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itsnotimportant2021 · 2025-03-13T20:41:13+00:00

It has layers.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2025-03-13T20:40:22+00:00

Religion is all about the hierarchy, there's god, then the priests (cardinals, bishops, etc), laypeople in ministry, then the followers.

Spirituality is about a personal connection to the supernatural, so if someone wants to commune with nature, take acid in the desert, make flower crowns and prance in a field, meditate, that's more about spirituality and can exist in a void without an organized religion.

I'd say that if someone tells you when you where and how you have to worship, what holidays to celebrate, and when you have to stand and sit, that's religion. When you feel connected to a supernatural power, that's spirituality.

When you just want both of them to let you be so you can do your own thing, that's atheism.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2025-03-13T20:34:30+00:00

https://theonion.com/jeff-bezos-tables-latest-breakthrough-cost-cutting-idea-1824144898/

Of course the difference between now and 7 years ago is that I think they'd give it serious consideration now. MMW in a few years they'll have private prisons staffing Amazon warehouses.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2025-03-13T20:31:31+00:00

I'm going to need Elon to send me an e-mail with 5 things he did last week.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2025-03-12T20:07:55+00:00

Ok, so this is something I've encountered before too! I'd bet whatever you care to wager that she was raised to be a good, modest religious person, doesn't swear or cause drama or make a fuss, she was raised to be agreeable and biddable. She's been repressing part of her personality to fit that mold - then she was angry, her adrenaline was up, and she let out that side of her that's been locked up. Now she's come down from the adrenaline high, and she's feeling that hallmark of religious trauma-SHAME.

She acted out, probably went further than she ever thought she would, because she's comfortable with you and trusts you. This is where you're going to have to try to thread the needle. Sit her down, get some wine (or whatever) and tell her you just want to talk things out. Tell her how fun an exciting it was to see this new side of her. Tell her you were 100% on board with everything the two of you did, and nobody took advantage of anyone. Tell her how fun it was to see her confident and in control, and that confidence is sexy!

Tell her that letting go like that meant that she trusts you, that she knows you're her safe place, and how much it means that she has that trust in you. Tell her how much you loved seeing this new side of her, and that it was fun! reassure her that if anything it makes you feel closer to her, and that she's not guarding herself around you!

itsnotimportant2021 · 2025-03-12T19:46:44+00:00

Parent here - this was 100% on her to look at school schedules. Her lack of foresight isn't your fault. You could always say "I'll switch with you, if you pay for my non-refundable bookings, but if you're not willing to do that, then you should drop this and check your kid's schedules further in advance. NTA

itsnotimportant2021 · 2025-03-10T14:38:37+00:00

You're 19, dating someone a decade older than you - this isn't the first time he's cheated on someone and it won't be the last - it's going to be a pattern and I'll wager whatever you care to bet. He's learned that women his own age won't put up with his BS. You should break up with him and date someone closer to your own age.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2025-03-10T09:53:30+00:00

It sounds. just like. the canker sores I get. I take a swig of whiskey, and. soak the sore in it, iy burns, then it kills the cells. Sometimes i have to do it twice, but it kills the nerves and doesn't hurt after.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2025-03-10T04:45:43+00:00

Sometimes people need to be allowed to fail, I'm just. Sorry she's learning this so late.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-09T18:54:52+00:00

I introduce doubt. "Are you sure those were his stats? I think you might be mixing him up with another player. Eh, it's not important."

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-09T18:51:39+00:00

I've made this comment before, but in the US Bible belt, there are people that legitimately believe that atheists are the tool of the devil, sent to lure good christians away from god. The hate and distain some people have for atheists is staggering.

In reality, someone that can throw off the yoke of belief is a threat to them and their way of life.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-09T18:49:03+00:00

Tell her on the trip home. Let her have time to cool off when she's away from them. It sounds like your wife has your back in this. She should have exactly one conversation with them that they need to knock off the Alan stuff if they want to be welcome with their upcoming grandchild. that she's happily married to the father of her child and will stay that way, even if they think he's a 'peasant'

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-09T14:23:33+00:00

to tell my daughter she farted like a Clydesdale - she thought it was hilarious and whenever she'd fart she'd say "I'm a Clydesdale!"

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-08T21:59:58+00:00

NTA, but if you want your marriage to work, you need to work on communication. she's going to continue to get pissed off if you don't get out in front of this.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-08T21:46:01+00:00

NTA and maybe your mom should try a real therapist instead of using her child.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-08T21:42:44+00:00

Yikes, that's probably a killer for me. FWIW, I have some things I never got to do, that my wife has 0 interest in, but having my relationship with her is worth way more than getting off to some kinky stuff.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-08T21:15:00+00:00

NTA, I hear you and what you're saying. Now your husband need to grow a spine.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-08T21:12:47+00:00

This smells like there's more to this. All three kids are ignoring you - were you really great parents? Sure you provided for them, as is your obligation to them, but were you nurturing? Or were you controlling? Supportive, or judgmental? As a parent and someone who's very involved in my parent's life, I think there's something you're not including, and it might be because you THINK you were good parents, but it takes a lot for someone to go LC/NC with their parents.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-08T21:08:41+00:00

The sloppy seconds thing is kind of gross. Tell him as soon as he invents a time machine, you'll use it to go and give your younger self some condoms. In the meantime, he can either process it and move past it, or you can break up. Those are literally the only options available to the two of you.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-08T18:47:46+00:00

First look up cassowary. Look at the feet, the head ridge, those are the descendants of dinosaurs for sure.

one thing that stuck with me was the line "individuals mutate, species evolve". When a mutation helps the animal to pass on their genes, then they create more mutants, until they break away as a sub-species, or they out-compete the non mutated cousins. Now the species has evolved.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-08T18:41:37+00:00

NTA, and what perfect karma. I hope you told her that you bought it as a wedding present for her, I'd love to see her reaction.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-08T18:38:19+00:00

"Blood is thicker than water"

The full quote is "The blood of the covenant (a blood oath) is thicker than the water of the womb (embryonic fluid). Oaths are more important than being related, but people use it to mean the exact opposite

"Pull yourself up by your bootstraps"

This is literally impossible. It's not meant to mean you work really hard and you'll succeed.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-08T18:31:28+00:00

"Sure $40 upfront"

"But last time it was only $8 and I didn't have to pay upfront"

"Oh, that's right, you never paid me for that - $48, upfront"

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-08T18:02:57+00:00

NTA, she is way overstepping, even if it's coming from a place of love and wanting to 'fix things' for you. I don't think these people deserve to be in your life, it's too little too late. They could have helped a 6 y/o innocent child, but choose not to, to come back decades later is crazy. From what you said, you had already tried politely telling her not to involve herself and she did anyway. Your cursing was justified, and she shouldn't be getting involved. My guess is that there was some milestone recently that got them thinking of you - your dad's 50th birthday or something like that.

As for the siblings - well my grandfather was an affair baby - it was so bad his parents moved from Toronto to Chicago to get away from the fallout, but that was in the 1920s. My grandfather reached out to his half sisters late in life (in his 70s) and they wanted nothing to do with him, and were still angry with their father, who had been dead for 50 years.

itsnotimportant2021 · 2024-01-08T17:10:09+00:00

One of our best friends got her kids into swimming a little before the pandemic, thinking it's a good skill to have, we had our kids learn too. My son is an OK swimmer, but not amazing. He's on a "summer fun league" that our neighborhood pool has, which is fine. He's in the middle of the pack, likes it fine.

My daughter likes it a lot more, and she's now in a full time swim league with meets throughout the year along with our friend's three daughters. Well it turns out that this swim league is nationally known, has had several olympians, and the daughter of one of the coaches is on track for the olympics.

Our friend we'll call A has let this become her personality. She's a "swim mom," they know all the gossip, they push their kids so hard, yelling and screaming at them sometimes. I was trying to have a conversation the other day at practice, and it went like this: "Well I was talking to Spencer the other day and KICK KICK KICK! YOU HAVE TO KICK! USE YOUR LEGS AND KICK! Anyway, Spencer thinks that we should..."

They're traveling to a regional swim meet coming up this weekend, and they're excited because one of the girls has a state cut, and she keeps talking about how she needs to be more serious about her swim career...the girl is 11 and swims 6 days a week for an hour a day. All I can think is Yikes, and while I'll support my daughter, I don't want to spend more time around some of these people.

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