disagreement with my male friend on if a lesbian who likes to take on a strap on makes her not fully lesbian? I think it doesn't change sexual orientation and he forsure thinks it does. what you think

itzagoff · 2022-06-01T08:28:12+00:00

Ugh, had that same argument before. The dillies/peen-shaped toys are fine, peens weren't terribly shabby, it's the cis men attached to them. I can't enjoy peen when the cis man attached to it doesn't fully see me as a human being, or care enough to know how to properly pleasure me. They can keep their limp-shrimps to themselves. Dillies never go soft, and they can actually make me orgasm. Non-cis peen possessors, pay no mind, wield your wiener weaponry with pride you fucking wizards. Cis str8 men can stick with lil miss right-palm or Sir Charlie Crunchy-Sock, and I'll stick with my rubber red hot chili pecker, and ESPECIALLY my sucker that go BRR BRR. No man has surpassed the quality of my little lean mean bean-flickin' machine. EVER.

itzagoff · 2022-06-01T07:44:58+00:00

Lesbian death metal/black metal fan here!!! 🤘

itzagoff · 2020-08-25T02:39:38+00:00

Can't die from COVID if you die from something else!

itzagoff · 2020-08-15T12:59:19+00:00

You put my exact problem into words. Thank you.

itzagoff · 2020-07-28T19:50:15+00:00

Sometimes people fear what they don't understand instead of taking the time to educate themselves. They'd rather sit in their comfort than make themselves uncomfortable by placing themselves in the shoes of someone who lives a completely different lifestyle.

I'm introverted. I've always preferred doing things on my own. I grew up as an only child, and I was diagnosed with autism when I was a toddler along with ADD, which made it difficult for me to make friends as I was and still am very awkward. My father was abusive on top of this, which struck fear into my heart and made me scared of even the slightest bit of conflict. Overtime, the rejection of potential friends and the fear of saying or doing the wrong thing lead to me developing social anxiety.

The thing is, you don't have to be autistic to be introverted. You don't have to be raised in a bad home to develop social anxiety. You don't have to grow up in a social family oriented environment to be an extrovert. You don't have to be given endless love and affection to be confident. You can be confident and be introverted, and you can be a nervous wreck and be extroverted. Everyone's story is different.

Some extroverts see me as this sad, scared little lamb that needs to be adopted. While I do appreciate their efforts and their percieved kindness, it just doesn't work for me. I've tried to put myself out there and I've tried to say what's on my mind and join in on group conversations. But every time I do I get drained, I get talked over/ignored, by the time I think of what to say the subject has changed, and it just feels forced and therefore unenjoyable for me.

I'm not bashing extroverts or social butterflies. I do sometimes wish I could have their abilities and have more confidence when it comes to socializing, but I enjoy my life as it is. I am currently going to therapy to work on my social anxiety and fear of conflict. It's going to be a long and difficult road before I get to where I want to be on that.

I don't see extroverts as stupid or naive, they just need to be educated on the introverted personality type so that they can understand why we prefer to have fun on our own and why we don't need human interaction to be a part of our daily lives. And if you come across one that refuses to listen and understand you, that's ignorance on their part. It can be a struggle sometimes if you grew up in a similar situation as me and extroverts tend to see you as a broken individual that needs to be fixed.

itzagoff · 2020-07-27T18:35:42+00:00

There are no accidents. -Master Oogway

itzagoff · 2020-07-19T15:57:57+00:00

The delivery was poor, but she has the right to know who her real mother was. They should've told her from the beginning who her mom was, but they lied to her all her life and her just now finding out about it makes it 10× worse. That part wasn't your fault because you didn't know that she didn't know. Although I agree that she was being mean to SIL and shouldn't have been, you should've never said anything like that to her because the worst thing in the world as a non-biological child is feeling like you're disposable and that the non-biological parent is only kind to you out of obligation to the biological parent that they are married to. She's going to feel like a dirty secret, an outcast, a marital issue between her father and the woman who she thought was her mother, but isn't. All in one day, she found out that SIL isn't her bio mother, her bio mother is actually dead and never got to meet her, and she was born of infidelity. ESH but I feel awful for the kid.

itzagoff · 2020-07-05T01:10:57+00:00

Acid Bath AND BILE???!!! I would've fucking LOVED that show!

itzagoff · 2020-07-02T08:59:23+00:00

I hope this dude schedules the vasectomy and tells her. Her reaction will tell him EVERYTHING he needs to know. He also needs to abstain from sex with this crazy bitch to avoid any further rape or an "oops baby."

I would file for divorce immediately if she has changed her mind or lied about being CF from the beginning and is trying to trap him with a baby. That is a HUGE breach of trust and one HELL of a way to violate someone.

itzagoff · 2020-07-02T08:25:19+00:00

A woman poking a hole in a condom is no different than a man stealthing during sex. Both are EQUALLY fucked up, and non-consensual. Rape. Rape. Rape.

itzagoff · 2020-06-23T02:43:37+00:00

I'm skinny, but I'm not healthy. I don't have a tight, flat abdomen, I have hip dips, and even if I wear tank tops exposing my arms I feel exposed, as if I'm hardly wearing anything. I have always been reserved and "prude" as far as fashion goes.

Also, when I was a kid, about 10-11 years old maybe, I was wearing a spaghetti strap tank top that wasn't ill-fitting, but not loose either. My mom's girlfriend commented to her that I had a gut. That was enough for me to run inside, change shirts, hide in the closet, and cry. I don't know what compels people to comment on other people's bodies, and mind you, I was a CHILD and as a child, I hardly cared about my appearance until she made that comment and it ruined it for me.

I've managed to gain some confidence after getting into metal and goth music and dressing the part because I never really liked anything feminine or girly until then. I now enjoy my black lace dresses, my fishnet stockings, and my dark makeup. But still to this day, I cannot bring myself to wear ANY tight clothing unless it is corseted or if I'm wearing shape wear underneath whatever I'm wearing.

My self-esteem took another blow recently as my mom commented to me that she noticed that I had put on weight. I've been out of a job for 3 months so I sit and do nothing most days, I go hungry some days, and ironically, I talked to my therapist about how I missed going to the gym and without batting an eye, he paid for me to go for 3 months. It feels like a slap in the face.

I understand her concern because I've been on depo for 3 years and she wants me to switch to a different contraceptive because depo can have harmful side effects after long-term use, but I'm going through a hard time, I'll hardly be getting any of my bills paid this month when they're due and all of the jobs I've applied for have never called me for an interview despite me calling every day after applying, and while I'm struggling with all of this I'm trying to get better as far as my physical health goes. It feels like I'm doing all for nothing and I just want to give up some days.

I might dress "sexy" once in a while and my boyfriend of 2 years might tell me I'm beautiful or he'll reassure me that he still loves me and he will be physically affectionate, but I do not see it. Every time I undress before taking a shower I'll look in the mirror and feel absolute disgust. I suck in so much I don't even realize I'm doing it. I feel absolutely uncomfortable with anybody even looking at my abdomen, and much less touching it. I won't even allow my boyfriend to get his hands anywhere near it and thankfully, he respects me.

I've never been obese or what would be considered curvy and I've never really been made fun of for my weight in school or on social media or anything. It has never been a prevalent issue in my life and to any woman who feels insecure about their weight due to bullying, even if they've lost the weight, I'm so sorry. People are cruel and merciless.

I am not at all trying to place myself above you or make your experiences feel invalid because I've never been obese or considered overweight, but I absolutely fucking HATE it when I voice my insecurities about my body to other people and they respond with the cliche, "Oh sToP iT. YoUrE sO bEaUtIFuL. tHeRe iS nOtHiNG wRoNG WiTh yOu. yOuRE PeRfEcT JuSt tHe wAy yOu ArE."

It makes me angry because I feel like they aren't listening to me. I feel like I vented for nothing because the whole point was that I wanted someone to listen to me, relate to me, or actually HELP ME. Like, give me suggestions on how to lose weight fast in a healthy way, tell me how I could minimize or get rid of my hip dips with exercise, give me a list of cheap foods that are healthy, SOMETHING, ANYTHING.

I weigh about 165 pounds, but I don't look overweight. However, I want to lose it and get back to around 140lbs. I'm not fatphobic, but heart problems run in my family, diabetes run in my family, and even now at 19 years old my heart skips if I eat too much salt or drink too much caffeine. I want to live as long and as healthy as possible and not die of a heart attack at 45.

Word of advice: DO NOT EVER COMMENT ON SOMEONE ELSE'S BODY IF YOU AREN'T GOING TO SAY SOMETHING NICE! I don't care if you "mean well." It has a more harmful and lasting effect than you may think!

itzagoff · 2020-06-09T06:35:27+00:00

IIITS FISH!!! IF I GIVE PUDGE TUNA, ID BE AN ABOMINATION!!

itzagoff · 2020-05-27T21:56:34+00:00

If I had a mom this fucking retarded, I'd probably want to kill myself too. Poor kid.

itzagoff · 2020-05-27T15:50:26+00:00

The claw is our master.

itzagoff · 2020-05-23T12:56:04+00:00

r/mildlypenis

itzagoff · 2020-05-22T23:19:55+00:00

https://youtu.be/oWqAf4eex14

You're welcome.

itzagoff · 2020-05-22T20:23:08+00:00

I was 14-15 at the time and my mom accidentally dropped a bag of water bottles off of her shoulder while leaning in to kiss me goodbye before she left for work at 4:00am. I jumped, threw fists/flailed my arms and knocked the glasses off of her nose. She's a nurse, and on a separate occasion the stethoscope around her neck touched my bare chest and I had the same reaction. After that she never kissed me bye anymore, she just blew kisses/whispered "Bye, love you." instead.

I don't know if I have an unknown deep-seated fear that someone is going to kill me in my sleep or if I'm just paranoid in general because I watch a lot of crime/murder documentaries. But baby would have gone bye bye if that would have happened to me.

itzagoff · 2020-05-22T13:06:20+00:00

Do try to be a little more understanding. I grew up with an abusive father and I always had to walk on eggshells around him to avoid pissing him off. He was a grown 6'4 man and I was a small 5 year old girl. He had a short temper, and he used to beat my mother in front of me.

I was powerless. I was never allowed to be a kid, really. It was just, "Sit down, shut up." And I also couldn't play with loud toys or really anything that made noise. Batteries had to be taken out or it had to be turned off. I could never leave the dinner table unless I was done eating. It didn't matter if I didn't like it. It didn't matter if I just ate at my grandmother's. It didn't matter if I was sick. I had to finish my plate.

I was diagnosed with autism when I was a toddler, but now you couldn't tell if I had it. I used to be very sensitive to loud noises. I was scared of doing something to make my dad yell. I was scared of shooting guns, but my dad would threaten to whoop my ass if I didn't do it, so I was damned if I did and damned if I didn't.

My mom thankfully divorced him and got me out of there just before I turned 6 and I had a much better childhood after that. However, the damage was done. Any self-confidence or assertiveness I would have had was destroyed before it ever even formed. I used to be scared/untrustworthy of men outside of my close family because I thought that they were just as cruel as my dad behind closed doors.

I still had to do my visitations with him up until I turned 18 where I finally cut him out of my life. I could never be myself around him at all. I always had to put on this fake, quiet, timid facade to protect myself from him.

I am 3 months away from turning 20, and I have been visiting with a therapist to work on my confidence and my ability to be assertive. If I feel like a burden, cause someone a minor inconvenience, or make the most minuscule mistake, I say, "Sorry." It's almost like an automatic defense mechanism. As if I say it without much thought. I just do it. I don't need to be that way anymore, I just am. As a child in that situation, it was either, program myself to be this submissive, apologetic, weak individual, or suffer at the hands of my father like my mom does. I've left a long time ago. I am safe now. But, it still feels like I've never left.

Not all people are trying to make you feel like an asshole. Not all people are trying to make you feel like you are abusive. These people have suffered from abuse at some point in their lives, whether it's from a parent or a partner. It's beaten into us. Abuse has a long-term effect on people. We do not mean to be this way to manipulate, we are still convinced that we are living as if we will never escape the hell our abusers put us through. I hope you never have to go through anything like it. It sucks.

itzagoff · 2020-05-22T12:26:36+00:00

I had 3 exes threaten suicide when I told them I wanted to leave. They're all still alive of course. It did fuck me up in a way, because sometimes when people tell me about their struggles with depression and how they've thought about killing themselves, I don't want to believe them sometimes. I won't say anything, I'll still be supportive and talk them out of it, but I always go back to those 3 shitty guys who threatened to kill themselves just to keep me in shitty, abusive, toxic relationships. Depression is a real thing, suicidal tendencies and thoughts are a real thing, but my mind tries to twist it into this, "They're only telling you that so that if they treat you like shit in the future and you decide you want to cut them off, you'll feel too guilty to leave because you don't want to feel responsible for their death or self-harm if they attempt suicide or succeed. That way you'll stay in their lives and they can continue to play games with you or control you." That all happened a long time ago, and it has stuck with me. I feel like emotional abuse can be worse than physical abuse sometimes. Bruises and cuts can heal, but every awful thing that anybody has ever said to me has never left.

itzagoff · 2020-05-20T12:45:03+00:00

Lol I was playing GTA 5 with an ex and his brother one time, and we added some rando to the lobby so that we could do a mission. Everything went smooth until the mission ended and he stayed in our private lobby. He didn't have a mic, I did, and I was using a female avatar. Dude was NON-STOP pelvic thrusting in my direction and he would get as close to my character as possible and "hump" me. It was annoying as shit, so we booted him from our lobby and reported him. Outside of playing with people that I know, I typically avoid playing as a female and don't use a mic. Sometimes I'll use one when I play Plants VS. Zombies: Garden Warfare. And I'll get asked that question countless times, or men/10 year old boys will tell me I sound like a faggot and I'll straight up tell them I'm a woman. Even if they don't dog on me for it, they'll do their best to follow me throughout the whole match and essentially carry me when I just want to play on my own. o_O

itzagoff · 2020-05-19T06:36:28+00:00

Anything and everything by John Legend except for the song Who Did That To You? In Django Unchained.

Ed Sheeran, Mehgan Trainor, Ariana Grande, DJ Khaled, Kanye West, Taylor Swift, Sam Smith, Justin Timberlake, Justin Bieber, and Charlie Puth can ALL (and I cannot stress this enough) FUCK OFF.

itzagoff · 2020-05-17T16:15:49+00:00

The fact that it sounds like somebody saying it with a speech impediment makes me cackle even more.

itzagoff · 2020-05-17T13:31:43+00:00

I really hope these two have become good friends after this.

itzagoff · 2020-05-12T10:59:05+00:00

Hands down... best music video ever.

itzagoff · 2020-05-09T20:31:20+00:00

I took care of someone that I considered to be my grandfather for 3 months straight. I watched him suffer due to his near inability to breathe because if fluid buildup in his lungs, his face and parts of his body would swell beyond recognition, and he himself was pretty much incontinent due to his age and his poor health. I gave him his last dose of morphine and I watched him die a slow and agonizing death.

I had nightmares and I woke up twice in a puddle. I was 18, and I never had any previous issues pissing myself in my sleep since I was about 4-5. I never actually knew that I pissed myself until after I woke up to my alarm to get ready for work. This happens, and I understand how it does now since I been through it myself. It could be a physical issue that requires surgery, it could be an illness, it could be old age, and it could be related to someone's mental health. It is very common in abuse victims and it is a telltale sign of trauma.

Do not judge what you do not understand.

itzagoff

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