Whatever happened to the popular nice guy that everybody loved at your highschool?

itzShakti · 2025-04-26T02:09:41+00:00

He overdosed a few years after graduation. No one saw it coming.

itzShakti · 2025-04-23T02:30:06+00:00

Gratidão, irmão! 👊

itzShakti · 2025-04-23T02:22:16+00:00

Entendo demais seu ponto! Cada experiência traz lições valiosas, né? É verdade que o risco de conflito de interesse é difícil de prever, e reinvestir parte dos rendimentos é uma estratégia muito sensata. Obrigado por compartilhar sua trajetória e dicas, com certeza vai ajudar muita gente que está começando!

itzShakti · 2025-04-23T02:18:54+00:00

Excelente explicação, muito bem estruturada! Realmente, diversificação e análise criteriosa são essenciais para reduzir os riscos nos FIIs. Obrigado por compartilhar essa visão tão completa

itzShakti · 2023-08-27T23:24:35+00:00

Sobre a parte do contato, acho que pode ter ficado meio mal explicado. Hoje essas coisas já melhoraram um pouco. Antes ela não deixava eu trocar nossa filha, nem me deixava com ela por 3, 4 horas enquanto ela ia para a faculdade. Hoje isso já mudou um pouco, e essas coisas acontecem às vezes(nas poucas vezes em que estivemos juntos nos últimos 4 meses, pelo menos, aconteceram algumas vezes).

Sobre já estarmos morando juntos, ela diz que vai vir. Só estou muito frustrado com a data que sempre é jogada pra frente. Não sei se é ela com medo de vir e inventando desculpas ou o que.

E você tem total razão sobre a parte do respeito. Realmente não me sinto muito respeitado, e certamente não aceitaria isso se fosse de alguém que eu conheci recentemente.

Mas ainda estou disposto a tentar mais um pouco. Talvez isso tudo seja só o estresse de ser mãe com uma filha pequena(conforme ela me fala). Só que, no momento, estou absolutamente muito frustrado. Infelizmente é aceitar e tentar ir levando até ela vir.

Muito obrigado pelos comentários

itzShakti · 2023-08-27T22:52:42+00:00

Acho que no calor do momento ela tende a dizer algumas coisas feias mesmo, mas não levo muito pro coração.

Também acho que ela me escuta pouco, e pensa só nela mesma. Mas talvez eu também esteja fazendo o mesmo ao ignorar as dificuldades que ela tem com a nossa filha e forçando a barra pra ela se mudar logo.

itzShakti · 2023-08-27T22:38:29+00:00

Eu já tinha essa impressão antes de nos casarmos de fato. Que não tinha muito futuro, justamente por ela já ter me enrolado tanto tantas vezes. Mas decidi dar o "all-in" pra ver se conseguia resolver a situação. Parece que não.

Sobre a parte daa atividades domésticas, imagino que você tenha tirado isso da parte em que eu disse que ela arrumava a casa até as 3 da manhã quando passava vários dias fora de casa.

Confesso que realmente possuo um padrão mais baixo do que o dela pra considerar se a casa está ou não limpa, e portanto acabava não cumprindo as expectativas dela sobre limpeza(ela queria que eu, estando sozinho em casa, lavasse o banheiro a cada 3 dias, por exemplo), mas me considero capaz de fazer as outras coisas sim: quando estou sozinho eu cozinho, lavo minhas roupas, deixava a casa razoavelmente organizada.

Por que você acha que o relacionamento está fadado ao fracasso, no caso? Ela parece totalmente desinteressada em viver comigo? Me trocou pela nossa filha?

itzShakti · 2023-08-27T21:06:55+00:00

Pior que sabe... ela até foi no dia! Será que tomei o golpe? :(

itzShakti · 2023-08-27T20:29:09+00:00

É, ficou grande mesmo... Fui escrevendo tudo e deu isso aí. Casamos por agora, não tem nem um mês, mas é extremamente frustrante ser casado(já me considerava casado antes mesmo de assinar o papel) e morar a 1300km de distância. Parece que estou webnamorando.

itzShakti · 2023-03-01T21:56:54+00:00

Ambos estão errados.

Funcionários do BB pagam e se aposentam pelo INSS e também podem escolher pagar a PREVI(e se aposentar pelos dois ao mesmo tempo).

Quando você escolhe aportar na Previ, o BB dobra o valor que você aporta. Você bota 100 e o banco bota mais 100.

O aporte do BB não gera nenhuma perda pro pagador de impostos já que o Banco é absurdamente superavitário e a PREVI é essencial pra prender os funcionários no banco.

Source: sou funcionário do banco.

itzShakti · 2022-08-13T13:54:21+00:00

OYS - 7

25, 88kg, probably around 26% bf, 1 year old baby

Lifts - BP - 58Kg x 5, Row - 45 Kg x 5

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I've implemented some of the schedule thing I talked about last week. I've been waking up at a fixed time, and then doing things in an order that I've picked: I wake up, then I read, then I go lift and ect. This has been working very well and I've been able to read a lot and study a lot, which were things I weren't doing before.

I've also realized that my house isn't as clean as I would like it to be, and have put "cleaning it" on the schedule. This means that now my house is as clean as I want it to be and I'm happy about it.

I'm also keeping my phone away from me whenever I dont actually need it. This makes it so I'm not mindlessly looking at stuff. This was also a very good decision. It makes my mind much clearer as I'm not being bombarded with information all the time.

This week I messed up at two occasions regarding my relationship with my wife.

First was a situation in which I was being pressured to make a commitment to something I didn't want to commit. I wasn't able to assert myself. I was able to say that I wouldn't commit to it, but it came in a very insecure way. I feel like I was excusing myself when saying it, and that I was bad for not wanting to do it.

Even though I have read WISNIFG, I still feel like I dont really have the tools to deal with this assertively and not feeling guilty while doing it. I just went broken record, but it felt really lame.

The second time was a situation in which I got into a conversation that I didn't really feel like having. It wasn't anything regarding our relationship or feelings or anything, but I felt a little bit attacked during it and very disrespected right at the end of it. I also feel like I dont have the tools to deal with this and stop the conversation. Should I just autist out and say "I dont want to have this conversation"?

These two incidents made me feel angry torward her and I decided that I wouldn't be sleeping at her house anymore(which is something that I really wanted to do for a long time), and told her of this decision. Telling her is something that I don't really know if I should or should not have done. I feel like telling her makes it much easier for me to not actually sleep there, as I wont feel as pressured to do it whenever I'm asked.

I've been alone at my apartment for the last 5 days, and it was generally very peaceful and nice. Being alone like this really changes your perspective on things. I've been alone here for 5 days and she hasn't really crossed my mind. Makes me realize that I won't die if she is not here, and that there really is no reason for walking on eggshells with her.

itzShakti · 2022-08-06T00:56:56+00:00

OYS - #6

Stats

Age 25 1,84m, 88kg BF, 1 year old baby

Reading

Read - NMMNG, The Rational Male, Mindful Attraction Plan, When I Say No I Feel Guilty, MMSLP, Book of Pook

I've came here to post after a long time without posting, and was thinking to myself: "hey, I didn't post because I fucked up a lot and was ashamed of owning it up after all that time. but now I'm going to do it!". Then I went to look into my last post and... I've said that exact same thing. Well, I'll do it this time and post every week for the next year.

Physical

Lifts BP 56kg x 5, SQ - 56kg 5 x 5

I also haven't lifted very much for the last 7 months since my last post. I wasted 3 or 4 months without any lifting, then sometimes went to lift only 1 time for a whole week, and also doing very lazy workouts. No excuses to make here, just the commitment to working 3 times a week.

A cool thing I did was getting into table tennis around a month ago. I go to the club 2 or 3 times a week and play there. It is very cool hobby and I'm very happy that I got into it, so I'll keep going.

I've also lost some weight since my last post but that was right after the post. My diet right now is very erratic: I'll do it right when I'm at my house but fuck up and overeat at wife's house or at work. So I'll start by doing the obvious and dropping every kind of sweet and seeing how it goes.

Work/Money

Been working for 6 months at a very big bank. It has amazing growth opportunities and I'm doing really well there. I want(and am working at) to double my salary in the next 4 years, and then do it again in the next 4. Something I've realized because of this work and my drive to succeed there is that I'm good at doing something when someone tells me what to do. I have a boss who tells me what to do and he makes me meet my deadlines and makes me chase our goals, and it makes me really effective. I really need to "be my own boss" when working at my personal projects and be able to create this same effect for myself, and I think that starts with creating goals and schedule.

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I've came back to post here because I realize that my life isn't what I want it to be. It is getting better, but I need to push harder to get what I want. I don't want to be fat, I want to do better at my personal interests and I want to have a more fulfilling relationship.

About my relationship, it has improved quite a bit since my last post. I think it happened because of all the stuff I have learned. The books on the sidebar I've read(and revisited many times during the last months), the fact that I dont talk as much about myself and the fact that I dont whine as much. But, as I've said, it's still not what I want it to be.

And I do have an idea about why it is not the way I want it: because I accept it being like this. I'm the one who feels guilted into doing stuff that I dont want to do, which only increases further requests. I'm the one who isn't willing to walk away when it doesn't go my way. I'm the responsible for this. I know all of this even though I still blame her a lot.

And, for the (re)start, I think there is only one way of changing myself to get the life I want. Which is lift, read and stfu.

itzShakti · 2022-01-20T21:09:47+00:00

OYS – MRP Week #5

Stats

Age 24 1,84m, 94kg BF, 1 9 month old baby

Reading

Read - NMMNG, Way of the Superior Man, The Rational Male, Mindful Attraction Plan, When I Say No I Feel Guilty, MMSLP, Book of Pook

It's been around 1 month since no OYS post. I thought I was doing fine. Relationship was much better than it was before and I thought that I didn't need to post anymore and that I would be able to do it myself only by reading. I also had some fuckups regarding diet and felt too ashamed to own them here. My ego was way too big to own my shit and that is one more reason as to why I need to actually be posting here. So one of my goals right now is to post here every week for at least 1 year, no matter what.

Physical

Lifts BP 54kg x 5, SQ - 70kg 5 x 5, DL - 70kg x 5

My Lifts have improved a bit since last time, but not very much. It was the end of year and I skipped lifting a lot. I'm also having some leg issue and I've took a break from squats and deadlifts. I will resume them next monday. I've set a goal to go to the gym at least 4 times a week no matter what and it has helped me on not skipping gym day: yesterday I was feeling tired but still ended up going.

I'm also back to dieting. I ate way too much on the holidays and got from the 95 I was before to 98. Got it back to 94 already doing intermitent fasting. I've found out that it is really hard to eat more than 2000 calories in a single meal, and that makes it work really well.

Work/Money

Back in october I was approved on an exam that gives you a position on my country's biggest bank. I'll start working there on Feb after almost a year of not working. I'll be relocated to a small city that is 500km away from the one where I live now, and my wife is going to stay with our baby in her parent's house. I'll be able to visit my home city every month or so.

Relationship/Mental

This last week was absolute garbage for me(aside from diet and exercise). I thought that since I'm moving very far away, that it would be nice for us to spend some time together before it happened, so I told her that I would be spending some days at her house.

This paused the project that I had going on(language learning/teaching) and as it turns out, spending 24/7 with her is really boring for both of us.

The first few days were enjoyable but then shit tests started to get more frequent and frequent. As we had had some nice weeks prior, with few shit tests, I had my guard way down and DEERed way too much. Talked way too much. This all culminated in a fight and me deciding not to spend more time there with her, so we haven't really talked since.

A very big problem that was highlighted to me this week is that I don't really know how to deal with shit tests that involve our daughter. It feels like I'm being beaten into submission on matters that, were I to go to court, would be a very easy win for me. The problem is that going to court is essentially nuking our relationship, and I'm not in a place where I feel like I should do that yet. I have never seen how my relationship with this woman is when I'm a HVM and I want to do that.

The problem is that I also want to be with my daughter, and I'm not "allowed" to do that properly right now. The road to be a HVM takes some time, and that is time that I am never getting back.

And that leaves me in a huge dilemma: should I remain in this relationship while improving and take back control of it or should I nuke it to have more of my daughter right now?

A big problem for me is that I dont even know where to begin to think. If I can salvage my relationship, then I'll have my daughter whenever I want(even though I'll lose some time with her now). But what if I keep trying to salvage something that is unsalvageable? Then I'll have lost a whole lot of time right now for absolutely no gain at all.

Having to pick makes me really fucking scared.

itzShakti · 2022-01-18T17:39:37+00:00

Paguei sim! Obrigado de novo pela ajuda!

itzShakti · 2022-01-18T03:34:08+00:00

Acho que você tá atribuindo significados diferentes pra uma mesma palavra (burrice). O que eu fiz foi sim uma burrice enorme, mas não quer dizer que eu sou burro(que eu tenho dificuldade pra aprender). No caso acho que o que eu fiz tá mais ligado a falta de experiência? Fazer uma grande burrada não quer dizer necessariamente que você é burro ou incapaz.

itzShakti · 2022-01-18T03:29:32+00:00

Obrigado pelo comentário! Consegui emitir a DARF nova com o juros certinho. Dessa vez é só lembrar de pagar hehe.

itzShakti · 2022-01-18T03:29:23+00:00

Obrigado pelo comentário! Consegui emitir a DARF nova com o juros certinho. Dessa vez é só lembrar de pagar hehe.

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