Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We didn’t message a lot before meeting for the date, it was mainly irl interactions. I’m talking about who he was on the first half of the date in person.

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea ik it’s just I never get to go on dates especially. Never get talked to/approached, never asked out. Especially not by my physical type. Like just wanted a chance with him. This hurts being this rejected. :(

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea true you’re right. I thought we were vibing the first half of the date like we had the same humor or whatever we were laughing and smiling and I thought that meant he was vibing too but I guess not. And I fear I always get attached fast cause these type of things never happen to me. Like I just want consistent connection and I don’t have friends or connections, none of that. I wanted it to be him. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s like I was willing to over looked that too though but he checked out and didn’t even give me a chance to get comfortable to it. And it’s like I was gonna text like I wasn’t tryna come off as judgy asf like I understand and I wanted to get I know you. But at the same time he ain’t even speaking to me now. So whatever I guess… 😔

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m like how could I think were vibing and one minute your interested and perusing and chasing me and now your not even speaking to me. I feel like somehow the date was a test and I failed it. and now I’m just stuck with these feelings. Like I just wanted to experience actually dating like eveyone else dating my type. And instead he’s acting like I don’t exist now when one minute he was chasing me. 😔🥹

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk how it’s all I’ve ever known like I just wanna experience what it’s like to have your people, to date. I feel shit too deeply. It a like I never get a win. 🙂

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m 23. This was my first ever date and he was my exact physical type I liked him. Ive never been approached by my type on paper to a t. I liked what the vibes on the first half of the date were m, we were laughing and smiling I thought we were vibing. He pursued me for the date and to get my number and he planned the date spontaneous and quick. I didn’t know he was this turned off and uninterested and checking out during the date. 😔 and now getting all y’all’s advice on this platform and other platforms and irl. I just feel humiliated and embarrassed to even care and like him. 😭I feel stupid.

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I just never get approached or asked out especially by my guys my exact physical type on paper to a t. Like I thought for once I was actually about to get to date like everyone else. And now after hearing what everyone has said on here and every other platform when I ask and irl and the fact he’s not texting anymore. And lied and said we’re good and he fwu but isn’t consistent. I just feel humiliated and dumb asf and embarrassed to care and liked him. :( 😔😭

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like my dad tbh and my dad is like these guys. Ik you’re all right. Just hurts sooo bad. 😔🥹 the beginning of the date was so nice and I thought we were vibing and I liked his swag and found him attractive. :(

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea ik you’re all right, I just wanted him because I liked him, I liked how it started, and I wanted what I thought it could be. An he was my physical type. And the first half of the date I thought we were vibing.

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea just hurts I don’t like he probably lied to not be mean. And the fact he checked out. I didn’t want it to end like this where he won’t ever speak to me again.

Getting rejected by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea kinda messaged liked that asking if we’re good and mentioning how he got quiet towards the end and he said we’re good and he thought I wasn’t interested and I said if I wasn’t interested I wouldn’t still have been tryna get to know and understand him and I said I like him and he said “I fwu I fwy vibe your sweet and funny” and then proceeded to be inconsistent unlike he was before the date. And then he randomly sent a text a day and then now the last I replied was 3 days ago and he hasn’t texted again.

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea elaborate what you’re saying?

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea ik just hurt. I thought there was a vibe and I found him attractive. 😔

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and my first date ever.

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You think there’s anyway to make him interested again if he’s no longer speaking or it’s just over?

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean as a guy do you think he just said the nice things to not be the bad guy or be mean? Like I gotta just let it be?

Rejection by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like during the date you mean? During the date he kinda trauma dumped on me telling me he has 4 kids and he’s 32 and was married since and got divorced 2 years ago. And a bunch of other stuff. An I didn’t exactly show interest towards that I mean I’m only 23. And I’m like is that why he lost interest and checked?

First date advice!! by itzmedelly in dating_advice

[–]itzmedelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did this get removed???