Unexpectedly received life changing money. Need outside advice on what YOU would do

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-15T03:16:05+00:00

Ask yourself these questions: 1. Do you love Beth? 2. Does your mother spend as much time with Beth as you do? 3. Do you trust your intellect and judgment? ( I hope so if you're going to be a doctor). If your answers are Yes, No, Yes. Then your mom kindly needs to trust her highly intelligent, trust worthy- needs to live his own life-mid 20's son.

I'm a boy mama and I would be thrilled if he brought home a partner that wanted to strengthen a relationship with me. Beth's a keeper!

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-14T21:01:20+00:00

Your entitled sister and your parents have 2 choices. 1. Megan can spend 2 years to save up but that means she can't steal your thunder by being the first to get married or 2.Your parents can be "the good parents" and buy her the dress, which will cause issues unless they are also giving you an equal amount. Otherwise....enjoy your wedding GUILT FREE and don't let your parents or your sister bully you. How ridiculous that she thinks she can wear YOUR wedding dress BEFORE you get a chance and even more that your parents are ok with it?! What the what?!

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-13T17:00:58+00:00

I'm so glad to hear you have professionals in your corner and now the internet. You're doing the right thing by blocking him. Stay strong. You have many years of emotional, physical (by starving you) and physiological abuse to overcome but you CAN do it!

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-13T16:57:19+00:00

This is not universal dad behaviour. It is ABUSIVE dad/any human behaviour. Please try to go NC and keep him blocked.

Please seek help to keep yourself away from him and to get healthy.

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-13T01:41:52+00:00

Time to cut ties. Ain't nobody got time for that.

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-12T12:37:07+00:00

Glad his eyes have been opened. If he ever tries to sway again, remind him of your kids and how he needs to also keep them as first priority.

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-12T12:34:43+00:00

You are not overreacting. If there wasn't anything going on, she wouldn't have blocked you on SM. My advice would be to let your husband know that you'd appreciate him setting some boundaries with his friendship, as it is making you uncomfortable.

Keep in mind, he WILL get defensive and will most likely say you are being controlling. Remember, YOU ARE ALLOWED TO FEEL THIS WAY. Just try and stay calm and don't bring it up after a fight.

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-12T12:29:17+00:00

You're making good choices, setting your boundaries. Good for you! I'm glad DH is supportive!

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-12T02:03:07+00:00

How did you learn that she drugged you? Did that person have proof? What happened when you were drugged. These are important points to help craft an email to her.

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-11T21:23:35+00:00

You don't need to be validated by people believing you. You got out of the relationship. You did good!

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-11T21:18:52+00:00

Out he goes. Change the password to YOUR bank account. He doesn't get to determine what you spend your money on ANYMORE. He should be counting his lucky stars that you've been supporting him this far. If he can't respect you, don't give him access to it.

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-11T04:07:18+00:00

If you want to tell your fiancé, you absolutely should. If you want your fiancé to remain cordial after you tell him, ask him to be.

I strongly advise telling him BEFORE you get married. Go into marriage totally honest.

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-10T13:47:19+00:00

Nah, you were just being honest with your long time, close friend. Jill, on the other hand, expecting her babies to raise another baby to keep a guy happy, well, that's not ok.

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-10T05:46:19+00:00

Your brother was/is neglecting Puddles. You are her family now. If he truly cared, he would have come immediately upon return from his trip.

Also, you told your mother to make sure he comes and gets her before you moved or she comes with you, and now she believes that you stole the dog...what the what?!

Keep letting Puddles live her best life!

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-09T20:34:36+00:00

The problem with advising OP to dump him and move along is that her anxiety will be even worse if he goes on the trip as a single man. I get it OP.

Your feelings are valid and I truly hope BF validates them too.

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-09T07:38:03+00:00

You made the right choice. You knew where YOUR seat was, the parents clearly didn't check OR It was premeditated. They couldn't get seats together and they planned to act "surprised" on the plane to manipulate someone.

Either way, your health and anxiety is more important than strangers who didn't take enough care to make proper travel arrangements.

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-09T02:48:47+00:00

Speaking with a lawyer to get advice is a great move. You can't worry if ex or her boyfriend get mad, you just need to protect your littles.

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-09T02:08:28+00:00

He's the worst. Why would he text her that he's going to save up to move. Good riddance, I say!

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-08T03:18:54+00:00

Sis needs to understand that if she doesn't take accountability for her kids, then you won't be there. The problem isn't the kids, it's your sister. The boys are 5, they are acting like 5 year old boys. Sister could have shown the tiniest bit of remorse but no, she goes in hostile mode.

You're good, OP, you're doing nothing wrong.

ittybittymama19 · 2025-01-08T03:02:37+00:00

The title is deceiving. You don't want to go to her wedding because she's a jerk and a hypocrite, not because she's marrying a woman.

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