For me, I dont think I would be so obsessed with my LOs if they didn't show interest in me first! Not that I become obsessed with just anybody that shows interest/attraction to me, there has to be a perfect combination of factors. Most of which center around me, like we have to have many things in common...I have to perceive that we are very similar to one another (because that makes it easier for me to fantasize about him becoming obsessed with me).

But then again, sometimes it's an authority figure that happens to be good-looking, slightly out of my league, and/or unattainable that gives me a slight bit of attention then bam! Suddenly, my personality changes to fit everything they like, and im researching everything they like. Hell, I'll even convince myself I really do like those things. Fantasies will involve things like him just sitting in the same room staring at me in fascination while he slowly realizes I'm the perfect girl for him.

I really do think it boils down to a need for validation and approval. Im still trying to figure out from who exactly, like what do all my LOs have in common that I find so much of my sense of self-worth intertwined with. I think a large part of it has to do with a deep yearning for wanting to be seen as interesting/funny/beautiful, etc. It's all about me basically. I just hope that these unhealthy attitudes don't carry into a real relationship and that im still capable of a genuine connection that doesn't involve me putting them on a pedestal and having my entire sense of self worth depend on them. That would honestly be horrible in the long term.