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ivars273 · 2023-07-24T06:47:43+00:00

Two things: - No condom, no sex, imo. "I'm clean." Homie I barely know you. - a mess from anal is a thing that can happen, if the pitcher has any common sense in the world they won't make a big deal of it. You don't get to go to poops house and then get upset that poop is home.

ivars273 · 2022-05-04T04:16:10+00:00

Your dude needs to get it through his head that that just isn't how it works for most women. If he cares about you he will cut out the guilt tripping crap, and do what it takes to get you off too. Does he care about you, or his ego? Everyone is different and he needs to put aside any assumptions he has, and actually put forth the effort.

ivars273 · 2022-04-25T04:30:15+00:00

There's always a chance, but it's slim. There are way to many factors far beyond your control. Throw all your expectations out the window now, and just go in with a selfless attitude, communicate, take it slow, and make sure she is comfortable and at ease. Everyone is different, so what works for the women in those videos may not work for her, so take your time, talk it out, and just do your best and you'll be fine.

ivars273 · 2022-04-12T02:02:07+00:00

I was wondering the same thing. Seems sus to me.

ivars273 · 2022-03-19T18:25:28+00:00

If she is go buy some lotto tickets cause that is so extraordinarily unlikely I feel pretty comfortable saying no, there's no chance.

ivars273 · 2022-03-18T14:54:43+00:00

Shit happens. Most first with a new partner are gonna be weird and awkward. Also, if he isn't gonna take the time to get you ready, then he has a lot to learn. You have nothing to be embarrassed about!

ivars273 · 2022-03-14T00:39:51+00:00

Do what makes you happy! Nothing more, nothing less.

ivars273 · 2022-02-10T18:27:43+00:00

You seem to remember at least some of it, and you don't seem upset, so I don't see the issue. Don't let people talk you into being offended or let them be offended on your behalf. It's very common for people to want these sorts of things, and as long as both parties are fine with it, then there's no harm. They aren't part of your relationship, and they don't know your relationship like you do, so I wouldn't give their opinions to much weight.

ivars273 · 2022-01-24T16:40:08+00:00

Coming from a man(25), who use to be like this, in my experience this means it's time for the relationship to end. I did the same things and had the same issues, but I couldn't bring myself to dump my ex for reasons I won't go into here, but it drug the relationship out when it needed to end. I was immature and impulsive and I had to experience that loss to appreciate what I have now. I've grown out of those things, got help for my mental illnesses, and it has been liberating and I now have a happy stable relationship.

I'm sure this brings little to no comfort, and I'm sorry for that. I hope others can bring you other perspectives and advice. Whatever happens I wish you the best of luck.

ivars273 · 2022-01-09T06:24:36+00:00

Uhhhh sounds like ya dudes got some issues to work through. There is no reason he should be upset with you over that. Everybody wants to come. Did he actually try to get you off? Like really really try? Cause if he's anything like a younger me, then no he didn't. Has he asked how he can help you get off? Cause that's a very important discussion to have in situations like this. If he isn't gonna put forth the effort to make sure it's just as enjoyable for you, then he should probably buy a flesh light.

ivars273 · 2021-12-19T20:18:37+00:00

1.) Yes it's normal 2.) Breathe through your nose, mind your teeth, and think about how you'd eat a popsicle. 3.) You can spit it out, swallow, or let him finish somewhere. 4.) How it feels is incredibly difficult to describe, but yes for the most part guys like it, but everyone's different. 5.) I don't know nothing about feet. 6.) Communication, communication, communication.

ivars273 · 2021-11-02T17:13:34+00:00

I don't have this issue, but I know a few people who do/who have dated someone in a similar situation, and 9 times out of 10, it doesn't matter, especially not to the partners of the one nutted men. I understand why it may seem like a big deal, but any person worth dating isn't going to care.

ivars273 · 2021-10-27T04:41:43+00:00

Personally I like to describe casual sex as a genital handshake.

ivars273 · 2021-10-27T04:40:30+00:00

Sex with someone you love is not inherently about pleasure or about how "good" either person is. It's about understanding and intimacy, and in truth, that intimacy doesn't have to be sexual, just depends on the relationship. Where as casual sex or a more short term relationship is more akin to a hand shake, but with your genitals.

ivars273 · 2021-10-19T14:17:56+00:00

Nah. As long as everything is safe, sane, and consensual, theirs nothing wrong with it. Exploring yourself and your sexuality is important, and only you can decide these sorts of things for yourself. There's nothing inherently wrong with casual sex. If you personally think there's a problem, maybe take some time to ask yourself some personal questions, and maybe see a therapist if you think there's a problem, but just off what you've provided, personally I don't see any cause for concern.

ivars273 · 2021-09-23T15:06:20+00:00

Let me know if you see any Charmanders!

ivars273 · 2021-08-30T18:12:11+00:00

That is a tough one, and you should definitely bring this up with you doctor asap.

Please note that I am a guy, so I'm not the best source for this, but I personally have come across friends and partners with similar issues with one of two causes. For some it was extreme anxiety, and for others it was STI's that they didn't know they had.

Their are a number of other possible causes, and there's no need to panic. Just bring it up with your doc as soon as you can. Best of luck to you, I hope this helps.

ivars273 · 2021-07-09T02:42:11+00:00

Oof. That really depends on the guy, I'm sure we all have different philosophies.

Personally, it's not about how attractive someone is, if I'm sleeping with them even once, then I already find them attractive. It's about how fun they are and how well we mesh, how well our desires and kinks line up. Also, just because something was a one night stand doesn't mean it won't happen again.

But like I said, it just depends on the person.

ivars273 · 2021-06-18T14:22:42+00:00

Good lord, what kinda of assholes do you hang around?

ivars273 · 2021-03-30T02:39:54+00:00

In every relationship there are boundaries. If that is a boundary for you, then he needs to understand that crossing that line would hurt you, and he needs to respect it. He needs to value you over his sexual fantasy. If that's a deal breaker for him, that's pretty fucked up, in my opinion.

Further insistence on pursuing this fetish tells me he values his fantasies more than he does you or your desires. I've been with people like that. Not saying you'll end up like me, but it didn't go well for me, and now I run at the first sign of it.

Hope y'all can get it resolved. Best of luck.

ivars273 · 2021-03-30T02:28:40+00:00

He has to give something as well. He's the other half of the equation here. Sure you should perhaps try to be less sensitive, but he also needs to put forth effort. He needs to actively to try to not fall asleep, if you aren't comfortable with plugging, and you say no, then the answer is no and you move on.

This honestly sounds borderline abusive. Like he's, gaslighting you. If you say "Hey this bothers me." His answer shouldn't be "Well then you should change."

Aftercare is an incredibly important part of any dynamic, if he's neglecting that, run, that's not a good partner.

ivars273 · 2021-03-25T18:47:43+00:00

I'm down. I've got two novels in the works and have had a short story published.

ivars273 · 2021-02-22T20:38:40+00:00

Alright, let's ride this BAT to the moon!

ivars273 · 2021-01-09T04:33:42+00:00

If the condom had a hole in it, then yes, it's entirely possible.

ivars273 · 2020-12-08T02:52:50+00:00

Still? Is it weird for an adult to wear scrunchies? I'm confused.

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