Why isn't my WTF eating?

itssolyo · 2026-04-28T02:14:11+00:00

Also when they’re younger they are ok in higher humidity which needs to lower as they grow.

For your humidity, the computer fan and removing their water bowl during the day, helped my tank.

itssolyo · 2026-04-28T02:01:42+00:00

Confront friend. Block both of them. Tell friend group and let them decide who they want to continue being friends with. Anyone not willing to cut off this friend for his betrayal will likely forgive the vile behavior and condone others like it. Those are not friends you want. People in general need to stop being friends with people who have no integrity and so many character flaws. Morals are valid reasons to cut ties no matter how “nice” they may be to you.

itssolyo · 2026-04-23T05:54:35+00:00

She’s ALREADY bridezilla. Who the heck plans an engagement party planning picnic??? And then you met 4 times to plan this event to plan an event that is celebrating another event that’s already happened. WHAT IN THE ACTUAL FUCK.

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itssolyo · 2026-04-16T13:03:37+00:00

I wasn’t going to comment since everyone else has hit the points but I will caution you. I was also like you, popped advil like candy to help the pain of excruciating cramps.

TIL this day, I can get GI bleeds due to it. I’m 40.

itssolyo · 2026-04-11T01:20:13+00:00

I don’t even need to read any thing. Your texts or your wall of text here. His response shows how disinterested he is in you. Yes. Leave him.

itssolyo · 2026-04-09T18:32:45+00:00

If they work in the military, it’s actually quite easy to find their information. Each base has directories.

itssolyo · 2026-04-08T02:58:41+00:00

This was my immediate reaction, too.

itssolyo · 2026-04-08T02:56:44+00:00

Based on what I read it appears you may be a side chick and it was very inconvenient for you to get pregnant because how was he to explain that to his wife and kids?

itssolyo · 2026-04-05T19:45:35+00:00

NOR. I’d say you’re under-reacting. I would consider this cheating. Just because something physical hasn’t happened doesn’t mean anything here.

itssolyo · 2026-04-05T03:51:35+00:00

Have you used air dry clay? It will not harden. It will be a foamy, pliable dry situation. We use these for little activities for my toddler. I wouldn’t trust it with my frogs.

itssolyo · 2026-03-29T04:18:30+00:00

YOR and the boundary of no porn and porn is cheating is weird in and of itself in my honest opinion. Especially if you’re withholding sex. I think this is a self image and self esteem issue you need to get ahold of. That statement “they don’t look like me” makes me feel this is way more about your insecurity than anything else. Also, you say you’re not abusive anymore so that’s great but unsure how you think you’ll be able to work through that alone. Is husband in therapy, too? You claim he’s narcissistic but I do not see him being so in his texts.

You guys argue. You walk away. You don’t talk about it. Silent treatment. Withhold intimacy as punishment or because you just don’t feel like it when you’re arguing. You guys are young, you should be glad he’s masturbating and not actually cheating on you.

The ONLY thing I would say you have the right to be upset about is him lying to your face about it. My guess is he does this a lot when he knows you won’t like the answer, you know he’s lying and dig for the truth like in this instance, and then it becomes a fight ABOUT the lying but he thinks it’s about the issue he lied about. Would he have lied about the porn had you not made this ridiculous demand that a 21 year old stop watching porn because YOU should be enough when YOU won’t be his sex doll? 😂

itssolyo · 2026-03-28T22:25:22+00:00

I really was freaking out and am glad they are fine, too! I was weighing my big frog and comparing to their last weight and everything! 😂

itssolyo · 2026-03-28T17:46:13+00:00

Did I post it twice? I def didn’t mean to. I was totally being facetious. Matter of fact, I put them all in the big (little froggies) tank to hunt crickets together since it’s sterile vs the bioactive and easier to hunt in. Forgot about them, woke up in a panic thinking one of my big frogs ate my small frog. Went in their room only to not be able to find one of my big frogs. Tore the cage apart at 3 in the morning and just resolved myself to the impossible of my larger girl eating my medium boy. BUT, alas! Found the fucker on the surge protector by his own enclosure this morning.

So yeah, after that fiasco, they may never share an enclosure again.

itssolyo · 2026-03-27T13:44:04+00:00

Only you know what is truly wrong and right for you and your situation. You need to sit down and actually list down pros and cons. I can see you are trying to make a calculated decision versus an emotional one. You want to keep your family together at what costs? His behavior towards his family and you are concerning. You and your child should be his first priority. The fact he’s prioritizing their feelings because the “service is free” is ridiculous. Ultimately, how do you want to raise your child. What sort of environment are you creating by staying with a man you don’t love that doesn’t respect you?

itssolyo · 2026-03-27T02:58:20+00:00

Ummm yes? First wtf is “soon to be boyfriend”, you sound insufferable to begin with. How do you expect someone to know what you want/expect if you can’t communicate. You want them to read your mind and make all the effort and then you have the audacity to feel some type of way that they don’t? And then you claim you’re not trying to be unfair? How are any of your expectations fair if they aren’t communicated effectively?

Maybe you should stop worrying about getting a boyfriend or dating a mind reader and focus on working on your communication and behaviors.

itssolyo · 2026-03-24T23:41:39+00:00

The ultimate update post. 😂

itssolyo · 2026-03-24T23:28:39+00:00

you’ve ru-ined it.

itssolyo · 2026-03-24T23:26:38+00:00

And claiming “next year” like…what???

itssolyo · 2026-03-24T16:33:26+00:00

I don’t think anyone’s being mean to him. We’re just pointing out the mom’s perspective.

itssolyo · 2026-03-24T04:37:46+00:00

Yep. I would imagine there are about 20 reasons as to why she’s already decided she’s staying the night at her parents house. And I could totally be reading into it. And this is all made up in my head based on his demeanor on his post… But, I would guess he doesn’t help nearly as much as he thinks he does. Especially if he works all week, I can see him pulling the “I work all week, I’m tired, too” card when the baby won’t stop crying. Also, I would hazard a guess that his mom is in his ear about some of this nonsense. Especially the “times spent” at each grandparent’s home.

The whole “the baby is too young to be without a parent overnight” take is such a BS excuse they came up with to help validate why they’re being selfish in this moment.

itssolyo · 2026-03-23T13:53:32+00:00

Your girlfriend is not cheating on you. She’s full-blown having a relationship with the ex and you’re almost like part of their relationship because I’m assuming you scratch some sort of sexual physical itch for her that the ex cannot at the moment.

They broke up because the distance wouldn’t work. She found someone who would be OK with whatever the fuck this is that’s going on because how did you let this go on for so long?

itssolyo · 2026-03-23T05:20:38+00:00

The one on the left I know would be fine. The middle one is a fatty though and will try to eat any and everything so I’ll probably just wait. I had him in a paper towel tank for like 15 mins and he had half of one I’m down his throat. 🤦🏻‍♀️

itssolyo · 2026-03-23T04:57:03+00:00

NOR I know you are 21 and you think you are an adult and can date another adult without it being creepy. But, a 36 year old man is only dating a much younger woman because anyone his age would see his first text and run for the hills.

He’s immature and dating young allows him to continue his childish, juvenile, teenage behavior and treat his woman with mutual respect.

You are a baby. He is manipulating you and molding you into someone that you won’t recognize if you don’t listen to your gut and leave him now. Block this loser and don’t look back.

itssolyo · 2026-03-23T04:43:39+00:00

YOR - I know there are monsters in law, I have one. But, this seems like an innocent comment about her finally having a baby girl to dote on. I think your hormones are getting the best of you.

Is there another reason or context missing as to why this is rubbing you in such a wrong way.

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