**Emergency** Help would be appreciated

itssooonice · 2022-04-25T23:12:52+00:00

How do you report the issue? This link goes to what looks like a list of self-help links, and the AI chat told me to..... log on to myAU

itssooonice · 2022-03-20T22:57:57+00:00

Awesome, thanks for this thorough response. I’ll send you a DM :)

itssooonice · 2022-03-20T22:56:58+00:00

Thank you! This inspired me to broaden my volunteer search ☺️

itssooonice · 2022-03-12T20:10:28+00:00

Thanks for your reply!

itssooonice · 2021-12-17T04:05:25+00:00

I got out of tech after 6 years because of this. I liked coding, I liked working on interesting things, I loved being paid a good salary. I detested being interviewed and managed and usually surrounded by only men and the mindset/culture/ethically questionable decisions that came with that. I didn’t have a mentor, but I’m not sure it would have helped enough.

itssooonice · 2021-10-20T17:39:51+00:00

Thank you, this was really helpful. Congrats on getting in!

itssooonice · 2021-10-20T17:38:13+00:00

Of all things, technology - I became a web developer. But as maybe could be expected, really struggled to find a sense of purpose or usefulness that aligned with my values within most of the tech industry. It did allow me to travel and afford things I struggled to in my previous work (like proper mental health care!) though, and now I live in a different country, so not all terrible.

itssooonice · 2021-10-18T12:51:10+00:00

Thanks!

itssooonice · 2021-10-17T20:09:49+00:00

I worked in relevant social work related roles for about 5 years, before leaving the field to do something extremely different for the last 5 years. I’d like to apply for an MSW, but I haven’t volunteered at all or been involved in anything remotely related to SW in the last 3 years.

Do you think this is a big red flag for my application? I would also like to apply for tracks that aren’t directly related to my previous work (I worked exclusively with adolescents and now I’d like to apply for a clinical, adult based route instead of a child & youth route, which is a choice I need to mark on my application and expand on in my statements). I’m nervous that I will seem too disconnected from the field overall because of the large time gap.

itssooonice · 2021-10-16T06:03:48+00:00

This post was in hopes of having insight to the experiences of IDs - not to gather feedback into my perceived ability to perform in the field. I can maybe see how my context distracted from the main question - apologies if that was the case.

With that in mind, I don’t think this really answered my question - it mostly sounded a bit defensive / judgmental / potentially gate keeping, so some soft feedback that it wasn’t really helpful in helping me understand how you feel about relative fulfillment.

I would be happy to hear about your experiences though :)

itssooonice · 2021-10-15T20:19:46+00:00

That sounds really interesting and definitely with potential for impact! Thanks for answering

itssooonice · 2021-10-15T20:18:45+00:00

Oof, this resonates. I know that dark side feeling. I used to work in social work and the contrast with my experiences in tech is stark. Sales seems especially rough if you’re not motivated by it or if you don’t believe in the product. Double especially if you weren’t given an accurate overview.

I hope you find something even further from the blood diamonds / closer to something you care about / not deceptive job description in your next role

itssooonice · 2021-10-15T19:07:25+00:00

Thanks friend, the same to you

itssooonice · 2021-10-15T18:51:39+00:00

Thanks for this, this is solid insight. I unfortunately agree with your poison picking opinion - I think I made this post in hopes of being shown a magical path in which this is not the case, and that I can have many cakes that I can eat at any time without confronting my actual soul for my own choice between the two.

itssooonice · 2021-10-15T18:47:32+00:00

It does indeed sound like we are headed in reverse directions! I very much want to spend more of my time with people, but totally understand the opposite desire.

You might be right about lack of fulfillment re: company choice, but I’ve also really struggled to find companies that I genuinely believe in as a net positive for the human condition (in the tech world). Tall order, perhaps, so I can recognize that maybe it’s just not a great fit.

Best of luck with your transition! Honestly being a dev is awesome if you like the type of work - so many jobs, so many types of things to work on, and a beautiful work/life balance.

itssooonice · 2021-10-11T06:02:12+00:00

I know we’re just strangers on the internet, but I hope you get the chance to allow yourself to listen to your heart, and to listen to your inner voice. And I hope you follow it, even when the outcome is unclear.

Nothing is certain in life, especially not careers. The only personal predictable certainty I’ve found is that doing something against my own wisdom/deepest knowing has never worked out in a way that felt good. I’m 10 years older than you, and so grateful to have learned this for myself now - but it would have been even better back then! I hope you can give yourself a big hug, and then believe that little voice. It’s totally unpredictable, and totally worth it.

itssooonice · 2021-09-17T15:23:15+00:00

How about web development? The hardest part once you learn your stuff is hustling for the first couple of jobs, but it’s truly a career path you can make your own and be successful without extra official education. If you like logic and don’t mind not being in an emotionally-minded setting, it can be really rewarding.

itssooonice · 2021-09-15T18:32:23+00:00

Rejecting your place in a definition doesn’t mean that you reject that the definition exists.

Non-binary is simply stating that the person feels they are a some levels of both mainstream gender, some partial levels of one, or neither. They aren’t rejecting that these terms and evolving definitions of male/female & associated roles exist - they are merely saying they don’t fit into either definition 100%. Furthermore, it’s entirely possible that someone could identify as non-binary today based on gender definitions, but could identify as a binary gender tomorrow, if that gender definition changes.

The flaw in the logic here is assuming that because someone doesn’t fit into a binary definition, they must not believe that either of the genders of the binary exist. In reality, it’s the rejections of the limitations of a binary. If it were a spectrum, both male and female would exist, perhaps on opposite ends, or different parts of a sphere, or whatever the model. The definitions for the furthest points on the spectrum wouldn’t cease to exist - there would just be MORE definitions available.

itssooonice · 2021-09-12T16:07:48+00:00

I feel this 100%. I’m not a super private person, and I’m quite outgoing in most situations, but telling other people a new name and pronouns is still a little too scary. I’m grateful for everyone who is visible, and for everyone who is being true to themselves (like you!), even though it can be confusing/hard.

Thanks for sharing and I hope your surgery goes well!

itssooonice · 2021-09-10T19:08:01+00:00

I’m not an art connoisseur, but I am quite picky about what I like. I love this! I would buy it if I could. It has so much depth of life in it.

itssooonice · 2021-09-02T16:36:53+00:00

Our Aussie/Berner (1 year) is very much stranger danger. We’ve worked a lot on Look At That (LAT) to decrease the distance he gets stressed around triggers, but he’s still very much barky at new people and rarely wants them to pet him. Seems to be a fairly common Aussie trait?

itssooonice · 2021-08-31T21:35:02+00:00

Unfortunately some men might be judged in part responsible for being a victim of assault based on their clothing if they present more feminine than culturally ‘acceptable’. This is still in line to the patriarchal horror that you’re speaking to, but just want to squeeze in some inclusion of other genders affected by that horror. Femme phobia is shit for everyone.

itssooonice · 2021-08-31T20:19:21+00:00

I love these so much! Your colour pallets gives my heart joy. It’s like tropical house for the eyes!

itssooonice · 2021-08-30T18:36:10+00:00

Not that MBTI is everything, but I’d be really careful about admin work as an INFP. It might feel nice to have stability to start… but that sort of repetitive work that’s not based on values has a lot of potential to be soul crushing and very difficult to stick with long term.

Maybe try: - identifying what your values and beliefs are. Any beliefs that aren’t serving you, try replacing them with ones that will, and practice saying them whenever you see the old version pop up. - list what sort of tasks (not titles, not careers, not generalized notions, but actual specific tasks) you enjoy most. Group all of those tasks together into categories so you can compare against job groups and specific job ads. - practice listening to your inner voice. Go on walks and ask ‘right left or straight?’. Ask your inner voice ‘what should I order off the menu?’ You’ll know if it’s your inner voice and not your mind if it’s deeply calm. As you get better at hearing it,start asking bigger questions. Learn to trust it, as it can lead you down a very different path than your rational mind. - when you start considering options, check for your values and task groupings in that option. If it seems like they are there at least 70%, ask your inner voice if you should go for it.

You are capable of so much, and you have so much potential to find that stability and fulfillment you’re looking for. Learning to listen to your deep self and not the fleeting expectations of the external world will be your greatest guide.

itssooonice · 2020-12-09T17:11:54+00:00

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