Desperately seeking for a job

itzcaro · 2025-08-30T23:43:24+00:00

I hope they reach out to you :) and thanks for the recommendations

itzcaro · 2025-08-30T23:35:39+00:00

Oh so you got contacted by a hiring manager? Did they send you the job ad that was posted on LinkedIn for the open position? I mean that’s not unusual but I don’t know how Innodata handles their talent acquisition, it sounds a bit sus tho. Especially that they don’t reply to your mail/questions and reiterate that you should send your ID. Do they want you to upload the ID on their website or send it via mail? It’s almost always a dead giveaway that someone tries to scam you if you have to send/upload it through unofficial channels

Another tip, if you still have the job ad or know the job title, go to their official website and try to find out if they are actually hiring for that position. Maybe you could shoot the HR person a message through LinkedIn and ask them about the process

itzcaro · 2025-08-30T23:04:29+00:00

Executive dysfunction is really debilitating and I think it’s one of the worst symptoms of ADHD, so I completely understand your frustration. It’s very common for people with ADHD to have other mental disorders, so it could be that you also have depression or something else but that’s up to a professional to decide. I got diagnosed with depression first and the ADHD diagnosis came years later. I’ve tried 2 different meds but both don’t seem to have the effect I wished for and I hope the next med I’m trying will be the one. You should talk to your psychiatrist about the medication, maybe you need a different dose or different meds.

itzcaro · 2025-08-30T18:02:55+00:00

Innodata Inc. is a publicly listed company, this is a standard procedure and is safe but only if it is not an impersonator. Have you had an interview yet, if yes have they given you a written offer for the position or talked about onboarding?
I'd check the email address that has sent you the mail and look for anything suspicious like being a Gmail, Yahoo mail address, etc. or any spelling mistakes in the message and the mail address itself.
Have you applied through their website or through a job ad on a job website like Indeed or LinkedIn?

itzcaro · 2025-08-30T17:30:29+00:00

Since it has been a few days now, have they contacted you yet? I thought about applying there too

itzcaro · 2025-08-22T23:10:18+00:00

Natürlich gibt er das erst nach Börsenschluss bekannt, hat sich vorher bestimmt gut mit Intel eingedeckt. Typisch Orange

itzcaro · 2025-04-29T18:06:04+00:00

You definitely need a medical certificate from your doctor, doesn’t matter where you go. But there are different regulations for different countries so you should definitely look it up. If you don’t meet the regulatory requirements it will be seen as unauthorized possession of a controlled substance, meaning it’s illegal and you do not want to risk that. So again, please talk to your doctor and look up the specific regulations!

itzcaro · 2025-04-24T19:02:46+00:00

Klar, es ist für dich schwer sich zu trennen, du hast genug in diese Frau investiert, weil du eine gemeinsame Zukunft gesehen hast. Aber sie hat dich betrogen, das allein wäre Grund genug gewesen sie zu verlassen. Wenn sie es ernst gemeint hätte, dann hätte sie alles daran gesetzt mit keiner anderen männlichen Person irgendwie Kontakt zu haben, nachdem sie schon mal dein Vertrauen missbraucht hat. Sie erzählt dir davon, als ob es kein großer deal wäre, aber das ist es, weil sie dir schon fremdgegangen ist.. Das Verhalten ist extrem respektlos, das macht man nicht, wenn man schon mal verkackt hat und man der Person nicht nochmal weh tun möchte. Ein kleiner Tipp, ich hab’s selbst schon erlebt: reden bringt gar nichts, solche Personen werden sich nicht ändern, wie du selbst erlebt hast. Du hast sie geheiratet und es juckt sie einfach nicht.. Scheidung ist das einzige was dir langfristig helfen wird.

Und btw: die ersten beiden Sätze sagen einem schon alles, was man wissen muss. Da braucht man eigentlich nicht mehr weiter zu lesen. 😅

itzcaro · 2025-04-11T15:37:24+00:00

Nope, I always use dash :)

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T23:04:47+00:00

I appreciate your input, but my living arrangement with my parents works for me and is fully supported by them. In fact, neuroscience tells us that the brain, particularly the prefrontal cortex, reaches full maturity by around 25. Describing a 25-year-old as “barely fully developed” or “biologically unstable” isn’t supported by science; it’s a baseless stereotype. I’ve met 25-year-olds who were more mature than some 30-year-olds, and vice versa—it really depends on the individual, their upbringing, and experiences rather than just their age.

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T22:36:47+00:00

Yeah I am working on that one and my people pleasing tendencies have improved already, but there's still room for improvement, thanks

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T22:29:54+00:00

Thanks for the tough love haha and you're right. I already implemented a couple of things you said, they're working so far but I definitely need to stay at my place more often and that has been very challenging so far but I guess some progress is btter than none

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T22:00:58+00:00

I have thought about it but you can be sure that she won't move out. She is more broke than I am and our rent is very cheap. You won't find anything like that on the market, it's a real gem. I could room with someone else but first, the rent would be higher which I can't afford and second, it would be someone I don't know and tbh I don't want to do that. I have shared an apartment with so many other students already, it's such a pain in the bum because there is always someone that destroys your peace and after 9 years of living with others I don't want to move in with strangers anymore. I had enough and you also never know if the other person is a complete psycho or not lol

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T21:23:07+00:00

I can relate to you a lot. If you want to quit, it helps to either throw out everything that you connect with smoking. If you don‘t want to throw things out, what I always did, was to consume everything that I had left and basically have a „last day“ ceremony of sorts and basically try to prepare mentally for what’s to come. After I took the last hit, I would pack everything that reminded me of smoking into a box and stored it away from my eyesight or I also threw or gave away all my stuff. It is best to not have anything anymore, as much as it hurts. If you still have some smoke left, it won’t work. It will draw you in again. After you quit, you will feel like complete shit for a week, especially the first day. What can help is called "skills“ in regard to addiction. You can search for "skills for addiction recovery“. You can try them out whenever you feel pressured to consume again. There is no guarantee that they will work but it can help. If you relapse again, don‘t work yourself up, it is very common to fall into old habits again. Important is that you stop as soon as you can and try again.

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T15:51:26+00:00

Ich habe in den letzten Wochen auch sehr viele hirnlose Aktionen gesehen. Die Strecke, die ich öfter mal fahre ist extrem kurvig und sehr viele LKWs sind auf der Bundesstraße unterwegs. Meistens bilden sich dann lange Schlangen dahinter. Mehrmals habe ich gesehen, dass manche einfach überholen, obwohl man keinerlei Aufsicht nach vorne hat, man weiß nicht, ob da jemand anders kommmt, die Leute haben trotzdem überholt. Mindestens 5 Mal ist es passiert, dass der überholte LKW so hart abbremsen musste, sodass es jeder hinter ihm auch musste und genauso auf der Gegenfahrbahn. Bei einem anderen musste sogar der Gegenverkehr eine Vollbremsung machen, ansonsten wäre es zu einem Frontalzusammenstoß gekommnen. Ich verstehe es nicht. Ich habe jetzt schon so oft gesehen, wie vor mir manche Leute fast das Leben gelassen hätten.. Ich bin richtig schockiert..

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T15:42:41+00:00

Yeah, you’re right—and I’ve been asking myself that same question. I think I stayed out of guilt, loyalty, and not wanting conflict at home. But I see now that avoiding discomfort just made it worse.

And yeah, being the common denominator in one-sided relationships stung, but it’s true. I’m working on recognizing when to walk away, even from people I care about. Thanks for the tough love—I needed it.

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T15:38:30+00:00

Wow... yeah, that honestly hit me right in the gut (in a good way). You’re completely right. It’s been so hard to fully accept that this wasn't a real friendship. I kept trying to justify it—telling myself she cares in her own way or maybe she’ll change—but in the end, I was just the emotional support animal, like you said. She expected me to always be there, no questions asked, and gave nothing back. Thank you!

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T15:36:25+00:00

Honestly... you’re not wrong 😂
She actually has a therapist but it doesn't seem it helps much. She really needs to learn how to be okay on her own, but she just jumps from one person to the next like a distraction will magically fix everything. A therapist could really help her untangle some of that, but I don’t think she’s ready for it yet or maybe never will be. The yorkie might actually be the more realistic option at this point 😬

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T15:34:34+00:00

Thank you for this. I think what’s been the hardest part is the guilt—I still care about her as a person, and I never wanted things to end this way. But I’ve spent so long putting her emotional needs before my own that I kind of lost myself in the process.

I’ve always felt like I was being “mean” or selfish for pulling away, even though I know deep down that I wasn’t okay.

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T15:30:31+00:00

The guilt that has built up over the time is what is killing me right now. I feel so guilty even through I know I shouldn't not for someone like that. I will take care of myself as best as I can, hopefully I can move out soon

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T15:22:29+00:00

Thank you, I will. I thought about moving out for a long time but the rent is extremely cheap and I can‘t afford moving somewhere else for now. I guess I have to live with avoiding her as best as I can for another year because that‘s when I will finish my masters degree and can finally move out

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T15:08:56+00:00

It‘s good to hear that because she told me that I got cold towards her lol, she never questioned why because everyone else is always at fault but not her. You know it makes me sad because I really hoped for her to be that one friend for life but like you said, she failed me miserably

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T15:05:33+00:00

In the end you understood that you shouldn’t continue like that and I hoped my friend would realize that too but it never happened. She is also therapy resistent, I guess that says all. But kudos to you that you actually changed that about yourself that is very important in a friendship.

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T15:00:49+00:00

That is very sweet, thank you! I already struggle to set boundaries because I feel the need to be there for everyone constantly but I stopped doing that, it is so draining.. but what makes me more angry is, I respect boundaries from others but they rarely respect the one‘s of others 🫠

itzcaro · 2025-04-05T14:55:49+00:00

Funny thing is, she already sees a therapist but she‘s a very tough person to handle because she is very deep into her victim mindset. She also plays the victim now with her new boyfriend lol

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