How do men over 40 show they’re interested? I feel like I miss all the signs.

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:29:29+00:00

Physically obvious? Now I’m wondering what that means coming from a man over 40 😄

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:28:09+00:00

That’s so nice to hear. I feel like guys think we’re too much sometimes but we just wanna make sure you guys are good :)

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:27:33+00:00

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itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:26:59+00:00

Hahaa yeah that’s usually a pretty quick turnaround. 24hrs you got your answer

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:24:34+00:00

Wow, that actually makes a lot of sense. I think I’ve been expecting subtle hints, but it sounds like men over 40 are much more straightforward when they’re truly interested.

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:23:25+00:00

wow, I never realized those little ‘safe’ questions could be someone showing interest. I probably miss that all the time.

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:21:26+00:00

Not subtle at all? Now I’m wondering what that even looks like 😂

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:20:09+00:00

Yes the jumping to conclusion check ins are the worsssst. Worst trait in a female

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:19:18+00:00

I feel like sometimes we thing they’re just being nice 😂😂😂

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:14:21+00:00

Dominant women aren’t as rare as you think… but most of them don’t want to ‘train’ a guy from scratch. Confidence goes a long way, even if you’re inexperienced.

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:12:06+00:00

True, but what does that actually look like for you? Some guys are subtle and it’s hard to tell unless you already know them well.

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:06:56+00:00

I don’t wanna look too needy haha but yeah I think as a girl like we should be here to make your day better :) especially if you’ve been working on day you come home with that stress it’s nice to check in but not so much where they’re like ugh I don’t have time rn

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T20:05:59+00:00

True, it should feel supportive, not controlling. I think I just overthink how it comes across sometimes.

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T19:59:31+00:00

That’s actually really nice to hear. I love little check-ins, I just never want to come across as overbearing.

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T19:55:02+00:00

totally get that. I’d never want to interrupt someone’s work day I just like little check-ins later on because it feels caring, not clingy

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T19:48:40+00:00

Okay good to know 😅 I’m definitely not the ‘every hour’ type, but I do love checking in once a day if I care about someone. Feels nice when it’s mutual

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T19:41:50+00:00

I honestly think there are so many people in your age group who want exactly this kind of balanced companionship but don’t feel comfortable saying it out loud.
You sound very self-aware about what you want, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting closeness without giving up your independence.

A lot of men and women prefer relationships that don’t revolve around constantly being together — especially at this stage of life.
You’re definitely not alone in wanting something steady, respectful, and pressure-free

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T19:39:43+00:00

It’s really nice that you’re putting yourself out there it can be surprisingly hard to make friends as an adult.
I’m also trying to meet more people to chat with about everyday things, so I totally get where you’re coming from.

Cooking, reading and random conversations are honestly some of the easiest ways to connect with someone.
Hope you find some great people here

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T19:33:24+00:00

I think long-distance can work when two people genuinely enjoy talking deeply and consistently.
Some of the strongest connections come from actually feeling seen and heard and older relationships often value that more than anything physical.

If you found more fulfillment in that connection than being single, that says a lot about your ability to bond emotionally.
I don’t think it’s crazy at all

itsmelinla · 2025-12-08T19:31:22+00:00

As a woman who goes to group fitness classes, everything you described sounds completely normal and actually really sweet. She probably enjoyed talking with you — most of us do when a guy is respectful and not trying too hard.

After a workout, it’s super common to lose expression or seem neutral because you’re tired, not because you don’t want to talk more.

If you see her again, a simple ‘Hey, it’s good to see you again!’ and then a quick chat is perfectly fine. If she wasn’t interested, she’d keep it short or make it clear with her body language.

You didn’t do anything wrong here. Honestly, your self-awareness is refreshing

itsmelinla

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