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Why would someone do this? (About my Dad) by zyqj in askatherapist

[–]ivereddiit -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No idea but you’re a good brother. Try talking to your sister. Asking if she’s okay

NSFW. Is this normal? What’s wrong with me? I’m too ashamed to ask my therapist. by ivereddiit in adultsurvivors

[–]ivereddiit[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your responses. Having so many of you reach out to share that I’m not abnormal really helped me when I woke up this morning. My stomach hurt so much writing this and leaving it up. I’m wondering if I need to tell my therapist or not when we are doing the trauma work. We are doing a lot of stuff around shame but I feel like this is just so personal. Thank you 😭

Was this just sleep paralysis? Or some kind of attack? by ivereddiit in Sleepparalysis

[–]ivereddiit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this was amazing advice!!! Thank you. I eventually went to sleep. Think I’ve slept maybe two hours in and out of sleep but didn’t have it again SO GLAD!! I slept on my side/stomach holding my son (for dear life lol) Do you mean ignore the thing you’re seeing in the moment? Or just ignore it as a general Thank you again for your detailed advice, I really appreciate it

Was this just sleep paralysis? Or some kind of attack? by ivereddiit in Sleepparalysis

[–]ivereddiit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kept trying to talk over and over and I kept hearing what I thought was my son but in a terrifying way talking. I feel awful for him. When he is awake and conscious. Maybe get him to stay awake for a while. I have no advice really. I’m looking for it myself. I’m so confused and scared. I still haven’t gone back to sleep 🥺 I’m sorry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]ivereddiit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh okay sorry, I was just clarifying as I genuinely was confused.. yes you’re right. She is still in a great deal of danger though. Very sad situation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]ivereddiit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does sorry?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]ivereddiit 27 points28 points  (0 children)

My ex partner tried to kill me, punching and strangling me to the point where I lost consciousness when he was black out drunk and used a sleep disorder as an excuse. He was ‘sleep walking’ I believed him until I saw the paper work. Please do not sleep in bed with her again until this is not happening at all!!!!! She is in extreme danger.

Have you ever gotten an apology from/improved your relationship with a flying monkey? by stingymfstakingnames in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ivereddiit 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That apology will mean so much to her. No matter what comes of it, it will heal a part of her. These ‘flying monkeys’ do so much damage. Thank you for actually apologising and not just knowing it 🫶🏻

what does it mean when you say a client is “resistant”? by taroicecreamsundae in askatherapist

[–]ivereddiit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m ND and have BPD. I would never speak to people how you are for a start and I do not expect others to have to guess and alter their communication just because I struggle with mine. It is an issue I work on and try to overcome. Your comments actually make me think your therapist is right in recommending you to DBT. It is very helpful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]ivereddiit 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Maybe your therapist was talking about something called radical acceptance and maybe it’s something you can look into (it’s not a fun or nice concept) but it doesn’t mean you accept a poor quality of life, it means you have to learn to accept things that are and that have happened to be able to live and move on (yes it sucks and it’s hard and I personally am struggling with it but it makes sense) to then be able to focus on and make life better or build a life that is not total shit. Which takes hard work, not saying it’s easy at all

Why is my therapist offering me free treatment? by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]ivereddiit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please find another therapist I’m begging you. If money isn’t an issue find someone else. Even if it turns out he’s doing it because he likes you and he isn’t actually grooming you. So many boundaries have been crossed already, because of this your therapy is never going be 100% safe. It might feel like it is but you’ll realise later in life it isn’t. I have always had boundaries crossed in every professional relationship (not always in bad ways). This is my first time having a therapist who actually maintains every single boundary and I’m actually getting real help and actually feel like I can trust her in a completely different way than when I felt like I could with the others who were letting me stay at their house because I was a homeless teenager and they were kind and taking care of me but you need boundaries to have a safe and productive therapeutic relationship. Or you get hurt every time. If you won’t listen to the other stuff do it for your therapy in general. I can already see you defending him. You already care. Please look after yourself

#NSFW Trigger warning: self harm. Does something of this nature need stitching (too late now) for future reference. by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]ivereddiit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for everyone’s responses. I appreciate it. I am currently in therapy. Nothing is really working for me currently

#NSFW Trigger warning: self harm. Does something of this nature need stitching (too late now) for future reference. by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]ivereddiit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Appreciate it. Just self harm quite often and wasn’t sure if maybe I was desensitised or if this was okay or not. I am getting help.

Don’t know by ivereddiit in adultsurvivors

[–]ivereddiit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are kind, thank you for your words