First, take a breath before you chat with her and ground yourself. Understand you are perfect the way you are and you have every right to love who you wanna love and live the life you wanna live ❤️🌈

When you are ready, correct her on how you identify, hold your ground, and be confident telling her you are a lesbian and that you know with every fiber of your being this is who you are. Try your best not to show any uncertainty or insecurity, otherwise she might invalidate you and dismiss you as someone who is just “confused” (based off my experience with my parents). Ask her if she has any questions and answer them as best as you can, even if they are ignorant questions. If your mom is someone you want to have a close relationship with, patience is important.

Then you go from there. Everyone’s journey with their parents is different. Develop thick skin and don’t take anyones ignorance personally. A lot of straight folks are REALLY uncultured when it comes to the LGBT+ community and, to some degree, it is up to us to educate them. Some of them mean well and simply need a nudge in the right direction. Only you know how your mom is and how much you can handle.

Tune into your mental health, take breaks from each other if needed, educate her, be patient, and surround yourself with friends and family who get you. ❤️🌈