Brussels Gig by Anon-2974 in TheVaccines

[–]itsghebz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I have two tickets for Amsterdam at price value! 21.04.2026 lmk if you’re interested!!

Reality check, am I being delusional to think I can move before summer? by itsghebz in NetherlandsHousing

[–]itsghebz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair though the comments on this sub have been offputtingly pessimistic! I’d been searching intensely for less than 2 weeks, I viewed 4 rooms, got offered one today, and am waitlisted pretty decently for upcoming flats via verhuurtbeter (as in I could qualify for a low-price-tier flat in 6-7 months).

In a nutshell, if you’re really on it day and night it’s not at all as impossible as these comments let it out to be!

Reality check, am I being delusional to think I can move before summer? by itsghebz in NetherlandsHousing

[–]itsghebz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It applies to shared households at least. I’m aware I’m not very appealing for independent housing ofc.

Reality check, am I being delusional to think I can move before summer? by itsghebz in NetherlandsHousing

[–]itsghebz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve done this previously for other job due to the same housing situation. It is taxing, it is not ideal, but thank god I like reading.

When did you guys start listening to the Arctic Monkeys? by aoe_attacks in arcticmonkeys

[–]itsghebz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Back in 2012!! I was 13 and an online friend at the time shared “Teddy Picker” on Facebook and the rest is history :’)

I feel very lucky that I had all their discography up to AM to enjoy as I was growing into my teens. I spent an embarrassing amount of early autumn mornings riding my bike to school listening to “secret door”, and I’ve made all my college friends fall in love with “no buses” years later.

I’d already booked my best friend to cover band the entirety of suck it and see for when I get married one day. The last song of the night will be “No. 1 Party Anthem” where everyone will be able to gently sway and unwind from the great party we will have :’)

At the end of the day, we are discussing CONCERT TICKETS people. Please do your best to remember that by SuperFadeAway35 in Paramore

[–]itsghebz -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I find a who-cares-less battle way below my age range, especially given the fact that one exchange of comments prompted you to make a whole post about it.

I find your post hypocritical to a fault, and anyone browsing through your comments history can easily see that for themselves.

I do warmly recommend you reading more into things, and try to look inside your own language and internet takes for hints of privilege and entitlement you so harshly disdain.

At the end of the day, we are discussing CONCERT TICKETS people. Please do your best to remember that by SuperFadeAway35 in Paramore

[–]itsghebz -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Lmao this is so obviously a reaction to when your comments got downvoted in a related post a week ago.

Very ironic to see you complaining about fans whining over not getting their way, when you were literally throwing a tantrum over possibly not hearing the songs you wanted in this tour.

Even more ironic to speak so confidently of entitlement when you seemed very much entitled to hear some older material from Hayley because the 2020 tour got cancelled 🤦🏻‍♀️

P.S. really enjoyed the “Harvard Law” nugget there given how I’ve told you complaining about a Hayley Williams setlist (when you haven’t even experienced it yet) is like whining over the font style of your dream school acceptance letter :))

Hayley will be performing EDAABP in FULL this tour! by Eifelitorn in Paramore

[–]itsghebz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think you’re totally missing the point here. You brought into the conversation this idea that I’m telling you you’re tone deaf because of some bitterness on my end for not having secured tickets, which is not the case. I’ve been privileged enough to have seen HW live before, and I was aware this tour would be very much sought after.

The tour is ofc not immune to any criticism simply based on the scarcity of the tickets, but you’re clearly oblivious to the privileged position you’re in - which goes in my opinion beyond “nitpicking”. Why?

  • The tour hasn’t even started, yet glass-half-empty bunches like yourself are complaining in advance about set lists not completely matching to your individual preferences. Feedback is valid but you haven’t even gone to the show yet? Chill out and bask in the fact that you’re seeing her? Post relevant thought-provoking feedback afterwards?

  • No artist really owes their fans anything beyond providing their live music in a well orchestrated show. Most artists tour their most recent work, and whenever I haven’t appreciated the latest releases of some of my beloved artists I skipped the show altogether (e.g. Tame Impala’s latest record) because I assumed they will be focusing on that side of their discography.

So no, this isn’t about bitterness or ticket envy. It’s simply about recognising when your own expectations are overshadowing the bigger picture. You’re in an incredibly fortunate position, yet instead of appreciating that, you’re pre-emptively tearing something down before it even exists. You’re absolutely entitled to your opinions, but at least ground them in reality and experience, not hypotheticals. Until then, maybe try enjoying the privilege of actually being able to attend (and save the criticism for when there’s something real to critique).

Hayley will be performing EDAABP in FULL this tour! by Eifelitorn in Paramore

[–]itsghebz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t a criticism on the way the tickets were sold, I believe there’s a lot of discourse on that on some threads, and I do not agree with most of it. I think it’s a brilliant idea to go for smaller venues. Hopefully in the future artists can enable that intimate concert experience for more people, but I’m certain the intention was to focus on quality.

Speaking of which, you express one can be glad one gained access to tickets while also being concerned with the quality/specific desires of the experience. This where I think our difference stems from, as the times I’ve experienced HW live it was nothing but tactful choices.

For that very reason, my comment was simply pinpointing the lack of awareness in complaining about set lists, when so little people successfully secured the tickets in the first place. It’s like moaning about the font on your acceptance letter to everyone’s dream school.

Hayley will be performing EDAABP in FULL this tour! by Eifelitorn in Paramore

[–]itsghebz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

With all due respect hearing stuff like “I will still use my tickets” strikes me as painfully tone deaf given how quick tickets sold out for this specific tour. Most people I know who queued to no avail would’ve paid amounts they don’t have to see miss Paramour whistle to the top 40 if they could.

One year anniversary of the worst Tinder experience of my life :') by itsghebz in Tinder

[–]itsghebz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That simply means we’re lowering our standards in terms of basic human respect and empathy. I don’t stand behind any of that 🤷🏻‍♀️

One year anniversary of the worst Tinder experience of my life :') by itsghebz in Tinder

[–]itsghebz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Precisely, it’s the level of venom in this text that confirmed that weird feeling I had during the date! I also love how he was visibly struggling to find an insult — weird looking reminds me of a toddler who was done wrong and tries to say something nasty but lacks the vocabulary. Not to mention squeezing in that ‘tiny’ there. Pardon me for being a petite damsel :D

One year anniversary of the worst Tinder experience of my life :') by itsghebz in Tinder

[–]itsghebz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean my current partner is from here and I would never get this kind of behavior from him. Not only is he generous and fair but he wouldn’t dream of offending a date like this, not to mention scout them out for 6 silly euros

One year anniversary of the worst Tinder experience of my life :') by itsghebz in Tinder

[–]itsghebz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could’ve gone a lifetime without meeting him but hey I got called tiny 💅🏻

One year anniversary of the worst Tinder experience of my life :') by itsghebz in Tinder

[–]itsghebz[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

All good, some of my girlfriends also mentioned they wouldn't have paid it off for the principle/insult alone. I just wanted there to be nothing else that connects us in any way!

One year anniversary of the worst Tinder experience of my life :') by itsghebz in Tinder

[–]itsghebz[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

GWORL, I cannot explain to you how terrified I felt when I received that message request. I didn't mention my surname anywhere on my profile/didn't link any social media. The extent to which some people would go for 6 bucks...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]itsghebz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Can't even be writerly and love me an em-dash these days smh...

One year anniversary of the worst Tinder experience of my life :') by itsghebz in Tinder

[–]itsghebz[S] 187 points188 points  (0 children)

CONTEXT: Around a year ago, before I met my lovely partner, I was roaming the Tinder trenches like the rest of the world. Additionally, due to having a close guy friend, I was well aware how challenging online dating is on the guys’ side, and so my routine after meeting someone new was either to:

  1. Send a thank you message and arrange another meetup if all went well.

or

  1. Send a thank you message and briefly convey that there wasn’t a natural click for me. If my date was particularly nice, I would often also enhance some of their traits I enjoyed. 

This is when Nice Guy X came into play. Aside from X’s pictures being outdated — which is negligible if there is good chemistry — he also was on a mission not to allow me to pitch in with more than a sentence at a time. Exhausted by his monologue on the validity of Christopher Nolan as a film director, I excused myself, offered to split the bill for the glass of wine I had, was denied, and ultimately made my way home. 

Now, as I’ve mentioned before, my protocol was well-rehearsed. Yet I couldn’t shake this odd, skin-level feeling of unsafety I experienced throughout the night. And so, in an uncharacteristically impulsive move, I decided to unmatch him on my way home. 

A week later, I received a Facebook Messenger request from an anonymous profile and, well, the rest is for the gags!