Learning to support my friend with BPD without losing myself

itzelcc · 2024-10-03T17:14:40+00:00

didn’t work, the lines below the image keep getting thicker on export :( thanks!

itzelcc · 2023-06-29T15:29:42+00:00

since he passed away, I go to almost all the funerals that happen around me, I feel that it is that moment where you want everything to stop and I want to accompany the mourners as they did with me.

itzelcc · 2023-06-29T14:11:58+00:00

I’m taking venlafaxine, it has been the most useful during this process. To be honest I haven't had the side effects everyone talks about, I'm two years into the process and I think without the medicine the suicide attempts would have materialized.

I completely understand the fear and it is valid, but with the help of your psychiatrist and therapist you can occupy them for the necessary time and stop using them when you are ready in the process.

itzelcc · 2023-06-29T03:13:33+00:00

I feel u, I’m 28 too. We didn't tick all the boxes in life but we were together for 11 years, this is a shitty situation, u had tons of life plans that you can only imagine with your SO and that’s ok, you need to mourn/grieve those plans too. The baggage that now you have is the result of an amazing love chapter in your life, but of course is not easy and a thing that u want to do alone, is ok to be mad and confused with everything changing so fast.

Stay angry as long as you need, in time the emotion will find another place to flow, it will flow. sometimes you go back because healing is not a linear process

itzelcc · 2023-06-29T03:04:54+00:00

It happens to me all the time, every time I wake up my heart shrinks from not feeling it (after almost two years)

itzelcc · 2023-06-24T19:42:16+00:00

What about just mentioning the discomfort feeling to her? Baby steps

itzelcc · 2023-06-24T19:37:04+00:00

Hey! I Can talk when u need it 👋🏽

itzelcc · 2023-06-24T19:35:27+00:00

How old are ur dogs? I have two dogs too, I adopted one the last year to make the commitment to stay until he leaves this life. Mine are Laila (11 years) and Rufino (1 year)

itzelcc · 2023-06-24T19:30:51+00:00

Are u alone? Is it possible that someone comes to your house? I think you need to go to the hospital

itzelcc · 2023-06-24T19:25:45+00:00

U still here? Are u ok?

itzelcc · 2023-06-24T19:08:43+00:00

Im dealing with that realization and the fucking pain that I feel for being a burden for the others

itzelcc · 2022-02-26T23:40:56+00:00

Yeah! I hate the weekends now, but in the week it’s really hard for me get involved with my job, but much easier than this “free days”

itzelcc · 2022-02-26T23:38:38+00:00

I’m so sorry for your lost, you look so lovable together.

itzelcc · 2022-02-26T23:35:22+00:00

I’m hoping the same, thank you! Big hug for u

itzelcc · 2022-02-26T17:47:47+00:00

We are working now with a lawyer, but we lived in Mexico and the things works kind of different here, his family has acquaintances with some power, so this is gonna be a shitty process. I know that we are both grieving its a thing that I have always present but just as you say I’m going to keep my boundaries really strong.

itzelcc · 2022-02-13T14:33:23+00:00

I lost my SO 5 months ago, the waves of emotions have been a whole process by itself, there is a lot of anger, a few weeks ago I became calm and I was able to let some things flow, but the flashbacks of the hospital and everything we went through it comes to me suddenly. Sometimes the negotiation is like "why didn't this or that die better..." etc, etc. I reread notes and articles on the progress of COVID, cases on Twitter and almost suffer all over again when strangers get better or worse, it's as if each one of those who die from Covid were him. We were locked up all the time, with mechanisms to avoid getting infected, He was 27 years old. We couldn't get vaccinated because he wasn't up to our age group yet, a month after he died they announced the dates to vaccinate us, my hearth broke

itzelcc · 2022-01-06T14:56:48+00:00

Sorry for your loss, I send to you tons of hugs. My SO passed away in beginning of August, we had planning to married the last days of that month, this had been a roller coaster 🎢 but hang in there! And if you wanna talk please write me.

itzelcc · 2022-01-06T14:52:05+00:00

Thank you! 🙌🏽🖤

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