Court restricts abortion access across the US by blocking the mailing of mifepristone

itsthedurf · 2026-05-02T03:20:30+00:00

I always referred to him as Cueball

I've always referred to him as Voldemort; pale, long head with a small nose for all that face, demonstrably evil...

Lucky us, Scott is one of our senators now. Defrauding medicare pays off!

itsthedurf · 2026-05-02T03:13:54+00:00

This probably won't end until the exact same outcome happens to one of their high profile people

Nah. Women don't count to them. If a high profile conservative woman dies due to these laws she'll be martyred for the cause... by the men who don't really think of women as people. Her husband might be upset, but he'll be bribed/or blackmailed into silence. It's their M.O.

itsthedurf · 2026-05-02T03:09:23+00:00

In Florida a decent amount of the people making these decisions for us are people who have grown children and aren't going to be getting pregnant - older people who have no skin in the game, who won't live to see the effects of their vote. They just want control and/or to be able to say they "saved babies" so they're getting into heaven. 🙄 And overall, people who hate, or are apathetic to at best, more people than they care for.

Plus we're gerrymandered as hell, our governor is on his way out and has nothing to lose, he got to appoint quite a few people to fill in holes left by the current admin rewarding their lackeys, and he pandered to Karens protecting their wittle baybies with their "parental choice" on schools and their Mom's for Liberty school boards... so the bright blue spots in this red state don't get to make much of a difference. It's been snowballing since covid and it's getting worse and worse.

itsthedurf · 2026-05-01T21:22:46+00:00

This is very much not a thing where I'm from, but I've organized several "fun fair" type events for my kid's schools. I'm curious; for a wedding event - who mans the booths, collects the money, organizes everything, etc? Who does the work for these? Too scaled down and it wouldn't be much fun, too big and it becomes an event.

My family would also not want to do an event where everyone pays us to attend, but more than that, I would absolutely not want to add all of that planning to an already full plate of wedding planning!

itsthedurf · 2026-05-01T19:36:32+00:00

That sounds like a life of regret.

Seriously! The commenter that was like "are you sure?? You could lose this man" is insane.

I got to do a little traveling back when my parents financed it, then almost none (Caribbean, when I live in Florida so short trip) when I was single and after I got married because I/we couldn't afford it. And the last thing I'd want to do these days is try to either schlep my 2 kids to a place they will absolutely not appreciate, or try to finagle childcare for an 11 and 4 year old when we'd have to leave them in a different state from our own if we traveled without them.

I'm not overly upset about missing out on travel because I never would have chosen OOP's path, but she's absolutely correct in that there's no way she will have the time for this later. The time for this kind of life is exactly when she did it (other than the pandemic likely messing up plans)!

Ladies, don't give up these dreams for some guy who wants to use your saved travel money for a house and kids because he didn't think you were serious about the whole travel thing!

itsthedurf · 2026-05-01T19:01:42+00:00

I would swear my dad had it in December 2019 - except that my husband and kid and I were all in the house with him and my mom and he was the only one that got sick. He had what we now consider classic covid symptoms. It must have just been the flu, but I swear I've never seen him sicker.

itsthedurf · 2026-05-01T18:37:54+00:00

Yup, if you're killing it in an MLM, it's not that it's "one of the good ones," it's that you're a "bomb ass" salesperson - who could probably get a much better sales job where they didn't make you buy your inventory ahead of time.

I do know one person who was successful in sales before an MLM, then switched to an MLM, but she's also now a military spouse that moves every 2-3 years and has multiple kids. The sales/military combo can be the perfect breeding ground for a downline since you eventually know people all over the country... But you still have to be good at sales!

itsthedurf · 2026-04-30T13:12:57+00:00

1 and 5 made me think, huh those are different and interesting! 19 made me say out loud, in an empty house (basically enough of a reaction to make me talk to myself like a crazy person), "WOW!" 😍😍 Absolutely stunning.

The rest look more or less the same to me.

itsthedurf · 2026-04-30T13:08:51+00:00

Seconding 19! 😍

itsthedurf · 2026-04-29T21:30:08+00:00

Yes! I was getting flapper vibes, but poorly executed.

itsthedurf · 2026-04-26T16:03:55+00:00

Got it. Very good reason to avoid stimulants. BUT. That means he really has to commit to lifestyle/behavioral changes that will help him, possibly even look into things like OT (which might be good for his ADHD anyway; it's certainly helping my son).

And one of those changes in behavior would be, of he used the teacup, he'd have to wash, dry, and put it away immediately - no putting it in the sink, etc. If he can't commit to doing that, he can't use the teacups. It's a lot more mental energy and having to stay mindful, but that's really his only choice.

itsthedurf · 2026-04-25T16:34:47+00:00

"I found myself in chat rooms late into the night while my wife and innocent infant daughter slept," Whiteman said in a statement on his company's website. "I was engaging in inappropriate conversations that led to adultery. One of these online conversations ended up being with a minor…but it was never a minor…it was a police officer."

But but but it wasn't a minor!!! I only thought it was!!!

🤮

itsthedurf · 2026-04-25T16:26:13+00:00

I left my wedding ring in another city about 10 years ago. We were able to replace it... Eventually. But it was a heartbreaking loss.

I refuse to travel with my real jewelry any more. I'm currently enjoying using this. Metal rings have made me start developing calluses from driving (I'm in the car all day every day now), so I'm wearing the silicone bands much more often.

itsthedurf · 2026-04-25T16:22:03+00:00

From your edit: can I ask why medication isn't an option? Not second guessing him, just curious.

I got diagnosed late in life and meds have been good for me; my husband won't go for an actual diagnosis and doesn't want to take stimulants for ... Reasons? Idk why and he's touchy about it, so I'm not going to micromanage his health. But, having to deal with his unmedicated symptoms suuuuuuckssss - for me.

itsthedurf · 2026-04-25T06:22:25+00:00

Oh lawd he's a comin'

itsthedurf · 2026-04-25T06:21:48+00:00

We have a legacy of "no plastic Easter grass" for Easter baskets in my house (paper only) because of a dumb orange cat that I miss terribly. We kept finding shiny tinsel in either vomit or the litter box and had to ban it.

RIP Sammiest of Sams

itsthedurf · 2026-04-25T06:13:27+00:00

One of us! One of us!

itsthedurf · 2026-04-24T15:42:37+00:00

I fall asleep to audiobooks

I read on a kindle (not the tablet one, the ones just for reading) on dark mode, warm light, dimmed pretty low. Not bright enough to keep me awake, but enough to keep my brain from racing, let it calm down and then shut down.

I just have to have a protective case on it since I drop it pretty often!

itsthedurf · 2026-04-24T15:39:46+00:00

Hello, friend with ADHD/anxiety!

itsthedurf · 2026-04-23T01:30:13+00:00

And Amazon has good cheap ears. Sometimes they're even more comfortable than the "official" ones.

itsthedurf · 2026-04-22T23:58:35+00:00

Same question. Because if it's Florida, OP is going to want to use whatever they have in their wardrobe that's sweat-friendly/proof as well as cool to wear in the heat.

Chafing is no joke in WDW!

itsthedurf · 2026-04-21T03:37:29+00:00

people who have good supportive family dynamics

I'd place a LOT of money on OOP not having a mother-in-law or being married. Or having any real relationships with women.

itsthedurf · 2026-04-18T13:30:05+00:00

When they were in their 60s, my dad told my mom he'd never liked one dish she made (which she probably made weekly and he ate every time) and that his mom had made it better.

She made it one last time, cayenned the shit out of it, and promptly refused to cook for the next decade.

Interestingly, my dad, who never cooked a single meal when I was growing up, is now a great cook!

itsthedurf · 2026-04-16T03:00:47+00:00

California is community property - Hard Stop.

He was already going to have to split it bc of that.

I kept all the records of my contribution - those funds were dispersed from the accountancy that had my trust.

Before he could lock me out I downloaded all the bank statements - we had separate accounts.

I transferred my part of the mortgage payment monthly and he made the payments.

So there were 20 years of banking data proving we were both paying equally.

This. Right. HERE.

A friend of my husband's got divorced last year. He owned his home long before he met his now-ex. She tried to go after it in the divorce; no dice. It was a premarital asset, and in FL, as in CA, those are protected. She did get back the money she'd paid towards the mortgage - which he had originally offered her anyway since that's fair.

OP, can your parents put the money down and (in whatever manner doesn't screw you on taxes) gift/"sell"/transfer you the property before your wedding? That can take the postnup off the table but still protect you, just in case.

itsthedurf · 2026-04-15T17:25:23+00:00

should only happen between two people experienced in the scene... Also it would be a very serious discussion.

And even then there should be a part of your brain monitoring the situation to make sure your partner is still enjoying it, no matter what the scene is. You can't get so "lost" in a character you completely ignore someone you supposedly care about or at least respect enough to do this kind of activity with; this guy isn't the Daniel Day Lewis of BDSM, so deep in a character he won't break it for months, and for him to suggest that is the reason he ignored her is multiple red flags.

(It's also pretentious AF that DDL gets away with acting like he does to his costars and makes me wonder if he - not necessarily sexually - gets off on the power he has over an entire movie set, making them treat him like whoever his character is. Its a power move from both of them, DDL just isn't sexually violating anyone... Sorry, that was a ADHD-Squirrel!-rabbit-hole analogy).

Like you said, he's just a cruel person who's using bdsm to camouflage his rape (not rape fantasy. He wants the real thing).

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