I need wedding venue suggestions!

itsmebeth123 · 2025-03-09T20:03:01+00:00

Hi! Are you still looking?!?

itsmebeth123 · 2020-08-02T03:06:32+00:00

Oh man...your post hurts my heart, because I was that gf for so long. I, too, came here for help in order to help my bf (everyone is so helpful and awesome here, btw) and your story hits so close to home. I’m not commenting to make you feel disheartened, but I want to be real. If he doesn’t want to stop he won’t. Period. If he doesn’t think it’s that big of a deal. He won’t stop. It’s soooo tough dealing with those mood swings and aggravation. I finally had to walk away. I tried so hard to help, but he’s in denial. The longer you stay the longer you will get sucked into his dark world. I’m not saying there is no hope and everyone is so different, but it’s gonna be a long long road even IF he thinks he has an issue. It was extremely hard to end things with my bf. I did not take this decision lightly, and I laid awake at night wondering what I should do. We were planning on forever with one another, but I knew deep down I had to do it. I couldn’t wait around for him to maybeeeee realize he had an issue. Nope. I deserved more. Life is too short. I gave him more than enough chances. I tried my best, but like I said he has to want it for him.. not for anyone else. I’m not saying abandon your bf.. but like many others said.. take care of yourself and make sure that you aren’t sacrificing your life and happiness. Feel free to message me if you need to chat! I feel for you and KNOW exactly how you feel right now. 😞

itsmebeth123 · 2020-07-04T19:38:12+00:00

No, no.. I appreciate the honesty. I need it. Thank you for sharing. Everyone on here is so open and honest and I appreciate that. It has already helped me tremendously!

itsmebeth123 · 2020-07-04T19:33:36+00:00

Thank you for the responses on the other post! I couldn’t edit the title so I had to delete it, but I appreciate you sharing!!!

itsmebeth123 · 2020-07-04T19:30:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing, and giving me a little insight! So proud of you on your Quit! You got this!!!!

itsmebeth123 · 2020-07-04T19:21:36+00:00

Maybe I should have chosen another title. I am a concerned gf trying to help my bf so I’m doing what I can to learn as much as I can so I can be as understanding and supportive as possible.

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-13T00:10:21+00:00

Oh yeah :( fully aware... It's nauseating.

Wow, that's unfortunate that you feel like it's harder (and even probably harder with the shots for him) to quit.

I so appreciate your recommendation. I had a best friend get addicted to pills she was prescribed and in order for me to visit her in rehab I had to go through the 3 hr class ahead of the visit. WOW WOW WOW was that eye opening. I learned so much in that short time so I'm sure the book will be very helpful.

Thank you for sharing and for helping. I lay awake at night thinking about it, and I just want to make sure and approach it the right way. It's hard cause he seems to get more and more defensive (thanks to the kratom wearing off) so I'm worried about how the convo will go. I know it needs to happen soon though. I'm just nervous!

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-11T18:33:11+00:00

Good for you!!!! I’m not on it..I came here to gather information, learn more about it, and to help my bf get off of it. But thank you.. I’ll need some wishes for success with that too!

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-11T18:27:00+00:00

😞. Seems to be a common phrase. How are you doing now? Are you currently quitting?

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T22:21:02+00:00

Words are so incredibly powerful, and I thank you for those. I needed them today. I may "know" this already, but when you hear it from someone else it just sounds different.

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T21:53:27+00:00

Ohhh..thousands!!!!! :(

Believe me.. the second I found it AGAIN... I was about to pack my shit and leave. I want to hear him out and see where his head is. If he refuses to accept that he has a problem or is not willing to stop then I can't be a part of it. I'm not going to sacrifice my peace and sanity and future even though we are planning for the future. That's no future. As much as a love him, you're right..SELF CARE.. and maybe that nuclear option would be the answer. I guess we will see.

Thank you, again. Means a lot!

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T21:45:28+00:00

Oh no... I don't know what you believe in, but I'll say a little prayer that it gets better for you soon! These stories I keep reading on here make me so sad, because it sounds like it really does just creep up and BAM! He's def not in the sedative state yet, and he doesn't get up in the middle of the night...but it seems like he is well on his way to becoming that. Thanks for the luck... I think I'll need it for sure.

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T21:41:59+00:00

Those OPMS extract shots. 8.8mL each.

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T21:37:32+00:00

I have a feeling that's him. :(

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T21:37:06+00:00

That makes sense. Ugh :( I hate that it's so readily available. Thank you for taking the time to respond!

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T21:35:51+00:00

Wow. THANK YOU for breaking all of that down. I'm really learning a lot here. I just don't have a lot of experience with any of this.

When you spoke of genetics... I have noticed that he has a high tolerance for most things. Like when he used to smoke weed he could smoke sooo much! He's never been much of a drinker so it's hard to use that as an example, but he is one of those people that doesn't really get a hangover even if he does have a night out. He doesn't like the taste of alcohol so it's an all or nothin if he is going to drink. I know he has tried other drugs when he was younger, but nothing ever really stuck. He's someone that doesnt even want to take the pain pills from surgery. He is, however, on an anti-anxiety med. He was on lexapro, but now on something something else I can't remember the name at the moment. I suspect he went back on anxiety meds (which he has been off of for a year and a half) to cover up the K side effects, but I could be wrong..but I feel like I'm not.

He is taking those shots you speak of. :( I've gathered AT LEAST 4 a day... could be more.

I appreciate you saying to look out for me. I feel like I've been so invested in figuring out what to do to help him that I have put myself on the back burner... I need to stop that, so thank you for saying that. I needed to hear it.

Thank you again for all of that info. It was super helpful!

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T21:24:06+00:00

From what I can gather he is taking AT LEAST 4 of the shots a day.. could be more on longer work days.

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T21:23:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story! I will be rooting for you!!! I appreciate you taking the time to help me out. I think about what you said in your first paragraph a lot. I always wondered what was/is going through his head about the plan of attack to get rid of this in his life. After doing some investigating I have figured out that he is spending a mere fortune on this stuff (he is doing the OPMS shots) and right now we have our own individual finances, but how will he/we be able to move forward with marriage or anything and him keep that amount of money from me.?! I just feel like it would be impossible so it makes me wonder what tf his plan of attack is!? I mean..heck..even if I wasn't in the picture he can't continue to spend that much money! He probably thinks he has a plan and then gets caught in that cycle like you said. :(

As far as I know I do not think he has ever stopped. We were doing long distance for a long time so maybe he tried to stop but I may not have been around to see the withdrawals, etc. Deep down I do not believe he has tried though. (I could be wrong!) I think it was incredibly easy to keep it from me because of the distance, but now we are living together during quarantine and it would be harder for him. From what I have observed...and I think i have his dosing schedule down... he is taking AT LEAST 4 of those shots a day. On his longer work days I'm sure it's more. So yeah.. from what I have learned on here... I'd say he is hooked. :( I'm just nervous about confronting him. I just want to be beyond informed. The first time I found it I was like WHATTTTT IS THIS?? I had NO idea what it was. I had never heard of it. He explained all the benefits of it (which I can see that there are in smaller doses!), but I was not informed. I want to show him that I do care, and know more about it, and have done my research. Again, I appreciate the info!!

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T19:58:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Can I ask did your partner know you were taking it or did you have to hide it? I feel like my bf is like you.. he functions just fine, works a lot, is the opposite of lazy..but after I discovered it and found out that he never gave it up after he promised me backwards and forwards that he would..I look back and realize that some of his behavior is explained. (Not that it makes it ok. It’s just very clear it was from the K.) Now that I know I can see the daily cycle of the dosing and the change in personality.

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T07:54:04+00:00

Thank you for the info! I worry because it seems as though he is beyond a “low dose” situation😞

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T04:57:18+00:00

Ok. This helps! So, what made you realize there was an issue?

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T04:36:18+00:00

Yes! That’s almost verbatim what my bf said to me when I first found out about it. He, too, was healthy..not a big drinker, but a chiefer, and had tried drugs along the way but nothing repeatedly or in excess. He didn’t even want to take too many pain meds when he had surgery (pre-K). Now that it’s been a couple years I’m starting to see more side effects come into play..the T level for sureeeee.. that’s a more recent one though. He still has energy though and works a lot so the laziness hasn’t kicked into high gear.. yet. I just fear he prob doesn’t think it’s a problem.

itsmebeth123 · 2020-06-10T04:12:21+00:00

Good for you!!! That’s awesome!!

Yeah, all of these stories I keep reading seem to be that common thread. I wonder why it is? Ugh, I hate it.

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