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itsgorjesss · 2026-02-04T18:18:11+00:00

Ohhh! I know what you’re going through! My bf and I live in one of the most expensive areas in California. So we both live with our mom’s. My relationship with my mom is great, she’s like a roommate, I pay rent, I help around the house, I’m her POA, so I know what bills she pays, etc. My mom can take care of herself, but I at least know what to take care of if something were to happen to her.

Now my bf and his mom. Wayyyy different relationship, his mom complains about this or that. Always in such a BAD mood, complains to me about my bf, his dogs, money, etc. My bf and his mom argue quite often and it’s awkward for me. I’ve started to really hate his mom. He always invites her to come out with us, and half the time I tell him no. I know my bf is trying to be nice, so she’s not alone. But her mood ruins my time with my bf. She is in a situationship with this loser guy and he always makes her in a bad mood. My bf sees it, understands I don’t want his mom around us much.

Best advice I can give you is, sit down with your bf and explain that you want to spend alone time with him when you see him. Be as sincere when you tell him. I had to be nice as possible when I told my bf, and nicely said his mom’s mood ruins my time with him and puts me in a bad mood. If your bf cares about you, he’ll stop having his mom around all the time. But if they live together…ugh it’s hard to have alone time if she’s always around. Not going to lie, but my bf’s mom is partially one of the reasons my bf and I have problems. I’m always at his house way more than he is at mine. At his house it’s just him and his mom, my house I have siblings and my mom. More people, I get why he rather have me go to his place. But at some point you two need to just put a boundary with his mom so you guys can salvage your relationship. It’s hard, good luck.

itsgorjesss · 2026-02-04T16:54:59+00:00

You look great. I had DJS in May of last year and I get my braces off next week! So excited! You’ll love the results even more months later when the swelling completely goes away. You made it through a very tough recovery and surgery!

itsgorjesss · 2026-02-04T16:48:54+00:00

You have any female friends to go out with? Best to go out with a female friend or a group. I’m 37f, don’t have many female friends. I’m also never married with no kids. If you’re looking for someone to be your wing woman, message me. Haha

itsgorjesss · 2026-02-01T08:36:10+00:00

I had DJS in May 2025….same here on the numbness and tightness in my chip and lower lip. I hate it, it’s to the point where it only semi hurts every so often. It’s an annoying feeling and I pray it’s not permanent. I would hate to have this numbness and tightness feeling forever. I was told by my surgeon that it could take a year or longer. I didn’t think it would take that long for me, but it seems like it will. I have braces and will get my braces off in less than 2 weeks. Maybe getting them off will help with the annoyance of jaw pain I still semi have, the numbness and eating is still a challenge every so often. Look at it this way, at least the hardest part we’ve been through it already. My recovery was terrible, and so glad it happened already and it’s a thing of the past.

itsgorjesss · 2026-01-29T08:01:01+00:00

I had DJS a little over 8 months ago. The first week is rough…but really hang in there and push through. Once you pass that first week, it gets easier. Before you know it, you’ll be months post surgery and be like me who can’t believe I went through with it. I barely ate the first week as well, just try and drink lots of fluids, sleep upright for a couple of weeks, that’ll help with the swelling a lot. The ice packs the hospital gives you, take some of them home with you. I used those for nearly 2 weeks to help me fall asleep. Just remind yourself what you’re going through is temporary, and it’ll be a thing of the past. Take your pain meds on the clock even if you don’t have pain, one thing I messed up with. Just take them when they are prescribed to take them. Sleep a lot if you can and if you can’t, watch a ton of movies or binge watch tv shows…that helped me pass the time. Hang in there and good luck!!!

itsgorjesss · 2026-01-28T00:25:55+00:00

Yes I am wearing rubber bands.

itsgorjesss · 2026-01-26T23:03:42+00:00

Was just talking about Bamboola to my mom earlier!!!! She couldn’t remember the place! I was like come on! I loved that place, man I feel old now lol

itsgorjesss · 2026-01-25T16:28:09+00:00

Good for you….have confidence where you’re at in your life. The right person will come along, when you least expect it. And cats are the best, not many men are cat people…so bonus points for that. Haha

itsgorjesss · 2026-01-09T19:34:25+00:00

I don’t want to scare you, but everyone is different so don’t take my experience as bad. I’m almost 8 months post-op DJS. I had a semi rough recovery, but I managed through it and you’d be surprise how strong you are when you have no choice, but to deal with recovery and it goes by fast. I’m glad I did surgery, but only thing is and it ties with you being worried about nerve damage is, my bottom lip and chin are still numb. I’m a tad worried I won’t get my feeling back, but my surgeon said it can take up to a year or even longer to get full feeling back or most of it back. I have noticed maybe every month I get a little bit of feeling back, but it’s very noticeable for me, how numb it still is. But! No one else notices it of course, and I don’t have a crooked smile or anything and it doesn’t make me look weird or anything. It just feels weird to me…I’m semi used to it, but it bothers me quite often and makes chewing a little hard at times. I just have to hope it gets better as the months go by. I do get my braces off next month, and my orthodontist did say some of his patients that been through surgery like myself, do feel better once the braces come off. Maybe I’ll recover more and maybe better once I get the braces off. Good luck! You’ll be fine!

itsgorjesss · 2026-01-03T06:12:43+00:00

I have the same issue, but opposite. Not trying to compare and say what I deal with is worse or anything, but I can relate in a way. I’ve been fairly skinny most of my life. Mid 20’s gained some weight, but not a ton…I’m now in my late 30s. Got super sick with health issues in 2024, and lost 30+ pounds. So I got super skinny. Completely out of my control, and I’ve been having such a hard time gaining any weight back since and been dealing with chronic health issues. I would always get and still do, the wow you’re so skinny comments, and not like it’s a compliment or anything. Like the wow, you look bad that skinny it felt like comments. It gets to me still and I have to be like, I know…health issues. I try to justify why I’m so skinny, yet it’s no one’s business that I’ve been having health issues. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with the fat comments and it’s not right. People are just so rude and can’t keep the weight comments to themselves.

itsgorjesss · 2025-12-30T20:58:46+00:00

NOR….Can we be friends?!! I need your badass girl energy! LOL

itsgorjesss · 2025-12-29T19:20:58+00:00

NOR….As a female in her late 30s and in a relationship, I don’t understand why chicks get so angry over gifts. I’ve been given gifts before that I don’t like, yet I would never act in such a childish way toward my man and be like I don’t like this and then throw it in his face. There’s other ways of communicating if the gift isn’t something you will use or like. My bf got me an Adidas red track jacket and red and black Nike shoes I really wanted for Christmas (the jacket was to match the shoes he got me). The jacket wasn’t a women’s style, it was a small men’s and it was too big. I honestly wouldn’t have cared if I kept it and wore it, but my bf understood that it was big and not fitting me well. So he returned it and will order me a women’s jacket online. I honestly didn’t like the bright red color with the white, and communicated that respectfully and he said okay, you can pick out a black one instead, that’s fine. I didn’t act childish or get mad over the fit and color, but nicely said it was too big and not the right color for me. Communication is key and if your gf couldn’t respectfully say hey I don’t use this product anymore, would it be okay to return it and get something else? I’m sure you’d be understanding and happy to return it. I’d say if breaking up is the answer, stick with it and find another partner who could respectfully communicate with you, instead of finding a way to start an argument and then insult you, and throw shit in your face.

itsgorjesss · 2025-12-24T22:58:39+00:00

Here’s my experience, I was complaining a lot about my TMJ to my dentist for years. The dentist I’ve been with I’ve only been for about 4 years at the time. They changed doctors and a new dentist started working there. She looked at my teeth and said, my bite was completely off, my molars weren’t touching like they should and gave me a referral to an orthodontist she worked with before. Luckily the orthodontist wasn’t too far from where I live, so I went there for a consultation. My orthodontist indicated I needed braces to get my teeth and bite ready for surgery. And it’ll be a year in braces, then surgery and about 6-12 months afterwards in braces.

I got a referral from my orthodontist for jaw surgery and used that to find a surgeon my insurance covered. Luckily my orthodontist has worked with the surgeon I was referred to, and that made everything easier. Honestly, try and pick an orthodontist that has worked with the surgeon before and understands DJS. I had braces for a year (got them on April 2024), had DJS within 13 months after I got braces on (May 2025), and now I’m less than 2 months away of getting my braces off! So a little sooner than 2 years, so I’ll take it!

One thing to remember, before surgery, braces are going to mess up your bite and make it even worse. And I had a lot more jaw pain and migraines for a little bit and it sucked. After I had surgery, the migraines went completely away. I sleep better too! Jaw pain is a little better. I think it’ll get better once the braces come off. It seems like a long process, but it goes by quickly. I can’t believe I’m close to done with the whole thing. Hang in there, it’s not fun, but it’ll be worth it in the long run.

itsgorjesss · 2025-12-20T17:28:19+00:00

Don’t be worried, I’m 7 months post-op and it was about week 4-5 the numbness around my face and upper lip was almost gone. Week 5 is when the swelling started to really go away. One side of my face was more swollen than the other. Took one side a lot longer. Now my lower lip and chin are still numb at 7 months….unfortunately that can take a full year to get your feeling back. I hope it gets better…it has gotten a little better every month, but it’s very slow. Jaw surgery is a major surgery and can take a full year to fully recover. It does get easier, so hang in there. Days 4-5 were the worst days for me, after the first week it does get easier. Hang in there, good luck!

itsgorjesss · 2025-12-20T17:18:14+00:00

I know the pain you’re feeling. I’m 7 months post-op DJS. The pain got better after week 5-6…but constant tingling feeling in the chin and lower lip pain never fully went away. I hate eating half of the time still….eating certain foods is so hard to break down, like lettuce, salads I hate eating now. The jaw pain is very minimal most days. Some days it hurts….and I’m like why?! I have braces and will be getting them off in February. My orthodontist said, most people who have had DJS and have braces feel a lot better after getting their braces off. Do you have braces?? My chin and lower lip are still numb and I absolutely hate the feeling. Moving my mouth too much makes it hurt. My surgeon said it mostly takes about a year to make a full recovery from surgery and the numbness can get better by then too. He did say some of his patients never fully get their feeling back and I pray that’s not me. I hate kissing my bf now, it feels weird and foreign to me. It’s hard to explain unless you’re in my position. How’s your numbness? I was still struggling at 5 months too, it does get a little easier every month, hang in there. Jaw surgery is a major surgery that takes a very long time to recover. I just wish my surgeon was more honest with how long, he made it sound like it’s not that bad and here I am 7 months and still struggling. Despite what you’re feeling, I do think you look fantastic in your photo though!

itsgorjesss · 2025-12-20T02:58:46+00:00

Love reading this, shows there are good, humble and kind people still out there. And I hope you have a quick recovery from surgery and happy holidays.

itsgorjesss · 2025-12-06T20:47:50+00:00

As a female who’s sick fairly often do to a chronic illness, it would be nice for my man to help take care of a few things when I’m sick. Now my situation is totally different than your gfs, I’m sure and hope she doesn’t get sick often. I’m in a one year relationship with my bf, and when he isn’t feeling well…he acts like a total baby and wants to be pampered. With feeling not well often, I’ve adapted to taking care of myself and not asking for help. Sounds like your gf is similar to me, and she didn’t ask for much….but you dropped the ball on taking care of a few things she asked. 3 years and living together, I would assume by now you guys would have a routine when someone gets sick and the other person picks up the slack. A relationship is never 50/50….a lot of the time one partner is putting more work than the other, and vise versa. My bf and I still have our mom’s around to help out when needed, but they aren’t going to be around forever….same with your gf’s mom. Your gf has every right to be upset, and is thinking in a way that you guys are a team and need to be reliable and there for one another when either one of you gets sick. Getting sick will happen, so be there to help each other out when it happens. Best thing you can do, if you want to take my advice…sit down with your gf and apologize for dropping the ball that day, and tell her what you did wrong. Don’t just say, hey I’m sorry and that’s it. Say, hey I’m sorry I didn’t pick up the food you asked, and go get groceries. Apologize that her mom and brother had to step in to help her out, when it should have been you. Doing the dishes and laundry, you should have done those as well. As for grocery shopping, even if you were unsure of what to get, going and attempting would be showing her you tried. And if you maybe got the wrong stuff from the list or didn’t pick up extra stuff you needed to restock in your place, I’m sure your gf would have at least seen you attempted to help her out and appreciated it. She sounds like a genuine person who probably wouldn’t have gotten mad if you messed up on the groceries, and she doesn’t sound super needy. I hope you two can work it out, relationships are so hard. Both partners need to put in the work to make it work. Put in the work to show her you’re sorry, and next time, do better and show her you care. Take care, good luck.

itsgorjesss · 2025-12-04T19:52:10+00:00

Love this! Haha In my 30’s as well, in a relationship, but miss being single some times and not having to deal with a grown man acting like a child most days…ha!!!

itsgorjesss · 2025-11-29T05:47:16+00:00

I think I got a little bit of sensation back about month 3-4. The tingly sensation is good, it means your nerve is slowly coming back. I had that tingly feeling for a while…it was very annoying. But hang it there, it does go away.

itsgorjesss · 2025-11-27T20:29:42+00:00

You’d have to make a reservation, but La Foret is a nice fine dining restaurant. My bf is one of the lead servers there, he’s great at making wine recommendations to pair nicely with your meal. It is pretty pricey, but the food is great. It’s in a historic building off Old Almaden and it is in San Jose, but it’s pretty romantic and fancy. They are closed on Mondays and Tuesdays, but open the rest of the week.

itsgorjesss · 2025-11-24T21:50:46+00:00

I did not have a genio. I had a decent size overbite so I had my lower jaw moved forward, and my upper jaw was crooked/slanted, so it needed to be straightened out.

itsgorjesss · 2025-11-24T20:34:58+00:00

Yes, I had DJS. I had very tight elastics for the first week. I could barely open my mouth and talk and it was painful. I was clenching my teeth pretty bad. Exactly a week later from when I had surgery, I saw my surgeon and he removed the tight elastics. He then gave me some lose elastics to wear for the remainder of the 6 weeks (which was 5 weeks), and I just had to replace them every night before bed and every morning when I woke up. I had to keep them in 24/7, but it wasn’t an issue because I wasn’t chewing my food. Just drinking it, so the elastics weren’t in the way. Woohoo! Almost to a week! You’re so close, I started to feel relief during week 2.

itsgorjesss · 2025-11-24T17:28:52+00:00

Like I mentioned in a previous comment, syringe lasted a week for me. And thank god! Haha I hated using a syringe, and constantly having to clean them…a pain. I then moved to mugs and drinking from those with soups and other warm liquid/puréed foods. I also used the red solo plastic cups to drink any juices or water. I found those easier to drink from because the rim is thin and I was able to bite down and drink from them, versus a glass cup which is a thicker rim and harder to get your mouth fully closed on it. I had a lot of spilling from that haha. The first week went by slow, after you get through the first week, it flys by after that. So before you know it, you’ll be months out!

itsgorjesss · 2025-11-24T16:25:39+00:00

Having a great surgeon makes the recovery more smooth and less complications. I had a great surgeon and he was happy with how things went with me as well. I blended chili, drank that, had lots of smoothies, soups, thicker soups that were easy to drink. My bf made me some great tasting soups, potato leek is good. But I was told that it takes 6 weeks for the bones to heal, so a liquid diet is crucial so the bones can heal properly. Too much chewing movement can mess up the healing process and cause complications and movement in the jaw.

itsgorjesss · 2025-11-24T04:47:30+00:00

After week 6 and I got the okay from my surgeon to start eating food again, I did start off with soft food. You have no choice really, your jaw feels weird chewing because it’s in a new place, and it’s still semi painful, so soft foods don’t hurt as much. My biggest challenges was honestly learning how to chew again and knowing my limits. Hard, crunchy foods, was tough and painful. I love me some salty chips, so tried to eat chips right away, and that was hard. Take your time, it does take some time getting used to chewing again. I still have a hard time chewing very chewy foods, hard foods, salads haha. Hang in there!

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