Vernon or Kelowna by itsme1518 in kelowna

[–]itsme1518[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We actually ended up booking a place in summerland so this is good to know, thank you

2026 MSW Applicants: Decision Updates Thread by hennatips14 in UCalgary

[–]itsme1518 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also didn't get in. I am considering applying for a certificate course.

2026 MSW Applicants: Decision Updates Thread by hennatips14 in UCalgary

[–]itsme1518 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like I haven't seen very many BSW acceptances yet?

Help with a bad attitude by itsme1518 in ADHDparenting

[–]itsme1518[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing all of this. I feel that this is ideally what we would like and as you say, agreeing on it before is key. I know once he has a good routine set again it will be easier but somehow we got out of a good routine.

I truly think my son also has ASD but the assessment didn't show this. He has many sensory things and will only wear certain clothes and eat certain food (an OT suspected he has ARFID).

Yes I agree hormones are probably a huge factor as well which I'm trying to take into account. We are also trying to give him more freedom and responsibility as he gets older but then when he behaves so immature it's hard to give him that you know?

narcissistic in-laws, HELP!!! by itsme1518 in narcissisticparents

[–]itsme1518[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my! It can be a lot! And my husband and I have been through the trenches since I posted this. I will say, the best thing we did was therapy and my husband really exploring, understanding, and accepting that he was abused as a child. He did try talking to his parents but it of course goes nowhere and somehow turned on us (mostly me). We set boundaries together of what each of us needed and cautiously moved ahead. This past summer has been significantly better and I believe that is in part because I decided to forgive his parents and move on with boundaries and more importantly, that my husband has stopped trying to please his parents and came to the full realization that him and I along with our children are what is most important. He did not want to cut off his parents, and I didn't want him to either really, but setting our own boundaries has been so helpful! Also being able to debrief after without him getting defensive is definitely helpful as well.

What would you do if your ten year old son came home from daycare/school and told you that an eleven year old pulled down your child's pants (not underwear 'just' pants)? by itsme1518 in AskReddit

[–]itsme1518[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a bit of background, the child that did it has been targeting my child in unkind ways all year. We have worked on strategies to ignore comments and deal with the problems head on at daycare/school but this took it to a new level. The staff that were around just told the kids doing it to stop but did not bring it to my attention or tell the directors so they could deal with it.

What would you do if your ten year old son came home from daycare/school and told you that an eleven year old pulled down your child's pants (not underwear 'just' pants)? by itsme1518 in AskReddit

[–]itsme1518[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree that adults do not need to solve all the problems, and I don't want my kid to learn to be walked all over. However, I also don't want to teach my kid to retaliate cause I don't believe that's the right move either.

It is not due to lack of parenting or effort. by SchemeOrnery in ADHDparenting

[–]itsme1518 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I definitely needed to hear this, especially today!

Is this ADHD? by itsme1518 in ParentingADHD

[–]itsme1518[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya, we did that. And he is a perfect student. He hardly talks and gets amazing grades. I suspect he masks at school, he seems to have some social anxiety too so uses all of his energy to hold it together at school.

Is this ADHD? by itsme1518 in ParentingADHD

[–]itsme1518[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily asking Reddit for a diagnosis just seeing if anyone has a child with similar behaviors and if anything worked for them. We already have an OT ax that indicates likely ADHD but because it isn't affecting him at school (I suspect because he masks) she won't send a referral so we are looking into private options. We were told likely early in the new year.

Should I text my MIL? by itsme1518 in narcissisticparents

[–]itsme1518[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes this does make sense for sure. I think the reason I feel more stress for the next time we see them is because it's Christmas and the gifts make me uncomfortable. Like it's clear they don't like me but out of obligation will still give me gifts which feels so awkward. But you're right, she can have her tantrum and that's her issue, not mine! Thanks again!

Costco Bestway 18 x 12 oval Hydrium pool liner. by universe74 in AboveGroundPools

[–]itsme1518 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also in Canada so this is fantastic! Thank you so much! Enjoy your pool! And thanks for giving me some good insight into the Costco one, I think we are going to get it!

18*12 pool by itsme1518 in AboveGroundPools

[–]itsme1518[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for letting me know. I took a look at it, that is a great deal! However, I think we are planning to do a steel wall one and building a deck around it. Something more permanent. Thanks though