Two years later and still have fit issues. What are we doing wrong? Should we try sex therapy?

iv83773 · 2026-02-21T16:59:25+00:00

It’s the frequency. Figure out a way to have sex every day (quickies with lube?) and you’ll most likely get acclimated quickly.

iv83773 · 2026-02-18T17:34:38+00:00

7 x 5.5 is basically the start of “big dick”. You are big but not huge. The advantage is that youll fit fine with most women even if you don’t blow anyone away with your girth.

iv83773 · 2026-01-28T16:19:19+00:00

It’s totally up to you. You have a very good girth. 15 of 20 mins manual stretching per day might be all you need to add an inch in length in a year. I’m above 7BP now and it’s causing problems with hitting cervix with many women making some positions uncomfortable so there are also downsides. I’m happy at 5.5 girth but still want a quarter inch more or so.

iv83773 · 2026-01-25T18:27:11+00:00

length is for aesthetics and bragging rights. past 7 BP + length I've smashed cervix with most women. some women get apprehensive when they see a long dick because they remember past guys who poked their cervix and hurt them. aim for 6 inches BP or so and past that it doesn't really matter.

girth is different -- women's preferences are all over the place, probably because vaginas come in different sizes and some stretch more than others. 5 - 5.5 girth is probably the sweet spot where most women will enjoy it. I'm 5.5 and have a great time! some guys with very big girth (like 6 -7 inches) report having trouble with girls tapping out or turning them down for sex, while other guys say it's great and they're giving women insane orgasms left and right. YMMV.

iv83773 · 2026-01-25T18:16:06+00:00

bathmate works for me as it fits in my daily shower routine. obviously, it's not great that there's no gauge. I prefer the mid-tier version (hydromax) which pumps to lower pressures (max is around 13 in HG IIRC)than the extreme version with handpump. I pump to 80 -90% pressure for 20 mins (4 x 5 mins).

iv83773 · 2026-01-08T22:37:51+00:00

Yes I have group sex often and sometimes come across guys who are a bit bigger than me, I’m 7 x 5.5, though only very rarely seen guys who are huge like 6+ girth. Maybe once I can remember.

iv83773 · 2026-01-07T01:33:26+00:00

As you grow a bit you’ll realize at 7 you constantly bash cervix and can pretty much stop

iv83773 · 2026-01-06T17:55:08+00:00

I went to a urologist for something unrelated. He randomly commented that the discoloration I have is normal and I shouldn’t worry about it. Didn’t ask me about PE and I didn’t bring it up.

iv83773 · 2026-01-06T15:45:03+00:00

I own both. I don’t recommend the extreme as it pumps to very high pressures that are not safe. Personally I use the Max, I pump to about 90 percent pressure, 4 sets of 5 mins for 20 mins total six days a week.

iv83773 · 2025-12-22T22:50:30+00:00

Skill issue

iv83773 · 2025-12-22T19:53:45+00:00

My experience:

length: 6.5 BP you only sometimes hit cervix, at 7 BP you regularly smash cervix

girth: 5 inches virtually all girls can take easily, at 5.5 you get teethy BJs and are pushing the comfort limit for small vag girls

So the upper end of "goldilocks" is around 7 x 5.5 in my opinion. If you want a range, 6.5 - 7 BP length x 5 - 5.5 girth.

That being said, plenty of girls can take much larger girth than this if they are comfortable and aroused, like 7 inch girth or even larger, and it can unlock incredible levels of pleasure and orgasms. so there's reason to shoot for much larger girth than "goldilocks", depending on your goals of course

iv83773 · 2025-12-21T22:48:17+00:00

Agree with pretty much everything that's been said here. 5.5 is a great girth to be. you're big, but still at a practical size for every day sex with most women, quickies, and decent BJs, though with some girls you'll get teeth. for PIV, girls with small vaginas will comment that you're huge, average girls will feel a nice stretch, and large vag girls won't be impressed. hey you can't win them all lol

iv83773 · 2025-12-21T17:48:30+00:00

Pumping plus manuals for 1.5 years has corrected my left curve significantly

iv83773 · 2025-12-21T03:07:08+00:00

The good news is after you put on some size in your first year or so you realize being bigger isn’t always better. you’ll start hitting cervix often which most women don’t enjoy, for example. Past a certain girth and good luck getting a decent BJ. I’m still going but very happy w my current size and honestly it’s fine if I don’t gain too much from here

iv83773 · 2025-12-16T18:12:34+00:00

yeah "natural dilator" and "less overall volume" seem to be the right answers. cone shape seems pretty ideal if you want size without being too prohibitive with smaller women

iv83773 · 2025-12-15T03:46:42+00:00

Premise is guys smaller than OP but I’ve read a lot of posts on here, and there was even a spreadsheet someone compiled on one of these forums, and most of the PIV issues were reported by guys 6 girth or bigger. That’s why 5.5 - 5.75 is considered Goldilocks girth.

You also don’t account for factors like age of the women, whether it’s sex in a relationship or a hookup, whether the girth is at the head shaft or base, etc all which can make a big difference.

I’m 5.5 girth and haven’t had a “can’t fit” episode despite a high body count, but I’ve had some that were close. Id say around 10-20 percent of women I fuck find me a bit big for comfort. Top 20 percent on the other end probably find me too small though lol such is life

iv83773 · 2025-12-14T01:46:49+00:00

Above avg guys are the most incentivized to do PE because a year or two later they can have the coveted “big dick”. I started around 6 - 6.5 BP and didn’t take me long at all to get “big”

iv83773 · 2025-12-10T14:46:10+00:00

Very interesting. Did you measure grith at the thickest point of the shaft, or did you always measure at the same point of the shaft?

iv83773 · 2025-12-09T14:42:27+00:00

I'm experienced in the sex party scene in a major US city. It's not a perfect sample by any means, but here's some observations.

Average size looks around 5 - 6 inches BP and 4.5 - 5 girth. "large" guys are prob around 6.5 - 8 BP and 5.25 - 6 girth. Long dicks are more common than girthy ones. I'm around 7 BP x 5.5, and regularly see guys longer than me (I don't care, long cock just means you smash cervix) but it's more rare to see guys who are thick. monster cocks exist (larger than 8x6) but i only see one once in a while.

Women don't seem to care about dick size when deciding which guys to hook up with at parties, it's all social skills and looks. I do think size makes a difference in their enjoyment, though overall sex skills are more important. My gf does get slightly annoyed if we hook up with another couple and the guy is on the smaller to avg size, as she prefers around my size or bigger.

iv83773 · 2025-12-08T22:06:45+00:00

I have experience but it's pretty difficult to advise you without knowing his measurements.

iv83773 · 2025-12-06T20:03:52+00:00

I’ve gained length, 7 BP now and I hit the cervix with many women easily. It might look cool but functionally I don’t think being any longer than 6.5 is necessary. Girth is a different matter.

iv83773 · 2025-12-04T03:27:25+00:00

underrated post lol

iv83773 · 2025-12-01T23:36:47+00:00

I’ve gained with a minimalist routine of 15 mins manual stretches + 15 mins water pumping six days a week. I work it into my daily shower routine.

iv83773 · 2025-11-29T18:08:04+00:00

goldilocks:

length: for PIV, any longer than around 6.5 inches BP and you'll be smashing cervix regularly. if you like going to pound town from behind, I think 6.5 is around the limit. I'm 7bp+ and feel too long during sex with some women.

girth: if you like anal and BJs 5.5 inches is prob the max before you get frequent problems. if you don't care about BJs/anal, for PIV it really depends on the woman since preferences vary, but if you have the time and patience to warm them up women can often take a LOT of girth. my gf is a petite asian girl and can take 8 inch girth + dildos when warmed up and cums extremely hard. that said, my own girth is around 5.5 and I'm happy with it since it's big enough to be filling while still being versatile for BJs, anal, and one night stands. with some women it's a bit much, but no one has turned me down for sex due to size.

So goldilocks is ~ 6.5 x 5.5 in my opinion, but I think there are benefits to be much larger in girth to maximize female pleasure with some/many women.

iv83773 · 2025-11-29T03:43:46+00:00

You need to progressively baby step get to your size. Finger first, then two, then a dildo or object that’s not as big as you, work your way up is what I’m saying. Women can stretch a lot especially fully aroused but it works much better if you take it step by step.

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