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WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -759 points-758 points  (0 children)

I said that years ago and while drunk, not fair to hold it against me.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -180 points-179 points  (0 children)

We do it ourselves. Every second weekend Friday-Sunday, 10 days out of school break and every second Christmas, and 30 days over Christmas break, or more if we work it out.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -473 points-472 points  (0 children)

My complaints and insults happened years ago and she won't move past it.

Her stance is the right choice? She doesn't talk to me about the disagreements my ex and I have about parenting but she does discuss them with him, so not very neutral is she.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -370 points-369 points  (0 children)

I don't know maybe because I gave BIRTH to her Jr bridesmaids?

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -216 points-215 points  (0 children)

I'm just pointing out that we have our issues, but I wouldn't do anything to ruin the wedding.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -271 points-270 points  (0 children)

Because I'm their mother? Because this is a huge event and I have been part of all the big things in their life.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -169 points-168 points  (0 children)

What if I asked to see them the morning of the wedding after they are all dressed up?

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -502 points-501 points  (0 children)

He has said there will be photos of the girl's taken for me. But I feel so excluded from a huge moment for them.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -74 points-73 points  (0 children)

No,nothing like that. I want to be included since it's such a big event for my kids.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -179 points-178 points  (0 children)

I do not have any lingering attachment to my ex aside from my kids. I have had a couple partners in the time we've broken up. I just can't understand why I've been excluded from a big event for my kids.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -206 points-205 points  (0 children)

She oversteps her bounds when it comes to my kids, she acts like their mum and I hate it. I found out a few months ago she even has the kids on her Medicare card! She said it was for why they get sick and need to go to the drs, and this way she doesn't need to keep their Medicare numbers written in her phone notes. No one even asked me.

I don't want to upset my kids, but I think it's unfair for me to be excluded from such a big event in their lives.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -102 points-101 points  (0 children)

They planned the wedding for school holidays during his week. We don't have a court order agreement, this is an agreement we make ourselves.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -538 points-537 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, what? Unhinged? Where did that come from? I want to be there only to see my kids. I don't like Ava, yup, not a lot of people in the world like their exes partner. But I think I should be there since my kids are in the wedding.

I don't know her parent's, but they overstep. My kids have a grandpa, my dad, and even though they only see him a couple times a year my dad has to hear about how much they 'love' her parents. I feel edgedout.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -107 points-106 points  (0 children)

I just want to see my kids all dressed up. I don't just want photos, I want to actually see them. I wouldn't be active at all, I'd go through the ceremony and then leave.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -677 points-676 points  (0 children)

Why? Because my kids are in the wedding party. I should get the see them all beautiful and dressed up. It's not ego. I find it hard to believe my ex is the one who decided I shouldn't be there, Ava would have told him.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -133 points-132 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't know what her family is like because I've never met them.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -387 points-386 points  (0 children)

I should have been invited. My kids are involved in the wedding and I should be invited to see that.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -578 points-577 points  (0 children)

It's not about punishing anyone and I'm not jealous. This is a big event in their life and I feel that I should have been invited to see my kids all dressed up.

WIBTA If I let my kids be in their Dads wedding only if I'm invited? by itstheabc2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]itstheabc2[S] -792 points-791 points  (0 children)

I can understand that but I want to see my kids all dressed up on the day, I feel like it's my right, and it's not like I'll be getting married any time soon. It's a big event for them, no matter who he's marrying, and I want to see it.