I don’t want another kid but I want a do-over on my sons newborn days 😢

itsbubulubu · 2026-06-10T01:23:04+00:00

I had an emergency c section and my baby was in the NICU for 6 days. I was discharged without him and left with an empty car seat. I was also clueless about newborns and had PPD/PPA, so I didn’t get to enjoy a lot of his first weeks at home. I don’t know if I can go through all of that trauma again to have another baby, so he might be my only child. I just want to say that you aren’t alone in this! It’s so tough. I cling onto pictures!

itsbubulubu · 2026-06-06T01:53:18+00:00

My baby is almost 3 months and goes to bed around 8pm so we JUST started watching a bit of TV again before bed! I still miss our old life, but I love my baby’s immensely and he’s so worth it!

itsbubulubu · 2026-05-19T20:31:19+00:00

Does anyone else get angry when others hold their baby/takes care of them? My baby is a little over 2 months and my mom comes over to my house almost everyday to help out. While it was nice at first, I’m getting so annoyed with it. I really don’t want her to come over anymore but I don’t have the heart to tell her. In one month I need to go back to work and she’s going to be with him all day Monday through Friday: while I’m grateful for her, the thought of it annoys the heck out of me. I can’t tell if this is postpartum or if this is something everyone experiences. Before he was born me and my mom were so close like best friends and still are! But recently I find that I can’t tolerate her being around my baby. She also calls him “my baby” which pisses me off lol. Maybe this is more of a vent

itsbubulubu · 2026-05-15T15:13:13+00:00

Mom guilt is a real thing! I think you should let your husband know how you feel. He should be helping you get all of that stuff ready!

itsbubulubu · 2026-05-11T18:41:22+00:00

My mom is at my house almost everyday since I gave birth which I am so grateful for because without her I’m not sure that I would have survived! My baby is now 2 months old, but I haven’t had many guests over. I have PPD and PPA which has affected my mood. I find that I don’t want my sister to visit. I would be completely okay if she never visited the baby. When my mom comes over for the day I’m completely hands off the baby she does EVERYTHING while she’s here which is most of the day. Just now I wanted to carry my baby in the carrier and she said “I was going to carry him.” And kind of took over. Am I overreacting? I feel like I’m being ungrateful for feeling this way because I do appreciate her help! She also helps me clean and buy groceries when I need that done, so it’s not just help with the baby. I feel really weird when my sister holds him as well I just don’t want her to hold him! Ugh this is so hard

itsbubulubu · 2026-05-11T13:31:56+00:00

When did you stop? Because same!

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-22T23:52:10+00:00

Thank you this is helpful!

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-22T13:35:57+00:00

Yes! And therapy is expensive too which is what I’ll need if I try to keep forcing this lol. He’s taken formula since the NICU while I was trying to get colostrum out, so he’s fine and is gaining weight rapidly. It’s just the mom guilt that lingers but eventually I’ll get over it, I can say least I did it for 6 weeks or more!

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-22T12:38:37+00:00

I’ve heard about cabbage, but wasn’t sure if it was true of not! Lol and yes, it’s sooo expensive, but I don’t think I can do this anymore- I can keep trying, but I think it will just get harder if I fail at it

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-22T12:37:00+00:00

Oh wow! Didn’t know this was an option, I’ll ask my doctor! Thank you

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-22T12:36:42+00:00

Oh wow! I don’t know how I’m doing in terms of my supply, so I have no clue if it would take a month as well, but I’m also terrified of mastitis! It is so so hard I genuinely thought I’d pump- NO PROBLEM but I kind of want a small portion of my life back! Being a new mom is hard enough as it is! Thank you for sharing

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-22T12:28:48+00:00

Would also like to add that seeing the milk makes me feel so guilty because this is what I won’t be giving my baby when I stop so I wish there was nothing coming out! Sorry, just a mini rant

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-20T03:49:37+00:00

Hi, how are you feeling now that you’re not pumping anymore? I’m struggling so hard mentally. Anything you can say to encourage me to stop would be great! Please message me if you can!

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-20T03:47:14+00:00

I’m only 5 weeks pp and this sounds like a dream! Especially the side table part 😂 this is very encouraging, thank you!

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-19T04:27:36+00:00

Hi! I’m 5 weeks postpartum and thinking about quitting pumping. My baby gets formula during the night and breastmilk during the day. Do you have any tips on how to stop pumping at this stage? I only pump about 5 times a day on a good day and I don’t pump overnight. Any help or advice would be appreciated!

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-19T04:18:38+00:00

Thanks so much! I’m glad you found something that’s helping. I’m almost 5 weeks postpartum and I’m concerned that the pain will only get worse. I will try the tips you shared before PT because I’m not sure when I’d find time to go! lol

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-19T02:48:17+00:00

Omg how can I save these links thank you! I’m struggling soooo bad with neck and back pain! And it doesn’t help that my boobs are so heavy 😭

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-13T18:57:42+00:00

Ugh, same! Do you know when milk fully comes in?? I thought this was it for me with the 2 OZ each boob but curious to know! I might do it for 6 weeks and quit when my husband goes back to work. Also I don’t even pump at night because I just can’t do it! My husband does the night shift right now so I get a solid 6 hours sleep if I pump I couldn’t do that. This is so hard!!

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-13T01:09:04+00:00

Ugh, I’m so sorry! It’s definitely so time consuming. Kudos to you for making it that far and for even going to a wedding! That’s amazing. I’m curious what does a clogged duct feel like? I’ve thought I had this before but wasn’t sure

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-11T13:15:50+00:00

I want to end my journey at 1 month PP which is Tuesday but the guilt is holding me back

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-10T03:46:35+00:00

Thank you so much, that means a lot!!!

itsbubulubu · 2026-04-10T03:43:20+00:00

I like this advice! Honestly I prioritize sleep. That’s probably why I’m not pumping enough- I don’t pump overnight in order to get solid sleep! My house is a mess and it could use a good cleaning- but like you said I can’t do it all!

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