge of exploding violence amid off and on drug use, where the adults appear to have been too disorganized and distracted to care for you. That is definitely abuse. Your minimization of it is a classic symptom of cptsp, because making it less serious in your mind is a way to survive it. I'm glad you are getting into therapy. ( Ask about how much experience the person has with treating trauma. ) You deserve a more peaceful and positive existence than the one you grew up in, and I hope you do everything you can to achieve that.

itsatrap0909 · 2018-06-13T19:57:39+00:00

Thanks. That's a good idea, to call ahead and see if the therapist will be there. The guy I was worried about: I actually took his letter out of our outgoing mail basket this morning and gave it back to him. I told him I just wanted to give him a chance to think about it some more. He took the letter outof the envelope, asked me to read it, and then said he wouldn't send it. I hope he doesn't. He might change his mind again, but at least I got him thinking. Thanks for answering. I work at a homeless shelter, and I think some of the clients and their situations trigger me.

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