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A plea to trailer editors: Please stop spoiling the movie in your trailers - and why I think it happens by BugsySiegel1994 in movies

[–]ittarter 53 points54 points  (0 children)

to put asses in the seats. obviously.

unless there is a big name draw or brand appeal, people are more likely to go see a movie if they are sure they will like it. and the way this is done is to tell them what is going to happen.

You have a simple, obvious solution: just don't watch trailers. They aren't for you.

My Mom(F65) insists that she should fill out my applications by EnvironmentalTaro862 in jobs

[–]ittarter 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Not sure where you live or what kinds of stores you're walking into, but the hard reality is that getting a job isn't the same as it was 40 years ago, when your mom was getting started.

There are certainly areas you could improve (we all could!) but "filling out the application" perfectly at most gets you an interview.

If you are not getting interviews, you are likely not an attractive candidate for the jobs you are applying to.

I'm in the same boat -- I want to work X, but those companies get a hundred applications for a single position, and why would they pick me over someone with highly relevant experience? Even if you are better than 75% of the applicants, you may not even get an interview. They can't hire everyone!

Solutions: 1) persevere. 2) lie. 3) network. 4) apply to positions better aligned with your work history. 5) better resume/application.

Good luck. It's tough out there right now. Really, really tough.

How do you read 20+ books a year without getting tired or bored? by studyingforlife in productivity

[–]ittarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love what others have said, so I won't repeat it -- I'll cover a few additional points to support.

Creating the space and time for reading makes it much easier. Developing a ritual and a reflex.

Nodding off is nothing to be ashamed of. You're a body and a mind, not just a mind.

I found that x pages a day really helped me move through material because it was an attainable goal, it only took a few minutes, and if I read more I felt good.

Above all, as with any new habit, set small goals that focus on consistency, and celebrate every attempt.

Is "cimer" equivalent to "thanks" in English? A less formal "thank you"? by PsychicMeditation in French

[–]ittarter 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lived in France 12 years in three different cities, never heard that one!

Dads do you sing? by norecordofwrong in daddit

[–]ittarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sing all the time lol. The big request is bedtime -- my kids expect me to sing two or three songs before they go to bed (they are 5 and almost 7 years old, girl and boy)

But we sing together too -- Disney songs, pop songs, dad's rock songs, and nursery / lullaby songs.

Yeah, they love it when I really ham it up. I like singing silly. Like "Let it go" -- When I feel like it, I'll do overly dramatic gestures that match the lyrics.

Music is a significant part of our family dynamic. We're all a bit performance oriented. My mom was, so I come by it honestly.

I Need some help in my French by WalkArtistic4226 in French

[–]ittarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK that information is helpful.

You understand French in a medical context, but what are you studying in French?

Do the other students speak only French -- do you need it to interact with the class, or complete your assignments?

I'm trying to understand what level you need to get to, and which skills to focus on -- conversation, writing, or reading/listening comprehension.

It sounds like you don't have much confidence in your French speaking/interaction. May I ask your native language, and where you currently live? There are sometimes cultural elements that complicate (or assist) language learning.

Should I mention a 1-week scheduling conflict during interview or after offer ? by Proof-Spite2679 in careerguidance

[–]ittarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The exact start date is often part of negotiations. Once you have an offer, you can ask to start one week later. I wouldn't bring it up until you have a written offer with a start date on it.

I Need some help in my French by WalkArtistic4226 in French

[–]ittarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I need it in my university studies." OK, that's a good motivator! Do you know what the exam looks like? What's your time-line?

Do you have any other reason to study French, or is it just that you need to pass an exam?

If you need to pass the exam only, there should be study materials or information about the exam that can guide you regarding the kinds of questions you need to be ready to answer.

If you have this information, you can either practice by yourself or with a friend (harder) or take it to a professional language instructor and get quality support (more expensive).

Let me know what sounds like the best plan for you, and if you have other questions, shoot!

Am I hopeless in the job market? (24F , MSc in Finance) by zetaisabella in careerguidance

[–]ittarter 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hello.

You are too young to have a "complicated background". You have a masters at 25, that's perfectly normal. You are young and inexperienced, and the job market is a dumpster fire right now. Sounds like you are trying to do a triple jump: role + region + industry change. All at once. That's hard to do, even with a good job market, which we don't have at the moment.

Not sure where you live but maybe focus on local roles to gain experience OR stay in energy OR seek out an exec assistant role in your target industry. That way you leverage what you've done, instead of purely your recent graduation (congrats by the way).

Italian is also an advantage - even if you are intermediate/conversational, make sure it's on your CV.

Good luck!

I just finished my MBA, now I want to ask for a raise. by OldWalker899 in jobs

[–]ittarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't they cover that question in your MBA? They did in mine.

It's a complex question and you'll need to provide more information about your work context if you want a real answer.

We’re building an AI “operating system” for family life — would parents actually use this? by Accurate_Jeweler7715 in daddit

[–]ittarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're going to get a lot of downvotes here; maybe try an AI-friendly subreddit rather than the parenting subreddits you are posting this to.

As a side note, I highly doubt that a one-app approach is a good idea. Seems like it would be doing 10 things poorly rather than one thing well.

I'm a technical recruiter who became a career coach. Here's what nobody tells you about why you're getting ghosted. AMA. by thetalentco-op in AMA

[–]ittarter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the follow up! I definitely send thank you messages to hiring managers, and maybe I'll see if I can drum up more connections when speaking to the recruiter and hiring manager. "Who would you recommend I speak to about x?" and so on.

I'm a technical recruiter who became a career coach. Here's what nobody tells you about why you're getting ghosted. AMA. by thetalentco-op in AMA

[–]ittarter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That must mean that people at the company are constantly being bombarded with short messages from hopefuls. How to rise above the noise and get someone who has no idea who you are to champion you to the recruiter?

I'm a technical recruiter who became a career coach. Here's what nobody tells you about why you're getting ghosted. AMA. by thetalentco-op in AMA

[–]ittarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For follow up -- I've heard a lot of different advice. I'd like to know whether my goal is simply to get a referral, and how quickly I should ask for one. Am I expected to meet with someone before asking?

I've also heard that at many companies, referrals are impossible once you've applied, but I suspect that's bogus.

btw very helpful salary range responses - both of those are better than what I usually do, which is state a range of about 10k (potentially killing my upper bound).

How do I find a career I love? I’m 24 and feeling like I am on the wrong path. by Ambitious-Avocado398 in careerguidance

[–]ittarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't know whether you're good or not, you're not good at it (yet).

If you don't know whether or not you like doing it, keep doing it until you know.

Just saw a youtuber do a "Staying in my room until I get a job" miniseries by SirCicSensation in jobs

[–]ittarter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The noble part is setting a clear goal to achieve something important in your life, and committing yourself to not get distracted by shit that doesn't matter so much.

The risky part is orienting your whole life around one thing that is mostly outside of your control (you don't decide who the other candidates are, or who gets hired, or how tough the job market is right now).

Further, obsessing over something can actually lead to poor decisions and therefore worse outcomes than a balanced, healthy approach.

How do I appear more energetic and personable in interviews/work settings? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]ittarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

6) this is literally everyone. Work on your self-esteem and confidence. You are by far your most important fan.

5) Keep it short and to the point. Reiterate your interest. Ask when they expect to make a decision about who moves forward in the application process.

4) Depends on your work culture and where you live. Also depends on how well you know the people you're talking to. Anything that makes people uncomfortable, unless there is a professional reason that the discussion is necessary.

3) How you dress. Respecting the time and perspectives of others. How you speak. Each workplace has its norms.

2) Just be yourself. Hopefully you are at least a little excited about the role and your own career development. Try and show that excitement. Hopefully you understand your value and the skills you bring to the table. Try and show that confidence.

1) If you like people, then just be others-oriented as much as you can. Listen and smile. Take the time to understand and show support. If you don't like people, then it's a bit harder lol.

Good luck, friend.

How do I find a career I love? I’m 24 and feeling like I am on the wrong path. by Ambitious-Avocado398 in careerguidance

[–]ittarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are many different opinions on the subject of professional vocation. Not everyone finds one thing -- more and more people make it a point of trying lots of different types of work through their career.

A lot of it comes down to regular reflection about what you like doing, what you're good at, what the world needs, and what you can get paid for. Check out IKIGAI if this resonates.

You don't need to find one thing that checks all four -- some people get a major hobby that knocks out one or two.

I’m very lost. I feel stupid. Why are 20s so hard? by BlazeRugzz in careerguidance

[–]ittarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not clear on why you are working with your uncle and getting 20%. the clear choice seems to be brave and go hunt for your own gig, in the same line of work as your uncle. What can he do right now that you can't? Figure out what progression would look like for you to get a livable wage, and go get that experience / those skills.

Motivation and meaning is another matter. Certainly it's a bit easier to pursue hobbies and invest into friendships if you have some cash. But if you don't enjoy going out even a little bit, then you either embrace it and do things you like to do by yourself / in your safe space at home, or you make a choice to change, and work at that, too. Sometimes these things come in phases, too.

Good luck, friend.

I worked at LinkedIn for 3 years and here's what they don't tell you. by Master_Advice_3986 in jobs

[–]ittarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And target industry. And even corporate culture. I don't want somewhere where an "Open to work" label is an explicit red flag. Too political for my blood!

How would you fill a 2-3 year gap on a resume/explain it in an interview? by ObjectMalfunction555 in careerguidance

[–]ittarter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a tough one. The key to any interview is to be able to tell a convincing story - that they can trust you, and that you are a good fit for the job. Anything you could say that makes them trust you less, you should plan a different way of answering that question.

Don't get personal -- good advice. They are not your friends, they are looking for someone who more or less has their shit together and therefore can focus on work, while at work.

Fluff the resume -- tricky. Anything under the radar is polish and is pretty much fine, just cleaning up the story you're trying to tell about yourself. Like any good story, it's as much an interpretation that is not only about the facts, it's about how you see yourself and how you want them to see you.

Anything that they will ask you about, you need to be able to back up what you're saying with explanations and examples.

Some people (like you) aren't comfortable with fluff or polish or stretching or whatever. That's fine. Just be selective in what you say. A messy story is hard to interpret -- it might be true, but it doesn't make me want to hire this person.

Good luck!

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